lo**** Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 Hey beautiful people, I would love to know how many couples are on kink together and how it works for you, what does it add to your relationship, the good and the bad, have you run into any relationship problems, does insecurities arise and how do you manage such issues if they do arise. All opinions are much appreciated.
Ke**** Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 My fiance and I have so far been open in many ways besides physical but we've been looking for MFM for a bit recently. Open communication is key. Jealousy is going to happen. You're going to find out things that you like and don't like. Talk about limits before hand. Discuss feelings after. Check in with each other frequently. And if someone is uncomfortable, no matter how much the other person may like what is happening, stop with no hesitation.
Da**** Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 My sub and I are on here looking for another F sub. We have had a shared GF and we just make sure to let each other know that we still love the other person and that at the end of the day we are what matters.. communicate communicate communicate good bad doesn't matter. Just make sure to communicate
lo**** Posted July 18, 2022 Author Posted July 18, 2022 39 minutes ago, KelF54 said: My fiance and I have so far been open in many ways besides physical but we've been looking for MFM for a bit recently. Open communication is key. Jealousy is going to happen. You're going to find out things that you like and don't like. Talk about limits before hand. Discuss feelings after. Check in with each other frequently. And if someone is uncomfortable, no matter how much the other person may like what is happening, stop with no hesitation. Thank you. I agree total communication is so important regardless of how uncomfortable it may feel, I think the biggest hurdle is admitting to one another how much they are enjoying a sexual experience with another person, even though the one of us enjoying it the most is the one who is uncomfortable admitting that they are 😭😭 but as I have explained we are doing this for the highest enjoyment, and communicating so is a must when endeavouring in such intimate personal exchanges with others while in a loving real life relationship, without trust I don't think people should engage in external experiences, you have to be totally open for both parties to feel involved and engaged.
Ak**** Posted July 18, 2022 Posted July 18, 2022 For us, we have been together for 13 years. Hubby and I both have insecurities- he is overly jealous and it hurt our relationship because he would call me a cheater and a whore when I was nothing but a saint all that time (never had the time , desire or energyto cheat!). It fed my insecurities about my body image and I allowed it to happen to feed my depression and twist who I actually was. I had to break this cycle and let him know his insecurities were hurting me and almost destroyed our relationship. Now that we are looking for a Poly relationship he has to check his jealously even more but it's about his issues not another person(s). We have started communicating more and that's the key to making this work. I'm more comfortable with myself (body image and sexuality) and now so is he. It will always take effort to keep our relationship alive and well regardless if its 2,3,4,5+...
lo**** Posted July 18, 2022 Author Posted July 18, 2022 2 hours ago, Daddy-n-sub said: My sub and I are on here looking for another F sub. We have had a shared GF and we just make sure to let each other know that we still love the other person and that at the end of the day we are what matters.. communicate communicate communicate good bad doesn't matter. Just make sure to communicate I hope you find amazing experiences and yes make sure your significant other is always feeling secure, wanted and in control.
lo**** Posted July 18, 2022 Author Posted July 18, 2022 2 hours ago, Akatz22 said: For us, we have been together for 13 years. Hubby and I both have insecurities- he is overly jealous and it hurt our relationship because he would call me a cheater and a whore when I was nothing but a saint all that time (never had the time , desire or energyto cheat!). It fed my insecurities about my body image and I allowed it to happen to feed my depression and twist who I actually was. I had to break this cycle and let him know his insecurities were hurting me and almost destroyed our relationship. Now that we are looking for a Poly relationship he has to check his jealously even more but it's about his issues not another person(s). We have started communicating more and that's the key to making this work. I'm more comfortable with myself (body image and sexuality) and now so is he. It will always take effort to keep our relationship alive and well regardless if its 2,3,4,5+... Are you seeking a female or male poly, so I'm the female and we are seeking another female, I think it's the sex who is going to be multiplied for lack of a better term that needs the most reassurances and attentiveness, even when it's something they are either fully looking to explore or if they are willing to do it to please their partners. I hope it all goes well for you and you take care of each other kindly along the way.
Ak**** Posted July 19, 2022 Posted July 19, 2022 6 hours ago, london199188 said: Are you seeking a female or male poly, so I'm the female and we are seeking another female, I think it's the sex who is going to be multiplied for lack of a better term that needs the most reassurances and attentiveness, even when it's something they are either fully looking to explore or if they are willing to do it to please their partners. I hope it all goes well for you and you take care of each other kindly along the way. We want a female and a couple males. Yes, communication will be the key and we will continue to work on our relationship. Thanks for your kind words 😘💕
pl**** Posted July 19, 2022 Posted July 19, 2022 My husband and I are both on here, we’re really just looking for a couple people to play with either together or separate. We’d love to share a girl 😍
Deleted Member Posted July 21, 2022 Posted July 21, 2022 My primary partner & I are both polyamorous, and have other relationships and/or play with others - both separately and together. Insecurities and jealousy can come up, but as long as everyone is aware and openly communicating, it generally works out.
ia**** Posted July 22, 2022 Posted July 22, 2022 I just started dating a guy who's on here as well (we've met somewhere else). We are both kinky, but still shy and just learning about new things. Also still getting to know each other. But knowing that he's so open and understanding, makes everything much easier. Communication is definitely a key...
sa**** Posted July 24, 2022 Posted July 24, 2022 We’ve been together many years and started exploring kinky stuff a couple of years ago. It really has added to our relationship, from the kink sessions themselves and silly kink jokes between us in real life. Works for us :-)
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