My Master / slave rules - Red / Black

[Notjustcontrol]

I originally wrote the below rules about 10 years ago, with some modifications over the years. The reason i wrote them is that i wanted to establish a way of creating a healthy balance in the D/s relationship i was in at the time. For me, like life, D/s is about balance and i wanted to create some rules that allowed my sub to experience the control she desired, but also allow her the freedom that every healthy minded sub requires in their life. It was also to allow me to not be in 'Dom' mode at all times, but still have the control i desired.

Too much of anything in life is never a good thing. From my experience, although a sub may fantasise about being under strict control 24/7, the reality is quite different. We all have a vanilla life, friends / family / work e.t.c so finding a way to strike that balance between the two was the reason i wrote the rules. Also, as much as i like to control a sub, i do not desire a submissive partner in the vanila world, quite the opposite actually and from what i have found, most subs are strong independant woman in the vanilla world and i have no desire to remove that side of their personality. So, i went about finding a way that a sub can truly be herself without *** of consequences, all the while knowing (and more importantly, feeling) that control she craves. I think these rules acheive that balance and with that, a greater possibility that the relationship will last longer.

D/s is not about removing a subs freedom, in fact i like a sub who can tease me and has the freedom to 'show me' her desire to please, not one who simply follows orders. I have found these rules provide that balance for me and the sub:

RED

1) When in RED, you can say or ask anything. There are NO rules for conversations between us. You do not need permission to ask or say anything. You have total freedom to be who you are

2) RED only permits you to SAY whatever you want. It does not allow you to DO whatever you wish.

3) All "general" rules for your control that we set out are permanent, they are not dictated by the colour we are in. For example, your O control would not be affected by which colour we are in, nor would having any sexual contact with another man whilst under my control. These "general" rules (to be agreed between us) are for all times while you serve me

4) Nothing you say in RED will ever be carried over into BLACK. Meaning you would never experience any consequences in BLACK for something you said in RED.

5) Just because we are in RED, that doesn't mean I cannot order you to do something. If we are in RED and you receive a message that starts with ORDER or i give an instruction to you in person, you will obey that order to the very best of your ability to please me - and treat that order as if we are in BLACK unless you are unable to do so (see 11)

BLACK

6) When in BLACK you will not speak unless I ask you a question. You have a TOTAL loss of control in BLACK. If you want to say something, you need permission. You will say, "Master / Sir, please may your Slave speak?" (Exactly in that way) and then wait for permission to be granted. This is also how you will act if you receive an ORDER whilst in RED. Anything relating to that order will be addressed in this way, all non-order conversation will still be in RED.

7) When in BLACK I demand total obedience and compliance with my orders. You do not have permission to move, speak or act in anyway other than how I have ordered you to do so.

8) Only I can change the Colour!

9) Whilst in BLACK you may "request" a change to RED for some situations. If this is "not" an emergency, you will request the change of colour and the reason why (respectfully) You will then wait for my reply before assuming it to be changed.

10)  In the case of an emergency, or if a situation arises of importance that requires you to immediately speak to me in our "vanilla" relationship, you can ignore all above rules without consequence. 

11) BLACK will only come into effect when you are in a suitable position to obey. For example, work, family etc. will never be affected by these colours.

12) When in BLACK you are no longer "Your name", you are simply "My slave" That is your identity. When speaking to me in BLACK you will refer to yourself as "Your Slave"

 

[Se****]

I very much like the idea of this - even if not the full rules themselves. I like to have things in written form to refer back to as my memory is atrocious x

[Cheekysub247]

I would mission fail lol

[Notjustcontrol]

55 minutes ago, Freetobare said:

I very much like the idea of this - even if not the full rules themselves. I like to have things in written form to refer back to as my memory is atrocious x

Mine too 😂 x

[Notjustcontrol]

16 minutes ago, Cheekysub247 said:

I would mission fail lol

Yeh, not for everyone 🙂

[Se****]

3 minutes ago, Notjustcontrol said:

Mine too 😂 x

It’s an age thing. X

[Notjustcontrol]

34 minutes ago, Freetobare said:

It’s an age thing. X

Ha, are you calling me old? 😂 …you’re right of course 🙂 x

[Deleted Member]

