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[co****]

What is the best way to find a Mistress or Domme irl? Been trying to find someone to take control and teach me the ropes and have had no luck. I’m young, decent looking, and very willing. What do I need to do?

[Mr_Rune]

A few ways to approach this . Through online , munchies, events and here. You then have to be what that domme is looking for. Just because you're a sub does not mean they want you to serve. You have to treat people normally with respect it helps a lot . I've been in kink for over 15 years. Not easy to find the right but worth it when you do. Good luck

[dr****]

I would try online first get given tasks and see how you go from there. There are some great professional Dommes who you could have regular sessions then you can find out what your hard limits are might then be easier to find someone who is suitable. I find a lot of people think or want to be dominant but really are not

[ey****]

So - firstly - no one is going to whisk you away to teach you all the secrets of the world.   If you first accept that - it's easier to move from.

the easiest way to find people in real life is to go where they go.  seek out munches and fetish events and turn up - and - bam - amongst the people there there will be Dommes and Mistresses.

However, if you then go "Hello, I'm the latest sub guy - help me experiment sexually" they're going to go "lol, no" - and while I'm paraphrasing - this is how so many guys come across in not so many words.

But still - go to the munches and events, meet people, and learn about the lifestyle through other people.  You can also do this on the forums and online.  As you do this, you can grow and meet people and especially if you are active there becomes a chance to try different things.

[Lo****]

First and Foremost- Get off this App and try a different one

[ey****]

4 hours ago, LookingFor***Fun said:

First and Foremost- Get off this App and try a different one

they don't have Mistresses willing to drop everything to help the latest newbie experiment sexually either 

[pi****]

Wow, these are mostly snotty, shitty answers. Except for the first one, somewhat helpful

[no****]

Pay for it

[Zi****]

You can read up on it, there are classes, or just find one on this or another app and ask for guidance. If you got any questions I'll do my best to answer them.

[Deleted Member]

Definetly have to agree, mostly snotty, shitty answers.. That transpires from the division of society.

[Mr****]

Just want to meet someone that likes what I like

[bx****]

Dating intelligent older women naturally most of those things that happen

[Dh****]

Finding a mistress is extremely difficult. 10 years and no luck

[Yu****]

The key is trust. It’s really difficult to find someone who is directly ready to be your misstress. Many young women don’t deal with their own dominance cause they learned to be totally different. You really need a good knowledge of human nature to find a girl who is probably ready to commit onself to this.
What i want to say with this is: women who are comfortable with their kinks and domiance do mostly have enough subs or enough who are interested to be. So it’s pretty hard to find a mistress with enough space and energy. It’s way more easier to come out with your interest by a girl you like anyway. It’s way more easier for us to explore our interests with someone we really trust and like. So be open and tell us what you want.

[Lo****]

Communication is the key in this LS

[Pa****]

I think it's damn hard talking on here people rarely open up. Never mind find a mistress

[MisstressStorm]

Most Dominas are sick of the arrogance of ‘subs’ rocking up expecting a free Kink Dispenser. Usually starting with I Want …. Or demanding to see Your Kink CV. Educate yourself in the protocol of a good sub. Don’t expect a Domme to spoon feed you knowledge.
What I’m looking for is a sub that has that spark and willpower to submit, unselfishly, not expecting sexual gain from doing Tasks for Mistress ⛈