Deleted Member Posted July 9, 2022 Posted July 9, 2022 2 hours ago, steadfast said: Yes an older man is often the very best person to teach them what it is all about. If you were learning to drive would you want an instructor with 30 years experience or someone who had only just learned themselves? Also, that's like saying the best doctor is the oldest. Well actually, knowledge dissemination peaks somewhere in the middle... a postgraduate has access to the most current research and methods, yes they need a decade of experience to get the hands on experience, bur a younger practitioner with experience is often very qualified. My mums old GP is a perfect example. She had an undiagnosed cancer for three years because he kept telling her that the abdominal *** she was experiencing was anxiety. When she moved a younger doctor immediately referred her and she was diagnosed. People can get stuck in outdated practices... in all areas of life.
st**** Posted July 9, 2022 Posted July 9, 2022 Actually you are twisting my meanings somewhat. I don't work with anyone younger than 26 that is my limit. I don't move them away from their community in fact most of my girls also have regular vanilla partners and 2 of them are married. I have also noticed that younger men are far more predatory and care less about their subs. Obviously a generalisation but I stand by it. Lastly I never have sex with younger subs and our sessions together are purely about submission and punishment.
ey**** Posted July 9, 2022 Posted July 9, 2022 I think to tie my points a bit SWPhoenix has said a lot I would also - that, not everyone is older is necessarily more experienced and also that a lot of ideas change. A lot of ideas around what we do in Dominance, submission, etc. have been shaped over time and so a lot of people have ideas linked to their age and community and there are a lot of people who are stuck in older ideas of how things are (or should be) not, of course that there's anything wrong with having a system that works for you - but it might not be the right one for someone else. Giving the example of driving. There's very few things change with driving rules and laws over the years - but - by a kinda law of average an older driver is more likely to have had more points on their license and been involved in more accidents. Ultimately; I don't have problems with any age gap relationships but as has been said elsewhere there's still a lot of developing going on until someone's mid 20s and particularly in terms of BDSM anyone in the younger end has to be considered as being *** - not even necessarily to a predator or ***r or anything like that - but also to their own naivety - and subsequent regret. Anyone genuinely experienced should know that. And of course it's all on a case by case basis. And, yep, ***rs, predators, etc can be any age - but I've seen the "Scene Elder 'helping' new girls" trope one too many times.
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