So , a completely black wardrobe it is

[Cheekysub247]

Ive had rules and protocols to follow many times, its the switching colours thati find hard to grip, mainly because i dont seperate the lifestyle, i am what i am all the time, so if im someones slave im their slave

Edited July 9, 2022 by Cheekysub247

[Notjustcontrol]

51 minutes ago, Traveler said:

So , a completely black wardrobe it is

I could live with that 🙂

[Notjustcontrol]

19 minutes ago, Cheekysub247 said:

Ive had rules and protocols to follow many times, its the switching colours thati find hard to grip, mainly because i dont seperate the lifestyle, i am what i am all the time, so if im someones slave im their slave

That’s fair enough, subs / slaves have different desires and different levels of control they require. Nothing is set in stone when it comes to D/s

[Se****]

2 hours ago, Notjustcontrol said:

Ha, are you calling me old? 😂 …you’re right of course 🙂 x

Erm, do I get in trouble if I call you old???? Because if so I most definitely was absolutely not calling you old 🤣

[Catsailor69]

Every once in a while I come across posts that strikes a chord with me. Your post has done that.
Balance! That is such a good thing to maintain in a dynamic. Clear lines of communication and mutual understanding are tantamount for me in achieving that. During a scene I have incorporated the traffic light feedback. It’s been attempted in communication but has been cumbersome. I really appreciate this red/black state of discussion understanding with a submissive, as the dominant. It allows for a more definite understanding of what is going on in the interactions of the moment. To me, it’s a tangible indication of the motives of the interaction and I really appreciate that.

[Mouse1]

I think all of those rules are fair wish i had someone like that

[Notjustcontrol]

4 hours ago, Freetobare said:

Erm, do I get in trouble if I call you old???? Because if so I most definitely was absolutely not calling you old 🤣

Oh what a pickle, you are not in trouble for calling me old, however, I want to say, yes, you are most definitely in trouble for calling me old 🙂

[Notjustcontrol]

4 hours ago, Mouse1 said:

I think all of those rules are fair wish i had someone like that

I’m glad you find them fair ☺️

[Notjustcontrol]

4 hours ago, Catsailor69 said:

Every once in a while I come across posts that strikes a chord with me. Your post has done that.
Balance! That is such a good thing to maintain in a dynamic. Clear lines of communication and mutual understanding are tantamount for me in achieving that. During a scene I have incorporated the traffic light feedback. It’s been attempted in communication but has been cumbersome. I really appreciate this red/black state of discussion understanding with a submissive, as the dominant. It allows for a more definite understanding of what is going on in the interactions of the moment. To me, it’s a tangible indication of the motives of the interaction and I really appreciate that.

Thank you for the kind words!

[Se****]

8 hours ago, Notjustcontrol said:

Oh what a pickle, you are not in trouble for calling me old, however, I want to say, yes, you are most definitely in trouble for calling me old 🙂

Send you have more of a conundrum than me 🤔

[Notjustcontrol]

3 hours ago, Freetobare said:

Send you have more of a conundrum than me 🤔

Im ok with being old so either is fine

[Se****]

44 minutes ago, Notjustcontrol said:

Im ok with being old so either is fine

lol, you ruined all my fun now that I can’t tease x

[Notjustcontrol]

29 minutes ago, Freetobare said:

lol, you ruined all my fun now that I can’t tease x

No, you can always tease, wheres the fun with a sub who doesnt tease? x

[Se****]

13 minutes ago, Notjustcontrol said:

No, you can always tease, wheres the fun with a sub who doesnt tease? x

Your future self may live to regret those words if you post any more writings that evoke comments from me x

Edited July 10, 2022 by Freetobare
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[Notjustcontrol]

4 minutes ago, Freetobare said:

Your future self may live to regret those words if you post any more writings that evoke comments from me x

I would never regret doing something that resulted in me getting teased! Well i am writing Part 2 of the story as i speak, so, i guess i am living dangerously x

[Se****]

1 minute ago, Notjustcontrol said:

I would never regret doing something that resulted in me getting teased! Well i am writing Part 2 of the story as i speak, so, i guess i am living dangerously x

Oooh goody I’m looking forward to reading it. Xx