Guys, It’s ok to be angry. Just put it where it belongs

[ge****]

4 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

It's only ever about cake.
Or icecream
Or icecream and cake
What can I say 🤷‍♀️

Could always combine and go for an Arctic Roll (no euphemisms were harmed in the making of this post 😄)

[CopperKnob]

3 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

Could always combine and go for an Arctic Roll (no euphemisms were harmed in the making of this post 😄)

If we're moving onto euphemisms, I've got aubergine 🍆🍆parmigiana for tea tonight (yes tea, not dinner)

[ge****]

2 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

If we're moving onto euphemisms, I've got aubergine 🍆🍆parmigiana for tea tonight (yes tea, not dinner)

Of course it's tea - it's only dinner if you go out for it or served at lunchtime on a Sunday 😁
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Aubergine parmigiana huh? Cheesy cock in other words or at least euphemistically speaking 🤣😂

[CopperKnob]

4 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

Of course it's tea - it's only dinner if you go out for it or served at lunchtime on a Sunday 😁
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Aubergine parmigiana huh? Cheesy cock in other words or at least euphemistically speaking 🤣😂

Well now I'm not fancying my tea am I? Who likes cheesy cock? 🤢

[ge****]

10 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

Well now I'm not fancying my tea am I? Who likes cheesy cock? 🤢

Oops...😄🤣

Did I say cheesy cock? Silly me I meant finely cooked and tasty aubergine flowing with molten parmigiana that tantalises and excites the taste buds....

...better? 😊

[CopperKnob]

6 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

Oops...😄🤣

Did I say cheesy cock? Silly me I meant finely cooked and tasty aubergine flowing with molten parmigiana that tantalises and excites the taste buds....

...better? 😊

It's in the bin. It's fine, I'll make do with a fish finger sandwich

[CopperKnob]

1 minute ago, CopperKnob said:

It's in the bin. It's fine, I'll make do with a fish finger sandwich

FFS, I did not think that through on a kink site

[ge****]

7 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

It's in the bin. It's fine, I'll make do with a fish finger sandwich

Oh now you're talking even though you're at it with the euphemisms

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1 hour ago, gemini_man said:

OK let's turn this around a little shall we - how do you suggest women should be have to protect themselves from the very real, and daily occurring potential for abusive messages, messages that detail what is going to be "done to them", protect themselves from the myriad of situations where they're made to feel uncomfortable by *some* men (and a large enough proportion to make it significant).
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How do you propose they avoid having to walk back to their car with their car keys between their fingers just in case those footsteps behind them belong to a potential attacker and not someone out walking their dog?
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How do you propose they should behave in order not to have the creep in the office, or on public transport leering down their top?
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All of those are very real and regular situations that happen often and are part of the reason why women do seek to protect themselves, and posts like the OP do happen.
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I'm not seeking to be provocative here or shoot you down, I'm genuinely interested in your solution as to how women can help themselves avoid those situations.
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And remember when answering we're talking about the "potential" for those things to happen - no-one is saying they will happen every time or by *all* men - but women have no way or knowing which men are likely to be the wrong sort, so until a level of trust has been built they have no choice but to see the "potential" for harm or feeling uncomfortable and it *is* undeniably because of the actions of a significant number of *some* men that they feel that way, which was the point of the OP in the first place.
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So how would you bring about a world where no-one regardless of gender has to feel the way most women do on a daily basis to a greater or lesser degree?

I would suggest this - grow a spine. 

[CopperKnob]

7 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

Oh now you're talking even though you're at it with the euphemisms

You know, you'd do well as a weight loss coach. Think of the weight lost everytime you commented your lewd crude rude thoughts about the meal plan

[ge****]

2 minutes ago, wicklowdom said:

I would suggest this - grow a spine. 

Well thank you for that most helpful and informative answer I shall take it into consideration - most grateful, cheers, chin chin 👍🏻😊

[ge****]

2 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

You know, you'd do well as a weight loss coach. Think of the weight lost everytime you commented your lewd crude rude thoughts about the meal plan

Ooohh I could be a YouTuber or make ClickClocks 🤪

[CopperKnob]

13 minutes ago, wicklowdom said:

I would suggest this - grow a spine. 

Why start with the rude childishness again again?
If you think that this level of maturity is going to make others sit up and think "you know what, this guy, he's absolutely right, such a valid point which I need to reflect on" I honestly don't know what to say to you

[Ar****]

20 hours ago, Lockfairy said:

Cheesecake too?

I've just discovered that I apparently I had two, there was a lemon and mascarpone one lurking under the New Yorker 👀

[Lo****]

Just now, Aranhis said:

I've just discovered that I apparently I had two, there was a lemon and mascarpone one lurking under the New Yorker 👀

So … um … where do you live?

