Deleted Member Posted July 22, 2022 Posted July 22, 2022 Have you ever used/do you use a fake name or have a persona (maybe something akin to a “stage name”) to protect your identity when meeting new kink friends or for sessions? Specifically, I’m not referring to online usernames and Internet safety, but actual in-person interactions, where someone asks you point-blank, “what’s your name?”
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 Always give my real name but never my last name
Si**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 I did when I was younger but it's easier just to use your name
Lord_Talion Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Based within thebkink community I am known as Lord Talion. My freinds call me Talion while most subs call me Lord or Sir.
ey**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 it depends on what they need to know and why most people I play with know my real name, or at least real first name - but most people do not need to know those I play with I need to know a name to call them if we're in public - but that can be their Domme name.
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 No, I don't. My username is my nickname everything else I have in my profile or I discuss with anyone is 100% the truth. I'm completely honest and upfront and I expect the same from the other person, as well. If I found out that they intentionally lied I'll just walk away, because I wouldn't be able to trust them anymore.
dr**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 When speaking of my partners I use only their petnames/honorifics to others as they haven't consented to being discussed I don't want ppl to put 2 and 2 together and bother my partners. It has happened in the past
bu**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 I use my real first name. Never give a last name. Also, my first name is super common.
wh**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 You can call me sir in the bedroom ai will call you ma'am every where else
Gu**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 I did when I was younger and didn’t want all my business to be easily exposed or exploited, but nowadays idgaf 😎
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 I have but only when I know its a one night thing or random encounter. Sometimes anonimity can be a kink.
ms**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Yes mine is Ursa, I have a bunch of tentacle dildos cuz Ursula the sea witch 😅
BigPolly Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 Yes my name on here is not my real name (sorry to those that I’ve known on here for years 😬🙈) I’ve never revealed my real name to anyone I’ve met or played with.
ge**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 By the time I'm ready to meet someone there's always a sufficient level of connection and chemistry there for them to know my real name - and in fact for their security I always tell them my full name - so no never had a "stage name", even when I used to go to clubs a lot I'd tell people my real first name.
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 Using nicknames are fun People usally a fun or interesting story behind their nicknames.
Cheekysub247 Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 I always use my real first name, but hold off my surname until it meet them. I've spoken with people before that have been a bit stalker so now it's just something I do. Only 2 people(non vanilla)in my life know my full name and address. I have trust issues 😂😂
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 Giving someone a fake name or false information is being dishonest, period. In BDSM honesty is paramount. No wonder a lot of dynamics/relationships don't last, because they start with fake profiles and lies. HONESTY IS NOT A SWITCH THAT YOU TURN ON AND OFF WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE IT, IT'S 24/7. If you are asked a question don't give fake name/info just politely decline to answer. But let's not forget that this is a place to meet people to forge dynamics, relationships or friendships and it's never a good idea to start with lies. There's nothing wrong by giving your first name (Joe) your date of birth (11/15/1964) your city and state (Acushnet, MA.) These info are harmless, believe me I should know I work in technology and I am very careful on what I post on the web.
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 I think it depends on your personal experience. I don't use my real name amymore but that's because I've had a stalker in the past (who i thought was a friend) and when you've had to deal with that sort of situation then it makes you very wary in future. People either understand or they don't but I'm not prepared to take any risks again. It's not about wanting to deceive anyone, it's 100% about protecting me and my family.
Deleted Member Posted July 23, 2022 Author Posted July 23, 2022 That's fine, I understand about people wanting to be careful, but you don't have to be dishonest about it. You could tell them this is the name I want you to call me for now, instead of saying that it's your name.
sm**** Posted July 23, 2022 Posted July 23, 2022 online i always use this monika, unless i know the person or going to meet up or make a long term friendship. Iv'e never changed it for 30 years, it also helps old scene friends find you again after the demise of other sites namely IC, who i have managed to engage with a few from those days on here, as they recognised my name and persona from the past. It's partly for my own protection as should most people not be too willing to give out much personal information on a whim or for anyone to browse online. I have seen people in the past use real time information in a nefarious way, so you should always be protective of your own information and who you share it with. Just remember you never really know a person until you spend time with them in the real world.
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