New to having a Daddy...buy I seem to suck at it.

[Deleted Member]

I would never treat my baby girl like that he sounds like a complete piece of shit, I mean no disrespect but you deserve better especially if you’re trying to be a good girl. A good daddy would have patience in the understanding and would never someone he cares about like that, in my opinion. I’m a daddy and I love my baby girls no matter how disobedient they are. Takes time to learn the rules and a good daddy would understand that.

[Ei****]

What they said. He seems to think it’s ok to ignore, control, and berate his sub…that’s not how that shit works.

[Deleted Member]

What he doing is wrong but to help her she needs to see her wrong doing like she said not listening that needs corrected and jumping into a relationship so soon after being married without getting herself in a good place so she dont bring issues to the relationship she has not delt with that dont need to be someone else's problem to fix one that he has proven he clearly can't fix he can't even show love so he definitely can't help. But she needs to mentally needs to heal b4 starting another relationship hate me all you want but im right

[Scottishdombull]

These actions are not a Daddy. A daddy is suppose to be supportive understanding nurturing his little one and thos quite frankly not.

Walk away there daddy doms who would be more patient and understanding

[Seuss-MD]

A lot of Doms think their role in this lifestyle is a free ticket to be abusive. What you're going through is not ok. Your memory isn't your fault. You shouldn't be snapped at, or ignored, for how your brain works. Just because you're a sub, doesn't make you a doormat. I'm not trying to tell you what to do. I'm just saying that, if it were me, I'd walk. I hope you figure out what's best for you and that you stay safe.

[Da****]

No need to even comment at this point it's all been said... Hats off to the ones that get it

[Ne****]

I’m sure most people that are in the lifestyle have said the same, but if your daddy knows you are new to this, and he actually knows his role, then he should be mentoring you instead of neglecting. He should be making you feel like you are worth every spare moment of his life. So either things are way off or need to be way different

[Deleted Member]

That’s not a daddy. That’s a boy wanting someone to just do what they say. You’re not in the wrong at all. He is.

[ma****]

10 minutes ago, MrCripple said:

That’s not a daddy. That’s a boy wanting someone to just do what they say. You’re not in the wrong at all. He is.

THIS THO.

Best phrasing on this thread I've seen yet.

[ju****]

Quit bein half a**! Making him feel like the champ is all you have, don't ever half a** that's when discipline or punishment comes in just because some one holds a high standard , doesn't make them a bad person.

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, junkyard said:

Quit bein half a**! Making him feel like the champ is all you have, don't ever half a** that's when discipline or punishment comes in just because some one holds a high standard , doesn't make them a bad person.

Exactly what a real daddy wouldn’t say🙄

[Ni****]

A daddy is someone patient, respectful, and willing to guide you. This guy is just a chump calling himself a daddy so he can get a pass on unacceptable behavior. Your Daddy will empower you, make you feel valued, make sure you know you're special, and care about your pleasure just as much as his. Remember, this is supposed to be a mutually beneficial relationship. Kick this imposter to the curb Baby. You're better than that.

[Ni****]

1 hour ago, junkyard said:

Quit bein half a**! Making him feel like the champ is all you have, don't ever half a** that's when discipline or punishment comes in just because some one holds a high standard , doesn't make them a bad person.

What are you talking about? She's explaining being new to the scene and a dude that's being disrespectful. Don't push an abusive relationship. She should be respected and taught not put down.

[Deleted Member]

10 hours ago, cincinnati777 said:

Hey there, I'm new to the Fetish scene. ......Sorry for long post..😭

I am very sorry that your relationship with your Dom doesn't seem to work. Relationships of any sort, including in our lifestyle, MUST positively affect BOTH/ALL partners overall. If that DOESNT HAPPEN, you need to try to resolve it. Letting things cool down and then holding an honest dialogue WITHOUT HIDDEN agendas and sticking to a forward-looking and non-blaming approach can do wonders for restoring a balance between/amongst partners. 

A WORD OF CAUTION - if you have tried your best a couple of times and for WHATEVER reason, your relationship STILL FEEL AN ORDEAL .......YOU MUST PROTECT your WELL-BEING and WALK AWAY. If not able to do this alone, speak to your friends and/or helplines about ABUSIVE relationships.  THE SOONER, THE BETTER IT WILL BE 

Feeling in love with our partner(s) cannot be an excuse to ruin ourselves. For various reasons related to human nature, we can "fall in love" with people, ***s, alcohol, and ourselves if we become narcissistic enough, ...when it is becoming destructive, it is called addiction or obsession. Then we MUST choose to come out of it.  
 

Good luck 🤗🤗🌹🌹xx

 

 

PS: as no doubt, others might have already said. You are SOOOO VERY WELCOME to write in here your worries and thoughts at any length and frequency makes you feel better 🤗😊x

[TheBookCollector]

From what has been said in the op, you are not compatible and looking for reasons to stay reather than move on and find another relationship.