[Go****]

On 7/8/2022 at 3:27 PM, PJ3000 said:

Well I would have invited you but Jen totally blanked me and didn't allow me to send my Colin so I've decided I'm not going any more 😂😂 (she was the only sensible one amongst you 😂)
Feel free to invite me round for baked goods though 😁

I've spoken to Jen.

Jen says:
"I dont hate colin. I am indifferent to colin. I hate cake in general. But i did not blank you. Nor am i sensible. Just unable to access my account at the moment. I am sure once i resolve this il reply to bash your colin perverted inbox as soon as possible. Thank you 😉😉😉 ps, Jen is not a 'she'.

Kisses for all from Jen."

[Go****]

8 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

I've just discovered that I apparently I had two, there was a lemon and mascarpone one lurking under the New Yorker 👀

Ooof yes! Put the kettle on, I'm on my way! Half each? 🤣

[Sa****]

Well I am late to the game as always🤣 but I will still put my 2cents in. The OP was actually a really good point. I can make a picture collage of all the unsolicited d..k pictures I get online. The kneel in front of me in so and so position. The I want to be you Sug*r Daddy Messages I get. It gets old to be honest to keep saying no thank you please read my profile first. The disrespect that some men have if you say you’re collared. What some of the people on here are not understanding is that if a person in a yellow shirt comes up and hits you everyday, you can’t do anything to defend yourself and can’t give a description to the police. do you not think that you will be weary of everybody in a yellow shirt. I do understand that it might feel like man bashing, but it’s not. I use to go to the chat room regularly but stopped because of some of the ugly behavior with some of the men in there. If the females say something, they say we are ganging up on them and hate men. Very rarely do other men step in and hold them accountable. It’s not your problem but you deal with the consequences and still refuse to hold other people accountable. Why is it so Difficult to understand that some people need to feel safe before they open up to a stranger. Yes it takes more then a day or two not to be in the stranger box. As for the people on here saying fat and ugly people are rude. It doesn’t matter if they are fat or ugly in your eyes, but have you sat back and wonder if you give allowances for the same things because you’re attracted to that person. See here is the thing we allow people we like to do more then someone we don’t like. If my friends call me a bi••h it’s funny and a game we play but if someone I don’t know calls me that even joking there will be a different response. Here is another there was someone who wrote about fat women and going to the gym, have you even stopped to understand that just because someone is fat don’t mean they are lazy or a slob. I am fat and I am Beautiful in the eyes of my Dominant. I didn’t sit around and eat all day to be fat, I gained 98 pounds in 3 months because of the steroids I had to take to save my life. Did I like it no but it’s better then dead. Do I try to lose weight yep and I have but had a another episode and gained it all back. Shit happens, but take a min to maybe understand your fellow human. If you’re not attracted to a large lady cool, there is no need to call people names just walk away or block them. To bad there is no a block button in real life. As for the labels, yea it suck cause I fit into many different ones, but it is what it is. We need them to help identify us but as we become Closer to a person the labels don’t matter and with the small circle of friends and so on you have. We have to make generalizations and labels but that doesn’t mean we’re forcing anyone into a box to be a specific label. I don’t understand why it’s so bad to take the time to make someone comfortable with you, it’s not hard to show empathy for a fellow human being. The post was great if you actually care about others and there feelings. Rude is rude but standoffish is not. Sorry for the long rant but I was shocked at the amount of animosity some people had to this post. @Copperknob thank you for the wonderful post ❤️

[CopperKnob]

3 hours ago, Sara-Secrets said:

Well I am late to the game as always🤣 but I will still put my 2cents in. The OP was actually a really good point. I can make a picture collage of all the unsolicited d..k pictures I get online. The kneel in front of me in so and so position. The I want to be you Sug*r Daddy Messages I get. It gets old to be honest to keep saying no thank you please read my profile first. The disrespect that some men have if you say you’re collared. What some of the people on here are not understanding is that if a person in a yellow shirt comes up and hits you everyday, you can’t do anything to defend yourself and can’t give a description to the police. do you not think that you will be weary of everybody in a yellow shirt. I do understand that it might feel like man bashing, but it’s not. I use to go to the chat room regularly but stopped because of some of the ugly behavior with some of the men in there. If the females say something, they say we are ganging up on them and hate men. Very rarely do other men step in and hold them accountable. It’s not your problem but you deal with the consequences and still refuse to hold other people accountable. Why is it so Difficult to understand that some people need to feel safe before they open up to a stranger. Yes it takes more then a day or two not to be in the stranger box. As for the people on here saying fat and ugly people are rude. It doesn’t matter if they are fat or ugly in your eyes, but have you sat back and wonder if you give allowances for the same things because you’re attracted to that person. See here is the thing we allow people we like to do more then someone we don’t like. If my friends call me a bi••h it’s funny and a game we play but if someone I don’t know calls me that even joking there will be a different response. Here is another there was someone who wrote about fat women and going to the gym, have you even stopped to understand that just because someone is fat don’t mean they are lazy or a slob. I am fat and I am Beautiful in the eyes of my Dominant. I didn’t sit around and eat all day to be fat, I gained 98 pounds in 3 months because of the steroids I had to take to save my life. Did I like it no but it’s better then dead. Do I try to lose weight yep and I have but had a another episode and gained it all back. Shit happens, but take a min to maybe understand your fellow human. If you’re not attracted to a large lady cool, there is no need to call people names just walk away or block them. To bad there is no a block button in real life. As for the labels, yea it suck cause I fit into many different ones, but it is what it is. We need them to help identify us but as we become Closer to a person the labels don’t matter and with the small circle of friends and so on you have. We have to make generalizations and labels but that doesn’t mean we’re forcing anyone into a box to be a specific label. I don’t understand why it’s so bad to take the time to make someone comfortable with you, it’s not hard to show empathy for a fellow human being. The post was great if you actually care about others and there feelings. Rude is rude but standoffish is not. Sorry for the long rant but I was shocked at the amount of animosity some people had to this post. @Copperknob thank you for the wonderful post ❤️

