Orally unresponsive????

[0u****]

To begin, yes I can climax from receiving oral. Some times within minutes from past partners. Normally it's a long process though. I actually worries me as it could be discouraging to the person preforming it. I've always had good stamina though when a partner wants to give me a present... I feel it may effect them negatively if it takes to long (however long that is) or I don't climax.
Actual intercourse I've always done edging. Me and my partner. Love it. Could years of this desensitized me to oral?
Quick for me is 5 to 10 minutes. Average is 20. Getting to the half hour mark I can soften up. If everyone could last under 10 max I'd be happy. Waiting a week or so no sex or maturation can help but not always practical. I've gone with out longer and went forever. Gone without less time and wham... couple minutes and the coating applied.
Women and men, what have you experienced like this and what can help?

[Re****]

Through my experience, I’ve done edging, with just myself, for a considerable amount of years as a standard practice, as such I had built up a small desensitization, where u can still feel but it takes a while to “get there” I used to go hours and would just let my partner get off and be fine. But a good way I found to recollect the sensation is to put a halt on edging. I’ve seemed to redevelop the sense again and I don’t take as long anymore. In fact the time it takes has been going down if I don’t hold back. Hope this answers questions 😅

[Pl****]

I'm a guy that doesn't climax easily. Never have. Nobody has ever gotten me off on the first try, and managing expectations is something that I constantly have to think about, because I've had women have all sorts of negative ideas and emotions as a result. I don't even let women try the first night, because even if I explain it, they think it's a line, or that they'll prove me wrong, etc. 

Before I let a girl try, I try to impart the mentality that it's a journey, not a destination. They won't succeed the first time, but if they're willing to make the effort, they can get there some day. Until that happens, I want them to know that I'll still enjoy it, and it means a lot to me that they want to and are willing to try. If they've made that goal, I try to encourage them to enjoy the act itself in the meantime, outside of just the payoff at the end. There are no expectations to worry about, so they should just have fun and it will just be that much sweeter if they succeed. 

As far as actually reaching climax more easily, foreplay isn't just for women, and it's not just something you do right before the act (though that's great too). Try to build anticipation with your partner throughout the day. Spend some time kissing and touching each other beforehand. Maybe include a hot shower together or a massage. Maybe even get her off a few times first. And of course, communication helps, so make sure you let her know what you like. 

[Deleted Member]

My man said almost word 4 word thank you for sharing...it still gets to me at times but have to constantly remind myself that he said it matters more to him that I am taken care of that that makes him more fufilled at times than him getting there. But us women...theres nothing worse than feeling you don't do it for him and wondering why which I know thatsnot the case but still feel it here and there

[Deleted Member]

As a female, if I am ask to give oral I feel like I am either  expected to make you come or get you hard enough to do the next part of the scene. I know I feel bad when I can not make my guy cum if orally is all he wanted because it makes me feel like I failed. However, if I am told it is hard you to come orally and that you plan to move to the next item and just using it as foreplay, I am going down and I will get my guy hard that he is ready to do the next step. It is just communication and like others say do not do oral at least for the right time because you will get challenged and then it can result in the girl feeling like failure. We want to please our partners and if we think we are good at something we will test it, as a responsible partner you should not let us challenge ourselves especially if you know we will fail.

[Lo****]

Thank you so much for sharing this it’s very helpful. I would add that perhaps using other forms of foreplay before arriving to the yummy time. Caressing, tantalizing conversation, and even before meeting to create that pleasure delaying.. just a thought.

[Deleted Member]

I have the same problem I usually just tell them up front he has a mind of his own and he decides what he wants I have no control lol I make sure they know I'm a problem and if they wanna try and fix it be my guest but don't be discouraged when it takes time I just chalk it up to my Sadist side 🤣

[Zi****]

Pretty much takes deep throating to get me off. Only 1 woman has gotten me to blow without doing that. So just be upfront about it to avoid hurting their ego and feelings.