Going into a scene

[Lu****]

My question is on if you are in a relationship but shares D/s kink. How do you go from making out to going into a scene?

Or does a scene tend to be preplanned ahead and agreed when this will happen?

Or am I misunderstanding what a scene is?

[Deleted Member]

What kind of making out? Making out to start a scene with a blindfold on a hand on your throat with your hands tied behind you would be a good start to a scene 😉 some “vanilla” making out can be durning after care…

[ey****]

a lot depends on what you consider a scene - but

folk work in different ways

some people are able to roll off the cuff into a play scene being aware of their own capabilities and likes and their partners interests, likes and limits

but even for those who can do - sometimes a little pre-planning is good.  Deciding what you're going to do or include - make sure that toys or equipment is clean and available

it may be that starting still rolls off the cuff - or it can be any form of "come with me" to the play space - and you walk in, things laid out ready and the first instruction... undress

[Wo****]

whatever you are doing requires consent and communication…..plain and simple. Looking way too much into this.

[Lord_Talion]

Either. For spontaneous play, hair pulling and turning just about any implement into a fetish tool is most resourceful

[co****]

A scene is generally thought out a head of time, there may be room for improv or simply follow it out to the letter. It depends on the dynamic

[Lu****]

40 minutes ago, MrSadistDaddy said:

whatever you are doing requires consent and communication…..plain and simple. Looking way too much into this.

Yes, I felt I was starting to think too much into this and was starting to confuse myself

[Ta****]

the less well you know each other, the more you should pre-plan.

In the engineering sense, 'play' means the range of movement of limited moving part. You might think of it that way, as a range of agreed/allowed movement within pre-agreed limits.

With people in an established relationship who know each other's likes/limits well, you can be a bit for freeform / less explicit about what is going to happen (safe words of course apply).

[Ch****]

Ive never had a 'scene' planned out, even when new in a partnership, chances are we have talked about many things we have both done, want to do ect, hard limits agreed.
I might be told to bring certain things with me so i know they might be used, but never discussed how or when. I generally turn up and go with the flow with what my partner feels like doing. Id rather not have a 'plan'

[sl****]

My Dom and I discuss things we want to do/boundaries in our daily chats. We are also primal tho so when the time comes we do what feels right in the heat of the moment. Nothing is really 'planned' unless it's something we specifically want on film. Since we've discussed things prior we both know our limits and boundaries that are ok to push. There's daily communication between us about our desires and goals.

[AlphaLion]

I've always enjoyed the planning out of the scene as Dom. However after a while you should know and have communicated a lot about kinks to the point where you can just roll into it. I find scenes better when there has been a build up to it, sneaky messages during the day, instructions on what you want the sub to wear, which room to play in and time for all parties to be ready.

[pa****]

For me, it's both. It can start w making out and lead to more or it can be discussed beforehand so you know what to expect. I prefer to talk about it beforehand so expectations are manageable.