Deleted Member Posted July 7, 2022 Posted July 7, 2022 Hi all, I am rather new to the site, although I have been on and off for years. As I am now staring separation in the face, I got to thinking.... Are there any couples who share their fetishes in a marriage ? Is it possible to find a partner who embraces your kinks ? Let me know if you have and how you found each other. Cheers
typhoon2 Posted July 8, 2022 Posted July 8, 2022 The most successful method is to corrupt vanillas. Introduce them to kink and see if they embrace it. Finding kinksters who also tick all the other boxes of relationship life is more difficult than the reverse. I've done it a number of times.
Deleted Member Posted July 8, 2022 Author Posted July 8, 2022 We started off as vanilla but gradually became more open with each other about our fantasies and kinks. The way we work it is that day to day is normal life but he uses a different name for me when it comes to kink. Then I take on the role of his sub and that's helped lots because when I'm playing that role, I'm no longer his wife or mother of his kids and he is not my husband, he becomes my Dom. It's basically just role play and it helps us to separate our kink life from day to day real life where there is D/s.
TxFrank Posted July 8, 2022 Posted July 8, 2022 I've been fortunate and found a kinky partner twice. The first was my late wife on Collarme.com in 2011. We had 10 years of kinky love. Then I recently met an amazing lady here. The trick is be honest, never settle for vanilla. You hear all the naysayers but honestly, I've met several ppl lately and were having lots of fun.
Deleted Member Posted July 8, 2022 Author Posted July 8, 2022 Hi all, thank you for the replies. Yes, I agree that there are many fakes and scammers about, but we can eventually spot them a mile away. I find it amazing that couples can share their kinks, my wife and I are separating - not due to this - but as we have grown apart. She is 💯 % vanilla but did try her best to accommodate. This was the reason for my question. Should I try and find a new partner who embraces it or try convert someone again. Cheers
ey**** Posted July 8, 2022 Posted July 8, 2022 On 7/7/2022 at 10:35 PM, LateXXXlover2022 said: Are there any couples who share their fetishes in a marriage ? yes. many. On 7/7/2022 at 10:35 PM, LateXXXlover2022 said: Is it possible to find a partner who embraces your kinks ? yep On 7/7/2022 at 10:35 PM, LateXXXlover2022 said: Let me know if you have and how you found each other. I'm going to say that up until recent years all of my partners came from "vanilla" circles and all were people that I did, at some point, talk about kink and fetishes with For the best part, mind, for the best part most of my interest was foot fetish/worship (every single partner was happy to enjoy this, although one did not like her soles touched) but only really my first wife indulged in splosh, even if others did *at least* try. There's a lot myself and current wife have discussed and tried kink wise and we have a lot of overlap and stuff that isn't for one or the other of us - our relationship is general a "normal" relationship, we just both happen to be kinky. There are, of course, some fetishes we each have that the other doesn't really share - and in some cases we *can't* do it for the other - but then we also have a structure and trust to play outside of the relationship.
sl**** Posted July 9, 2022 Posted July 9, 2022 I randomly found my partner on fetlife. He responded to an ad I posted there and it just so happens that our kinks align so well that it's a little overwhelming. My previous relationships were all vanilla or just not compatible so I felt very repressed. For the first time I feel like I can really be myself.
Happle1018 Posted July 19, 2022 Posted July 19, 2022 I’m sorry about your separation I’ve been with my husband since we were in high school in 2007 and we’ve had the luck of growing together instead of growing apart ideally, we’ve been talking about kink for a few years off and on. We’ve bought a paddle, a spreader bar… nothing too crazy but we like the idea of “more” so came here searching where to start. I will say that is IS possible to have someone to share this experience with. both of us are interested in what else is out there and, from what little I’ve seen on here, i guess we’re categorized as “switch”es because neither of us are full dom or sub. We like to take control as much as well enjoy giving control. it could be because we’ve grown up together or it could be just fate that we’re both so alike but, at least for us, it IS possible to be able to share that experience together and be on the same wave length. I hope you are able to find someone to share that connection with one day
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