How to train?

[Deleted Member]

So basically i have been trying to look for a domme who could kind of guide me and help me explore my submissive side more in depth but no luck so far 😂 i was wondering if it's possible to do it on my own? If yes how can i?

[ey****]

it depends on what you mean

like chances are the reason you are struggling is that you end up approaching strangers to ask for you to explore sexually - but still

there's a few things I know that many subs do through their own initiative

1) further educate and take time to learn about kink/fetish/BDSM/etc and the type of relationship you'd want and how this could be appealing for another person

2) there's assorted types of self play that can be done - anal training can be done solo, ditto for sounding.   Self CBT is popular also.

3) look for kink demos, workshops and discussion groups - attend these

4) Look for more selfless acts you can do.  Perhaps donate time to volunteer at a charity. 

[Bl****]

A submissive nature is born in you. When you are in front of a woman or man who is dominant, do you lower your eyes? Start addressing them as "sir" or "ma'am?" When someone is in trouble, do you run away or help? Just think about how you treat people. It starts there, I think.

[no****]

Get your wallet out and pay for it

[La****]

The question is, are you wanting someone to guide you through discussion? Or are you wanting someone to teach you in person? It’s easier imo to start with the former because the latter requires some trust. I don’t recommend giving someone you don’t know well that kind of power over you. If you’re interested in knowing more, send me a message.

[Si****]

21 hours ago, nottingham291 said:

Get your wallet out and pay for it

This is the kind of s**t that attracts prostitutes to this site. Paying for sex is like buying bottled water, it’s perfectly free elsewhere, you just gotta find it from a clean source

[ey****]

6 hours ago, SitOnMyFacePlz916 said:

This is the kind of s**t that attracts prostitutes to this site. Paying for sex is like buying bottled water, it’s perfectly free elsewhere, you just gotta find it from a clean source

I mean...

1) this site has very strict rules about 'for pay' arrangements and users who come with that in mind get very quickly removed

2) He didn't actually mention wanting actual sex - but to 'explore submissive side' which while still a form of sexual experimentation in many cases - the two are quite different

3) There's nothing particularly 'unclean' about prostitution and comments like that play into prejudice.   In fact, anyone doing sex work has to do regular sexual health screenings, something which most people who look for any form of hook up don't actually do themselves.

4) But, yes, you can find someone 'for free' but that isn't going to be possible if most folk don't see how helping the latest stranger with their fetishes and fantasies is, of any way, of benefit to them

[re****]

Find a local dungeon and take classes. Read books on kink, watch education kink videos

[Bl****]

Be respectful, honest, on time, no drama, clean, and that is how you start. Never participate in misogynistic talk and always honor the women in your life. The perfect start.