Is vulnerability sexy?

[VikingSlug]

31 minutes ago, Shirt-n-Tie-Boy said:

Are you worried if you have a public profile with your disability, you will attract the amputee fetish crowd? I can see how that attention could come with the caveat may not get seen like a person and more of a vehicle to some.

I always have a pic in my profile so people can see from the get go. If I match/get messaging with someone and they haven't mentioned it I always check they know and are ok with it, simply because I'd want to know if it was reversed. But It's surprising how many women don't notice in a picture.
As for amputee fetish IV only had the odd gay man try his luck and I politely tell them it's not my cup of tea.

[Deleted Member]

I married my late husband and I knew he had progressive MS. Within 3 years of our wedding he was in a wheelchair full time. Due to a medication implant sex stopped as soon as he was unable to have an erection - even though there were other things we could have done. I think you have to be honest about what you can do, as well as what you like sexually. How independent are you? And how willing are you to make sure your partner is sexually satisfied. I went for 13 years without sex, and went from being a wife to being a caregiver. His lose of caring about me as a partner, eroded our relationship and hurt me deeply.

[he****]

Absolutely

[CopperKnob]

I think that this is about being honest from the get go. Not just about the condition you have and it's likely progression but also about your strengths, focussing on this as opposed to your difficulties.
It's not going to be easy but then online dating is difficult generally for us all unless we're looking for a quick hook up/FWB
We're all looking for that connection, for most that may initially start with physical attraction but for those looking for something longer term, it's going to always come down to personality, character, morals, ethic, values.
I truly believe that there is someone out there for everyone but we have to first be honest with ourselves about who we are and accept that so that we expect the same of others

[Wa****]

Eh if you’re having a lot of trouble just pay for it lmao

[me****]

Why don’t u go for disabled women,

Feels like all there will accept u more

[ey****]

51 minutes ago, meatyman said:

Why don’t u go for disabled women,

Feels like all there will accept u more

I think there is the big problem that depending on the respective disabilities then there is a lot of problems with clashes

but some of this is very much a "stick to your own kind" mentality which is very... ugh.

[Ar****]

49 minutes ago, meatyman said:

Why don’t u go for disabled women,

Feels like all there will accept u more

There was quite a media hoo-haa relatively recently after a particular internet dating site (whom I shall not name) refused to accept a disabled woman's profile onto their site. They "thought she might be better suited"/"like to try" their dating site for disabled people instead, and recommended she sign up there.

If people want to actively search for particular aspects of a match that is their prerogative, but nobody should be encouraging exclusion or segregation (even when it comes from some extremely ill-placed good intentions). There are so many reasons why it is neither practical or necessary - but we can respect that the option is there who want to exercise it, similarly to dating sites which exist exclusively for those of a particular ethnic background, religious belief, sexual orientation, even financial income (and so on).

The greatest risk with this kind of attitude is that it encourages people to think of people with disabilities as unworthy to be dated by anybody who doesn't have a disability.

[Pa****]

Your hot!

[Lord_Talion]

I've found many within the lifestyle are disabled and many others find it very sexy

[Deleted Member]

I have a disability which I am upfront because if I do not then I can getting physical hurt. I have scoliosis which has to be through your when doing restraining or ropes or putting me in specific positions. Most guys are fine with but there are ones like oh I will not touch especially riggers and I respect that because there are a lot of horrible stories of people getting injured due to already weakness. Unfortunately for me as a rope bunny but that is ok I do some self tying when needed. I would like to do more tying and maybe doing suspension but not until the right person. I am a care giver so I would go out of my way to communicate with anyone so you just have to find the right person.

[dr****]

I had a tbi in may of 2011 have had many women since it

[Rew83]

If there willing to be that shallow then not worth talking to

[BK****]

I am a Type 1 Diabetic and always let women know . I haven’t had a difficult time having it and dating

[Pu****]

Well I am completely the opposite I love and I think disabled men are sexy

[dr****]

I have a disability too and I don’t find dating hard

[Lu****]

I feel your ***.

[dr****]

I had an anoxic brain *** in may of 2011 that put me back to day one had to relearn how to walk talk read right everything again my problem from it now is that I’m too pushy with women

[dr****]

I didn’t say dating was hard I just said that I’m too pushy with women now

[Bl****]

I am a Domme & switch, and I make sure anyone I even think of playing with knows I am hearing impaired and I have had 2 surgeries on my back. If any potential does not pay attention, I kick them to the curb. Please hang on. There are great people out there who know how to look past a disability.

[ThumperG]

On 7/11/2022 at 10:44 AM, Gregster said:

I got Friedreich Ataxia. A rare, neurodegenerative disease. Still pre-wheelchair phase. Thank you for asking cris5

I'm seeing this now as I'm going through some of the forums here. I just wanted to say that I HEAR YOU! I'VE got 3 Neurodegenerative diseases going on and 1's REALLY not good. So trust me I get it with what you're saying here. Also there's something else that I could have written into my profile but I decided not to. That's because I know there are other member who would definitely fetishize it about me. So if/when the time comes with a closer connection...then that's when these things will be opened up for a discussion with them. It's not like they can't figure it out by themselves because part of it is out there if they're curious enough to look into this when it comes to me. But I like you, I want people to accept me for who I am. IF they don't know how to deal politely with our community? Then I don't know what to say to them. Obviously they were DRAGGED UP into adulthood instead of being properly raised by their parents yk? It is truly not my job to teach other people's adult *** minimalistic proper social skills at a basic level of decorum. Ohhh AND just to let you know I have seen your profile. I do think that you are very cute! It really is a damn shame that you're not stateside honey. Anyway feel free to message me if you want to talk to someone. Be well & hope to hear from you friend 😉