A question for the subs - younger Dominants

[Sub4usebymistress]

Yes I would after a conversation if I felt they had the knowledge because everyone starts with just knowledge and no experience this along with knowledge are gained as time goes on

[Wi****]

Imho as long as trust, safety, communication, boundaries, limits and a very strong connection between the people involved you can all learn and grow together. As was pointed out on an earlier post no one is an expert everyone is always learning. So age doesn't have to be an issue that's down to each person's own preferences.

[Ky****]

its all about experience for me, if we click then age is a number, but that's if we click, a 20 year old can be more experienced than a 60 year old so age no barrier, besides as a maid I serve all ages, submission doesn't necessarily require a sexual attraction

[TxFrank]

Depends on how much younger. 5 to 10 years younger at my age isn't a big deal. Anything more would be a hard no based on the generational differences. Hard to submit to someone who was in diapers when you started in the lifestyle.

[DarkArts1066]

The phrase here is “question for understanding”.
Anyone who coaches, teaches or lectures will understand that statement.

Speaking as an (older) Dominant, I would expect a potential sub to grill me comprehensively on my methodology and ideology… as well as my safety procedures and aftercare experience. And if they don’t have the knowledge yet to do

We are all still learning… I am constantly educating myself- or being educated by others.

My concerns with SOME younger Doms/Dommes/Masters/Mistresses - and I do have concerns, is that SOME are clearly overexcited by this new world of wonder they are discovering, and don’t have the maturity to control themselves fully when in the moment.
I speak with vicarious experience here - I have been contacted - recently, by subs who have explained that their Dom/Domme etc has exercised a lack of self control, and awareness of the need for safety protocols and aftercare.

This is where the sub needs to be mindful of the level of control that they actually have. And hopefully, intuition.

A long time ladyfriend of mine once used the phrase “you should never set limits when you are horny” and she is exactly right.

[sharilynn]

yes would be proud to submitt to a younger mistress

[Li****]

No. For me personally, I'm not attracted to younger and always sway older (not even intentionally seeking older, just seems to happen). So whether that's for a Kink relationship or actual dating, I wouldn't be attracted and never have been, even to my own age.
Being the (young) age I am, most haven't matured at all on a basic, vanilla level even to have a genuine worth while conversation with. If I can't even connect mentally, sexually isn't ever going to happen.
I have seen a lot of the same and wonder myself the same questions.
A lot seem not just to be very young, but state they are brand new too.
Each to their own but it wouldn't be my personal choice or attraction!

[ma****]

I would submit to a Dom who's younger than me, however he must have a few years of experience. I would definitely not submit to anyone who is between 18 and 23 years old and it is very unlikely that they are experienced, especially those who are 18.

For me, when it comes to those who are 18 or 19 years old in particular, they are only allowed joining clubs at that age and nowhere on this Earth they know what they are doing or have the right skills and knowledge to dominate someone. I would personally not trust them at all and definitely not to submit to them.

[ha****]

No ...... experience is gained with age is it no?

[Deleted Member]

It’s hard to say. I’m a submissive male at a rly weird age. Younger women want me like 18+ ofc but then so do older women. But I have a mommy kink. I like to call my partners mommy because it helps me cope n heal from my trauma n lack of affection growing up but if I was even lucky enough to find a dominant woman then the next step would be (if they were 18 or 19 for instance) to see where they lie on that spectrum of sub/dom and if they’re ok with exploring their dom side with me and I can try doing more slightly dominant things intimately as I grow with whoever that is. Definitely being submissive makes it harder to find the right partner though. Most females want a dominant male. I can be dominant in life situations but women have the ability to play me like a harp n I kinda like it. Not financially at all but personality wise n allat. Plus having a foot fetish doesn’t help the situation because finding a foot fetish partner (I don’t want my feet touched unless someone rly wanted that bad enough mainly I’d suck my partners toes or do sumn else with them) although I’m highly proud of having a foot fetish though. I enjoy it so much. So fa me yes if they obviously are of age (18+ US) and they know what they are doing and fully open to it. But it rly depends. I’ve learned that older women tend to be more dominant and more experienced in knowin what they want. I feel like I can rly be in my littlespace with a dominant woman to cuddle up next to n call mommy. The relief my inner traumatized child gets makes me feel absolutely euphoric. It’s not jus sexual but also spiritual deep down.

[Br****]

If they still earn my submission then yes. But I do have a limit on how much you get I would go.

[Seuss-MD]

As long as there are full grown adults who are less mature than a five year old, there will always be young people who outgrow their elders. Some people reach maturity in their ***s. Others never do. The important part is that you communicate first. Maybe they know what they're doing. Maybe they don't. Either it's a ready to go situation, or you both get to explore, which can be fun, in and of itself.

I'd say that, if you're really worried about this, you're either over thinking, or under thinking. In both cases, asking for another opinion was probably the smartest thing you could have done. Communication is the key to any relationship. Yes. Even here. If somebody jumps straight into a role, without talking anything over, that's not a person I'd get involved with, at all. That's dangerous. That's how you wake up, missing a kidney. I've found that, when dealing with people, it's always best to be on the safe side.

[lo****]

It really really depends. My knee-jerk reaction is no. But I try to be an equal opportunity kinkster. If they know what they’re doing and they bring the right energy I’d give it a shot.

[Ph****]

I like younger subs because they are more willing to learn new things, where older subs are set in their ways and kinks.

[ho****]

I think if ur truly submissive u will submit to who ever

[Pa****]

I have been with a slightly younger Dom before and would in the future as long as they’re within about 7-8 years of me.
My worries are more that we wouldn’t be able to relate on a friendship level much younger than that not so much lack of experience because they could be way more experienced then someone much older. But too young even outside the kind dynamic doesn’t excite me.

[Deleted Member]

My partner is younger then me he's also my Dom and he has learned everything, we have rules, hard soft and off limits, code words safe words. After care etc. But he earned my trust and respect

[br****]

If they know what turns me on , are available to learn ( I might know a thing or two more in certain cases ) and seem to have my wellness in mind , sure why not !

[Deleted Member]

I would if they were at least knowledgeable on safety and cautious and honest around kinks they haven’t tried. The more communication we have between us the more comfortable it makes me feel as well. This goes for older Doms as well whom in my opinion are scarier than younger doms.

[Ev****]

As long as they are respectful of boundaries then I’m fine with it ☺️

[Deleted Member]

I have submitted to a man 20 years younger than myself. He is amazing, and I trust him. I would prob submit to younger still.

[BigPolly]

No it would have been very unlikely that I would have ever submitted to anyone younger not because of the experience factor but because that’s not what I am/was attracted to.
However I became a Domme at 17/18 & everyone I Dominated was older. My experience grew the most from volunteering at a fet club rather than age.

[sp****]

I have been with one my age and one quite a bit younger. Both were knowledgeable and experienced enough that I felt completely safe and cared for. I think it is more a matter of experience and integrity rather then physical age.

[ma****]

Depending on the person for me not an age thing if your presence isn't dominant I'll probably just laugh

[Deleted Member]

No.