👏👏👏

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4 hours ago, Sara-Secrets said:

Well I am late to the game as always🤣 but I will still put my 2cents in. The OP was actually a really good point. I can make a picture collage of all the unsolicited d..k pictures I get online. The kneel in front of me in so and so position. The I want to be you Sug*r Daddy Messages I get. It gets old to be honest to keep saying no thank you please read my profile first. The disrespect that some men have if you say you’re collared. What some of the people on here are not understanding is that if a person in a yellow shirt comes up and hits you everyday, you can’t do anything to defend yourself and can’t give a description to the police. do you not think that you will be weary of everybody in a yellow shirt. I do understand that it might Sorry for the long rant but I was shocked at the amount of animosity some people had to this post. @Copperknob thank you for the wonderful post ❤️

If it were just this post that would be different, but if you have a good look around the forum you will realise this is just the latest post in a succession of recent threads all themed on this, and banging the same drum. I already had a large block list from the collection of recent men bashing posts, but I expanded it by another 6 or 7 just on this thread alone. I am patient but enough is enough.

I avoid the chatroom like the plague. And I have had to avoid much of the forum content via blocking. Its effectively filtering the site to avoid rudeness, insults and offensiveness and what I consider a bad group mentality. I also consider it a mental health and wellbeing issue, so have recommended to others in same boat who get broken by it, to do the same as I have done.

The culture is not going to change.

[CopperKnob]

Culture won't change when the issues are ignored and are not spoken about in a sensible manner.

[ge****]

1 hour ago, Shirt-n-Tie-Boy said:

If it were just this post that would be different, but if you have a good look around the forum you will realise this is just the latest post in a succession of recent threads all themed on this, and banging the same drum. I already had a large block list from the collection of recent men bashing posts, but I expanded it by another 6 or 7 just on this thread alone. I am patient but enough is enough.

I avoid the chatroom like the plague. And I have had to avoid much of the forum content via blocking. Its effectively filtering the site to avoid rudeness, insults and offensiveness and what I consider a bad group mentality. I also consider it a mental health and wellbeing issue, so have recommended to others in same boat who get broken by it, to do the same as I have done.

The culture is not going to change.

And why do you think there are so many posts/threads along the same lines? Do you think it's because those that post them have nothing to do with their time? Or perhaps the things they highlight that they experience are very real - things they experience every day? And they highlight them in the hope that just one person will listen and understand and change their ways as a result?
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You talk about group mentality - have you even considered that perhaps it's come about because so many people experience the kind of things they are flagging, and they've had enough of the collective experiences? So not people jumping on a bandwagon in the slightest, but people who are ALL experiencing the kind of behaviour they talk about, or who understand the kind of things those people have to put up with.
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If you choose to filter those comments then it's you prerogative, but by doing so you are effectively blinkering yourself to the very real experiences of a large proportion of the site and by doing so, arguably, are in the same bucket as those the threads are about.
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I pose the same question I posed earlier - what's *your* solution to the problems the good ladies of FET (and indeed beyond FET) experience on a daily basis - how do they stop the vile and abusive messages, the threats of *** and worse? How do they stop themselves feeling scared walking down the street late at night because a guy is following them and they have no clue whether he's just out for a late night walk or a potential attacker? How do they stop the guy who presses up against them on public transport? And more...all of which happen to women somewhere on a daily basis - NOT by all men, but by a significant enough number for it to be a problem even now in the supposedly more equal age we live in.

