New to having a Daddy...buy I seem to suck at it.

[Firefox_]

This is not a true daddy Dom. Daddy Dom's are caring and guide you, support you etc. I'd run for the hills lovely, there are genuine lovely DDs out there. Also withholding communication is a hard limit for me too xxxx

[ch****]

Sounds toxic and one sided to me.

[Au****]

If you cannot be bothered to learn his rules inside and out then YOU are the disrespectful partner, YOU are the failure in the dynamic.... please find the courage to return the collar to Him and allow Him to find a partner who is as committed as He is to the dynamic

[DD****]

I seriously do not understand him. Daddy's should be guiding and supportively take their time to nurture you. Playfully caring nd be lovengly strickt.
When it comes to rules, just adding rules one or two at a time. So you can get used to them, explaining with good communication of whats expected.
Just throwing a list of rules one is biund to forget some.
That is in my case what I would do and in most cases think should be done.
One step at a time, specially when ur new to this scene.
Keeping silent and ignoring is just not the way to do things.
Hope u find ur happiness but it clearly is not in this case.

[Cu****]

Wow I completely understand your situation I am so sorry you are going through this it f**king hurts. I don't want to let mine go either but I know I will have to cut him off to be able to do what I have to do.

[ho****]

Babe this is entirely goes against the BDSM. Doms are expected to be caregivers/comfort/compassionate after play.

You're caught up with an a**hole who doesn't care about you. Leave his a**.

Meld with a different dom. You're not bad at this, he's just a shitty human being.

[Deleted Member]

Holding onto a toxic partner who does no good to you but guves you a tiny bit of attention to hold onto is something you can struggle with after a breakup.

It won’t do you good in the long run or in general.
There are a lot of good people and good Daddies out there.
Don’t let someone like that ruin this part of BDSM for you.

Sounds like you’re a really really good sub who cares for her daddy as well.

He’s just not a good dom.

Sounds like a dom who uses “Dom” as an excuse to be abusive and toxic and powerhungry.

Throw it away :/

[sl****]

This guy sounds like a narcissist

[Jo****]

Not a good partner/ Dom. As a Dom u always listen to my sub and help her better and push herself to her limits and past them. All while respecting her. This man seems selfish and has little respect for you or your dynamic.

[Dm****]

So just leave the MF lol

[Deleted Member]

This "dom" is not the one. He clearly doesn't actually understand the dynamic or what a gift and privilege submission is. Run.

[Ce****]

This almost seems like someone using bdsm as an excuse to be toxic... get out!

[sk****]

He's not a daddy to his little girl he has it totally twisted to me it sounds like a master slave thing not a daddy if you want to explore with a real daddy leave that situation and get yourself a daddy that knows that the better he treats you the better he gets treated by you and the more you will remember because you have never felt anything as enjoyable in your life.

[Wa****]

Just leave. Why hop right in one relationship immediately after leaving one? Go have fun and reset mentally and sexually

[te****]

The fact that this dom doesn’t help you or teach you better since you are new to it, I don’t think he’s really a dom, or he’s new to it himself, a true dom would be at least somewhat patient with you and train you to be a better sub, but if he treats you like this…it would be in your best interest to find another

[Ba****]

This sounds eerily familiar. If I didn’t know any better I would’ve thought I wrote this. Love and security to you

[vi****]

Be a good girl

[Chloebear]

1 hour ago, vinemont389 said:

Be a good girl

Wut? The OP has left. She won’t see your unhelpful comment, thankfully. Have a look at the other comments… she was being a good sub. The issue was the ‘Dom’, and I use the term loosely.

[Deleted Member]

Victim blaming.
The OP’s situation, whatever it is, does not make the actions of the man excusable.
We don’t know how long ago the OP‘s relationship was. We don’t know how traumatic the breakup was. We don’t know anything apart from the appalling actions of a man who calls himself a Daddy. Daddies don’t try and destroy their subs with silence, they nurture them.



So your saying it's ok to bring your problems to another and *** your new partner to fix you and not act like an adult and get yourself in a better place to bring something positive emotionally to the relationship. Thanks for letting us know you help build toxic traits and I never justified what he did you might want to read it again.

[Leisa]

I’m sorry she left. She’s in an abusive dynamic and I would have told her to leave if he was unwilling to give clear, precise direction with open communication.

[ki****]

If I don't have trust and respect I find someone else. This is #1 for me I wish you the best.🤗

[al****]

This doesn't sound like a Daddy. The rules should be agreed with you both, including what happens when you break them. If him seeing other women is a hard no for you (it's a hard limit for me), then he either shouldn't be doing it, or you two shouldn't be in this dynamic together.
Also, it's worth noting, are you really rubbish at it or is it just not who you are? Or is it who you are but he's constantly moving the goalposts or making it impossible for you to succeed? A daddy should be supportive and nurturing and this soon after a bad relationship, understanding of your past and caring. Building you up not putting you down.