It sounds like he is putting his own inadequacies onto you and you dont have respect for him as hes not earned it.

So my advice is move on and find another partner, use this as a learning experience for everything that you dont want in a relationship.

[Chloebear]

Others have said it, but to repeat walk away from this man.

He is not a good Daddy, Dom or partner. Your confidence is low after your marriage, but Daddies build you up. This guy is making you feel worse. You think you feel love, it maybe feels like it, but when someone respects you and invests in you the way you obviously want to invest in them, you will feel love, because it’s a two way emotion. 
Some guys think making people feel small is Domming. It’s not. At the worst end that can be abusive. Walk away from him and find a Daddy that appreciates you, the experience will be night and day different.

[ju****]

Definitely watch what you sign n who you deal with.Some are more serious n some like to play video games

[Chloebear]

3 hours ago, junkyard said:

Quit bein half a**! Making him feel like the champ is all you have, don't ever half a** that's when discipline or punishment comes in just because some one holds a high standard , doesn't make them a bad person.

This demonstrates only that you have no idea about Daddy Doms or respect. Mutual respect is at the core of all dynamics. Communication and flexibility are part of that; pure self-focussed rigidity isn’t being a Dom, it’s being abusive. A.k.a. being a bad person. The needs of both parties should be met. 

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, junkyard said:

Quit bein half a**! Making him feel like the champ is all you have, don't ever half a** that's when discipline or punishment comes in just because some one holds a high standard , doesn't make them a bad person.

I can imagine like the rest of us, you are a lovely person and you would like to be carring and supportive to anyone in need. Assuming all that is reported in the message of the newbiw sub are accurate. She is experiencing *** and all the signs show this is staring to affect her well-being.

Remaining constructive I am not going to assign blame  to any part of the relationship. Yet in the spirit of Nonmaleficence the ONLY advice that CANNOT BE GIVEN to the newbie sub is to try to stick to the "high standard" of her Dom   to use your expression. That might end up causing that mental health trauma ....to both of them actually.

Could it be that you might want to reconsider you initial post under the light of what I just mentioned? 

have a nice day 

[Ma****]

Find someone else, you are not compatible, and if he was any good he would notice this, sorry but you should be able to find someone who knows how to make allowances,

[un****]

Ok. Look back at why your marriage was "bad", and why he wasn't right for you. Is your daddy anything like this? Sometimes we can be attracted to the same type of person because we know how to live with them. I feel that your daddy is playing you, manipulating you, and using coercive behaviour to keep you. This is a toxic situation, and promotes his narcissistic tendencies. Coming out of a bad relationship should give you the strength to see what you won't put up with again. I'm concerned daddy is no good for your mental wellbeing. You may be a sub at heart, but never forget you are a queen and should be treated as such.

[Lo****]

9 hours ago, sayre652 said:

What he doing is wrong but to help her she needs to see her wrong doing like she said not listening that needs corrected and jumping into a relationship so soon after being married without getting herself in a good place so she dont bring issues to the relationship she has not delt with that dont need to be someone else's problem to fix one that he has proven he clearly can't fix he can't even show love so he definitely can't help. But she needs to mentally needs to heal b4 starting another relationship hate me all you want but im right

Victim blaming. 

The OP’s situation, whatever it is, does not make the actions of the man excusable.

We don’t know how long ago the OP‘s relationship was. We don’t know how traumatic the breakup was. We don’t know anything apart from the appalling actions of a man who calls himself a Daddy. Daddies don’t try and destroy their subs with silence, they nurture them. 

Edited July 24, 2022 by Lockfairy

[Deleted Member]

He sounds quite uncompassionate, uncaring and despondent of you and your feelings. Especially after a failed marriage .
Are you sure you want to love someone like that?
He smacks of narcissistic tendancies to me.

Edit. I've just realised she's deleted her profile.

Hope she's taken in what people have said here and not done what "daddy" told her to do.

 

 

Edited July 24, 2022 by Deleted Member
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[Deleted Member]

This relationship goes wrong on several counts. You are new to this world and logically have no knowledge of the matter. This must be taken into account, that does not happen and that weighs heavily. Simply giving a list of rules and tasks and then simply expecting that to be enough is silly. Also, you are not communicating on the same level, so you are stuck at this level. Expectations are also miles apart. You rightly expect a listening ear and support, something every D type understands because you are inexperienced. And even if you were experienced, even then D and s must grow towards each other. Each D has its own methodology. He expects you to know what is expected of you from a list of tasks and rules. You won't get any further this way. Start communicating !

[Di****]

I’m sure you’re lovely, he just sounds like the worst