[CopperKnob]

5 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

And why do you think there are so many posts/threads along the same lines? Do you think it's because those that post them have nothing to do with their time? Or perhaps the things they highlight that they experience are very real - things they experience every day? And they highlight them in the hope that just one person will listen and understand and change their ways as a result?
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You talk about group mentality - have you even considered that perhaps it's come about because so many people experience the kind of things they are flagging, and they've had enough of the collective experiences? So not people jumping on a bandwagon in the slightest, but people who are ALL experiencing the kind of behaviour they talk about, or who understand the kind of things those people have to put up with.
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If you choose to filter those comments then it's you prerogative, but by doing so you are effectively blinkering yourself to the very real experiences of a large proportion of the site and by doing so, arguably, are in the same bucket as those the threads are about.
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I pose the same question I posed earlier - what's *your* solution to the problems the good ladies of FET (and indeed beyond FET) experience on a daily basis - how do they stop the vile and abusive messages, the threats of *** and worse? How do they stop themselves feeling scared walking down the street late at night because a guy is following them and they have no clue whether he's just out for a late night walk or a potential attacker? How do they stop the guy who presses up against them on public transport? And more...all of which happen to women somewhere on a daily basis - NOT by all men, but by a significant enough number for it to be a problem even now in the supposedly more equal age we live in.

We play ostrich and bury our heads in the sand. We tell ourselves that it doesn't really happen, it's a figment of our imagination or if someone else is present who bears witness to it, we smile and say, "oh the audacity of being outraged by someone elses inappropriate behaviour. Silly me"
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Or yeah, we just block them so we don't have to deal with it

[Lo****]

1 hour ago, Shirt-n-Tie-Boy said:

If it were just this post that would be different, but if you have a good look around the forum you will realise this is just the latest post in a succession of recent threads all themed on this, and banging the same drum. I already had a large block list from the collection of recent men bashing posts, but I expanded it by another 6 or 7 just on this thread alone. I am patient but enough is enough.

I avoid the chatroom like the plague. And I have had to avoid much of the forum content via blocking. Its effectively filtering the site to avoid rudeness, insults and offensiveness and what I consider a bad group mentality. I also consider it a mental health and wellbeing issue, so have recommended to others in same boat who get broken by it, to do the same as I have done.

The culture is not going to change.

The culture is not going to change if people refuse to admit there is a problem. The problem is real and those who don’t acknowledge it are part of it.

You are part of it.

 

[Sa****]

2 hours ago, Shirt-n-Tie-Boy said:

If it were just this post that would be different, but if you have a good look around the forum you will realise this is just the latest post in a succession of recent threads all themed on this, and banging the same drum. I already had a large block list from the collection of recent men bashing posts, but I expanded it by another 6 or 7 just on this thread alone. I am patient but enough is enough.

I avoid the chatroom like the plague. And I have had to avoid much of the forum content via blocking. Its effectively filtering the site to avoid rudeness, insults and offensiveness and what I consider a bad group mentality. I also consider it a mental health and wellbeing issue, so have recommended to others in same boat who get broken by it, to do the same as I have done.

The culture is not going to change.

The thing that you might not see or even understand cause you can’t believe anyone would act like that. I am a submissive and I love it. I have a strong Dominant that loves me. I don’t hate men or even dislike most of them but please let me tell you something that might change you mind. You might block me and that’s ok, you can only judge your mental well being. I do apologize for causing more stress to you but you have to understand for a very long time we are told it’s the internet deal with it. It’s just a di*k picture, no big deal. We do understand that, if we get it once in a while it’s a everyday occurrence for a lot of women. A lot of us work in a predominantly male job and get sexually harassed and said it’s just a joke. He just brushed against your bum he didn’t grab it. Your to sensitive, why are you mad you should feel appreciated that someone’s attracted to you. While everyone see’s but never says anything, they don’t back you up
This includes men and women, because they are told if they don’t keep there mouth shut they can lose there job. I will give you a personal story that I haven’t told many people but I think if it can change one person’s mind it will help dozens. I was 17 yrs old and about 4 months pregnant with my daughter and my ex got drunk and started a fight with me pushing and shoving me around and there was a few male relatives ( on his side) that just watched it happened. Even when I asked for help they just told him to stop nothing else didn’t pull him away didn’t call the cops. Well he decided to throw a ax handle at my head and missed my head by about 4 or 5 inches and went through the wall and got stuck. It would probably have killed me if it hit me. After that do you think I trust another man to help me.. nope. Took me a long time to drop my walls. We are taught to be ashamed of it. Even writing this post embarrasses me even though I know it shouldn’t. when one woman stands up and say I am tired of it, it does give other people the courage to stand up. I don’t understand why we are not banding together both females, males, non-binary and all others and making a pack that we will not stand for this in our community. We all have baggage from life and we all try to handle it the best we can, but sometimes we need not to be criticized because we are still learning to deal with it. Please everyone report, protect and be kind and empathetic to people you come across. Even if it’s just a Head nod as you pass.🤗