Help Communicating

[Re****]

Any ideas? I’m terrible at talking dirty. My girl wants me to degrade and be dominant and I don’t think I truly understand what she’s wanting from me. Plus I feel so awkward in it. Physically I can be rough that’s easy, but there no moan in me
Or any type of dirty talk ever lol

[bu****]

Start slow with anything that feels natural. Something as simple as "do you like that?" Or "that's the right spot, isn't it?" It doesn't have to be filthy right out the gate. Also have that convo with her! "Hey I wanna try and give you what you want but it doesn't come naturally to me YET, so please be patient" also I'd ask her during aftercare, which did you like, did any of these phrases get you going, etc.

[Deleted Member]

Sounds like she wants u to call her a slut or whore things like that

[Ba****]

I'd suggest asking her exactly what she wants. Talking with her will give you an idea of where to start. Maybe even 'practicing' outside of a scene, like around your home, if everyone around if comfortable with it.

[Deleted Member]

It’s is awkward, it takes a “type A” personality

[loveallfeet]

I have a hard time with dirty talk as well. My go to is always calling her my cum slut. Seems to do the trick and I really only have to say it once or twice :)

[tw****]

If you are unsure what she wants there is one way to find out. Ask her. Also there is no shame in telling her that you feel awkward in talking dirty to her. Take it step by step to maybe try it out but most importantly you should have a conversation. Lay it all out on the table and look for a way that meets both of your needs to create a safe space.

[Le****]

Well do u think about thoughts like dam this girl is a slut or dam I wanna see it running down her face

[Deleted Member]

Listen to some erotic audio. This may seem like bs, but that’s how I discovered it. But be careful what curse/slurs your using. Some people like to be called bitch but not slut. But some like to be called slut not bitch. I hope you found this helpful.

[de****]

Yea super easy

[Deleted Member]

Dirty talk is generally being comfortable saying things you normally don’t.

Degrading goes hand in hand with the feeling of shame, so best way is to talk to your girlfriend how she likes to feel in that role and what is in her opinion humiliating. When you figure out her motivation behind it, you will understand what to say.

Feel free to practice beforehand, so that you find the tight tone. But do not overplay it and be yourself during it, believe in what you are saying, then it will play out best.

[de****]

Call her a dirty whore & a hot little slut

[Ch****]

Try going through some phrases with her in a non sexual place, the kitchen table etc, laugh about it, joke, try them out for size. See what she likes and what she doesn’t like.

You never know, you might be fucking over the table by the end of the conversation.

[ey****]

dirty talk can take a lot of time to get used to if it's not something you've been used to doing

it is probably going to involve a lot of trial and error

you can start by asking if she has anything she particularly might want to be said - and also - anything she particularly does NOT want to be said.

From there, like, try it - and after play see how she felt about what you said - what worked, what didn't

Don't take a bunch of word suggestions from strangers who don't know either of you - vibe what you think works with you both.  

[Si****]

Spontaneously use her. Pull her hair and call her your dirty little w***e, slut, f**k toy, whatever. When you finish smack her on the ass and walk away. Leave her dirty.

[ma****]

I'd suggest that you ask her. Maybe there are certain words or phrases that she would love or maybe she likes certain acts (such as liking your shoes) or maybe she wants you to be humiliate her in front of others. *** and *** are diferrent and they might see different by each person. For example, I see *** as something that makes someone to feel less than a human and like they do not need any human dignity. However, *** is more to do with making someone to feel embarrased.

In my case, *** is a hard limit. *** might be accepted only with a mixture of praise (for example: "aren't you a good slut?" or "you're such a good little slut" etc).

The best way to find out is to communicate with her.

[Sw****]

It took me some time to be able to do that as well but when did my late wife loved it when I called her a dirty little slut and a dirty w***e......but everyone is different when it comes to being called dirty names. When we started getting into the Daddy Dom and little girl scene she loved it even more

[co****]

The key is communication, talk to her learn what she expects. Don't rush anything, take your time. Say what you feel comfortable saying and build upon that. If you want to yank her hair or smack her bottom and go from. Call her names, forcibly direct her

[Deleted Member]

Kink is not a guessing game. She has an idea what she wants. And clear communication is key to success here. Ask her for examples. Or to show you what porn or story or other adult content showed her she wanted this. There is often a trigger. I knew I liked tying women up cause. I saw it in a movie when I was 11 and it made me feel very funny down there. Ask. Communicate. Be open and respectful. And she should be as well. If you can’t get over this hang up on dirty talking. It might be a hard limit for you and she should respect that. But then it also means she’s got an unmet need. And thus clearly communicating each other’s wants. Limits. Consequences of not getting a need met. All of that needs to be openly discussed. Good luck fellow kinkster. 😁

[ts****]

Just treat her like a slut and man handle her in the bedroom

[no****]

Maybe you're not the guy for her

[Da****]

Talk to her before you use words like slut, whore, cunt, anything that can be taken wrong by someone outside the dynamic...Make sure that she knows that they are possessive as in " you are MY slut" not you think she is a slut with everyone else.. Then get her a collar that says slut or whore or cunt that she wears during play... ask what she is and her response should be...I am YOUR ( whatever her collar say)...

[se****]

It's always good for something different especially talking to your women while you are doing whatever I would just try looking up on more porn sites to get kinky ideas just my opinion

[g0****]

I agree with everyone who has said to ask her. Or start small. Call her your dirty girl. Emphasize the possessive. Let her know she’s yours. I personally love to be called a slut, whore, anything for my doms pleasure only. I’ll be his anything. He can call me whatever during play. It’s more how he says it-low and growly and sexy. Or the moves he makes when he says it too. Like having his hand on my throat and choking me a little or pinching my nipple or thrusting deep.

[Mz****]

Start slowly. Try to do dirty talk in her ear first so you are not feeling embarrassed with her looking at you. While your having sex lean in and tell her she is a dirty little slut. Then add in things like do you want to cum now whore and make her beg for it. It is also easy to do when she is ass up and not facing you. Just some helpful tips.