New to having a Daddy...buy I seem to suck at it.

[Deleted Member]

Hey there, I'm new to the Fetish scene. I entered into a relationship a couple of months ago after leaving a bad marriage. Now to the point, I seem to suck at being anything submissive from rhe comments from my Daddy. He gives me the silent treatment, leaves to go to other women if I upset him, and doesn't seem to listen when I try to communicate my feelings. They always get thrown back as being completely my fault. He claims I'm disrespectful because I don't always remember his rules, and or don't listen to his commands right away. He promised to always be there for me but when he snaps at me and tells me he doesn't know what to do with me, I feel like he'll leave me. I love him dearly and wod do anything for him, but my memory has always been terrible. What can I do besides writing all his rules down on my phone, and setting alarms for every morning to remind myself to read over the rules? Sorry for long post..😭

[gr****]

He sounds like a shit head. Definitely write things down so you know if you’re forgetting or misremembering. OR if he’s gaslighting you to avoid accountability.

One thing is for sure. A good dom will be crystal clear with their communication. There are plenty of good doms out there. Make sure you’re not wasting your time.

[Ij****]

You need to dip. That sounds like an irrational control freak not a Dom. Just because it's a D/s dynamic doesn't excuse people not being a good partner.

[Ri****]

Need to A communicate that the rules should be easier or less of them. If new then having a few easy rules, over time will be ingrained then can add more. Secondly if him being with other women bothers you then leave. Not trying be preachy but that be no different if you didn't like way he treated you, then your allowed to go be with other men. That type of thinking leads to becoming abusive, and he not taking his weight or position serious. I know said bad marriage and divorceb fresh. Maybe time to yourself to find yourself or stick to a Daddy that actually factors you in.

[Deleted Member]

Sounds very controlling tbh not how he should be at all hun

[De****]

Tbh it sounds like your daddy needs to be more understanding twords you as a person outside of you being his sub. Then go from there. Idk just my thoughts lol

[ey****]

sometimes you just have to throw the whole man out 

[ma****]

Sounds like this guy needs to research being a Dom more, and also stop treating you in such a way that has you feeling the way you are, because that's.. unless that's the dynamic you two agreed on together, that's a REALLY toxic way to approach your relationship (on his part, I mean). I'm not sure it's so much that you need to work on how you approach this, if anything it's him that needs to adjust his approach. A Dom is supposed to provide a safe space for their sub, and he sounds pretty gaslightey to me which doesn't sound like he's providing an emotionally safe space.

[Deleted Member]

You shouldn't feel bad, it's not your fault. Your Daddy has the responsibility to teach you, train you and be patient with you. That's his duty to nurture you to be the best you can be, not ignore you or make you feel bad. I truly feel for you and don't think that he deserves you.

[ze****]

That's not a daddy, that's an ***r posing as a dom. Makes things harder for us real dom whom know better. I tell you I'm this now overflow of bad people in this community is taking all the fun out of this. We are supposed to be good people who are exploring an unconventional path of ecstasy

[ze****]

Flush him like the turd he is.

[Bo****]

He's not a Dom or daddy. Men tend to power trip, and if he treats you that way now, it'll bite you in the a** later, and not in the fun way

[so****]

Love, with respect, I think he’s bad at being a daddy. There’s nothing wrong with you.

[Rebel-3817]

No offense to anyone but this guy sounds like a fake D. It sounds as else he is using the BDSM as a cover-up or an excuse for his control issues. I think you need to get out of that situation and find you a real D.

[Lord_Talion]

Your Daddy sounds like an ubber-dom. There are many things you could do to make it better and all humans have a tendency of having bad relations the first time out as if kissing frogs before you find a prince, but you won't find a price if you're with a frog

[da****]

Throw him to the curve😉

[Deleted Member]

To add to what's been said already, it sounds like this has nothing to do with a kink lifestyle and everything to do with him being nasty and controlling. Ask yourself, is it just these specific sexual situations or does he make you feel insufficient in any other area of life too, the answer is probably yes if you think hard enough. Sorry lovely, get out of there girl.

[Deleted Member]

This isn’t having a dom or daddy
,this is having an ***r. Submissive doesn’t mean he can treat you like a doormat or emotional punching bag.

[StrictMaster44]

Absolutely not your fault at all!!!! 💯 All him. He has some problems or issues he needs to work out. You do not deserve to be treated like that

[Deleted Member]

One he dont know what he is doing and 2 you jumped into this way to early after a marriage both of yall need to stop and get yourself together or it won't work out. After a 13 year relationship I took 2 years to get myself in a good place to be daddy again because I wanted to do things right. That dont mean itll take you 2 years but Hou do need to collect yourself he just needs to give up

[mc****]

He is the epitome of an ***r. Run, don’t walk. I suggest looking into a local bdsm orientation class. This will help greatly in becoming a submissive and MOST importantly, identifying ***rs and vetting dominants. Good luck, stay safe and have a beautiful day!

[ch****]

You say he says you suck at being submissive so the question is are you submissive? People can't just choose to be Dominant or submissive it's in you and you learn how to be good at by your parents standers from communication training and consensual agreement both parties agree this is what they want. Remember a Dom/sub relationship is just like any other in the way that both parties agree and if they can't well there is someone for everyone and the one you are with might not be the one but you can find them by process of elimination.

[Sk****]

That’s otherwise known as a narcissist. Get rid of him.

[br****]

This isn't kink. This is ***.

[br****]

There is quite a difference..