Charms Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 I often spend over night or a few nights at my amazing masters. We do not always do kink things some nights we just do vanila things. Watching films an cuddles. What I find hard is when I go home an have my bed all to myself. I find it so hard not being able to fall asleep as masters not there to cuddle up to. It's not sub drop but sort of feels like it. Was wondering how do people cope ?
Deleted Member Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 I usually do things that typically would make me feel less lonely. Put on a movie, listen to a podcast so that it feels like someone's there. I also have a weighted blanket. I don't put it over me, I wad it up length wise so it feels like someone's there. I also have stuffies!
lolli-leigh Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 I always feel low on a Sunday when I return home after being with Sir. I try to focus on the positives of the time I have spent with him. I think of his cuddles and how they make me feel and find a blanket to wrap round me.
Glimmering Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 Do you talk outside of your meetings? Maybe let him know how it feels, your master should comfort you beyond in person if you feel such a loss without him, it’s always mutual so communicate how you feel after the meets xx
Je**** Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 Im the same. I don't think it's a subdrop, i think you simply just miss your human. But texting them at night. A stuffie to snuggle. Or bring the kiddos in beside you if theyre still wee.. But i have a LDR as you know, we just said feck it.. and moving in together. It's gonna kerb those lonely retreats back home. Hope you can find some comfort xxx
Charms Posted July 25, 2022 Author Posted July 25, 2022 I see master as often as we're both free. I'm lucky I don't live far from each other. He knows I miss him lots after I leave his home. Sometimes I even pop back for cuddles. Great he lives a few streets away from my home. Iv known him 29 years. My dogs sleep on my bed an I love my fur babys but it's not the same. @Finally_Jen good luck with the move. So happy for you.
Lu**** Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 Does this not depends on what type of relationship you have agreed to with your master? Maybe time to revisit the discussions if what is in place is not working for you. Just a thought...
Charms Posted July 25, 2022 Author Posted July 25, 2022 1 hour ago, LunaMaeve said: Does this not depends on what type of relationship you have agreed to with your master? Maybe time to revisit the discussions if what is in place is not working for you. Just a thought... I have a perfect relationship actually. Its working for me. I just miss him when I go home. Go from cuddling up to a human to sharing with avdog witch is different. At some point we as humans miss other people.
Lu**** Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 3 hours ago, Charms said: I have a perfect relationship actually. Its working for me. I just miss him when I go home. Go from cuddling up to a human to sharing with avdog witch is different. At some point we as humans miss other people. I totally can relate missing the human touch!
Deleted Member Posted July 25, 2022 Posted July 25, 2022 In an ex-dynamic I had, I also experienced this issue. The first time it happened was a bit of a shock so my then-Dom called me and we had a long discussion and sort of "verbal aftercare". If you're anything like me, it does get easier with practice, but there will of course always be that "I miss my person" especially as you're going to sleep, when you're ***. The best thing to do is talk it through with your master, if you haven't already, what you're feeling, maybe some things they suggest for you to do - maybe even see if there's a protocol you can put into place like extra checking in/communication, maybe a nighttime/bedtime call, etc for the day you return home.
al**** Posted July 26, 2022 Posted July 26, 2022 Totally relate, I did long distance for bit and the feeling of loneliness and missing him when I got home was too much for us both. We spent hours texting and talking on the phone to bridge the gap but we both need that in person physical touch, so we but the bullet and moved in together, but I appreciate that's not possible for everyone.
al**** Posted July 26, 2022 Posted July 26, 2022 23 hours ago, Finally_Jen said: Im the same. I don't think it's a subdrop, i think you simply just miss your human. But texting them at night. A stuffie to snuggle. Or bring the kiddos in beside you if theyre still wee.. But i have a LDR as you know, we just said feck it.. and moving in together. It's gonna kerb those lonely retreats back home. Hope you can find some comfort xxx That's amazing news Jen, hope it all goes well and there's toblerones aplenty! x
Je**** Posted July 26, 2022 Posted July 26, 2022 1 hour ago, albaprincess said: That's amazing news Jen, hope it all goes well and there's toblerones aplenty! x Thank you lovely. 😍😍😍 Definately helps with missing them if you get cuddles every night eh. Its not practical for everyone and some people like their own space. But our commute has been too great.. over the irish sea 😂
Charms Posted July 27, 2022 Author Posted July 27, 2022 Yes human cuddles are awesome. We see each other regular. Live 5 minutes away from each other. Most times I'm OK when I go home just the odd time. So I often end up back at his. I do also like my own space. I want live with any one ever again fully. Been there did it for 15 ish years. But sometimes it's better to look at a humans face than a dogs ass
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