Subs are people too

[An****]

58 minutes ago, guildford250 said:

I tend to lean very much towards being a dom, and the subs I have known have all needed looking after one way or another, normally mentally to make sure they are not overwhelmed or find themselves in a position that they simply cannot control should there be an urgent need to do so. And it can crush their confidence if not respected. So my approach is to assume equal power 100:100%. Subs can lend me their power , up to 100%, but it is still theirs, and they can take it back at any time, expecting me to give it back immediately. I would and always do that, because that trust built means we can all enjoy our pleasures together. JJx

I 100% agree there’s a difference between being a sub and being co-dependent. Like there’s a difference between being a dom and being possessive and jeleous. One is born from love the other from weakness. If your not comfortable with yourself you’re not ready for this kind of relationship.

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I love that you shared this dear.

[Da****]

Tuesday at 06:02 PM, AndiBoi said:

Again. I'm not calling them out. I'm calling out the people that settle for that. I am pointing them out yet. But not once did I say please stop scamming. I said please stop supporting it. Also not saying they don't target others. I'm saying we're targetted more often. I also admit that may be my perspective. But if you don't agree with what I say that's fine. But don't claim I'm saying something entirely different. If you feel I was wrong for expressing my feelings on it that's fine. I'll accept that you feel that way. I'm happy and content so it makes no difference. You're entitled to feel differently.

Wait you're blaming the people who fall for the scammers...not the scammers?!?!?!?!? WTF that's like blaming the victim for not knowing any better... and just so you know Male Doms get scammed just as much as you do.. and it's on every site..

[An****]

15 minutes ago, Daddy-n-Paddy said:

Wait you're blaming the people who fall for the scammers...not the scammers?!?!?!?!? WTF that's like blaming the victim for not knowing any better... and just so you know Male Doms get scammed just as much as you do.. and it's on every site..

Im not blaming anyone for anything. Ima asking people to take time to think.. I never go to third party apps even if i know it's a legit person. It's a policy of mine. Because i have enough respect for myself to draw a line. Falling for a scam once or twice. Its happened to us all.. You can pick apart my comments all day long but my stance wont change. Is it so much to ask that we all try to have a little respect for ourselves. None of us will be happy or fulfilled until we do that first. I know learning that change my life for the better. Im not desperate for a partner. Im happy expressing my kinks alone. appreciating others who are comfortable with themselves and their kinks and those who've found awesome friendships and relationships with people who share their passions. But do you know what all those people have in common. respect.

[An****]

23 minutes ago, Daddy-n-Paddy said:

Wait you're blaming the people who fall for the scammers...not the scammers?!?!?!?!? WTF that's like blaming the victim for not knowing any better... and just so you know Male Doms get scammed just as much as you do.. and it's on every site..

also I've already expressed that i was mistaken saying mainly sub males deal with this. I understand that was probably triggering to a lot of people. I wish you all the best.

[Da****]

4 hours ago, AndiBoi said:

Im not blaming anyone for anything. Ima asking people to take time to think.. I never go to third party apps even if i know it's a legit person. It's a policy of mine. Because i have enough respect for myself to draw a line. Falling for a scam once or twice. Its happened to us all.. You can pick apart my comments all day long but my stance wont change. Is it so much to ask that we all try to have a little respect for ourselves. None of us will be happy or fulfilled until we do that first. I know learning that change my life for the better. Im not desperate for a partner. Im happy expressing my kinks alone. appreciating others who are comfortable with themselves and their kinks and those who've found awesome friendships and relationships with people who share their passions. But do you know what all those people have in common. respect.

I'm not asking you to change. But just because someone asks to use a better method of communicating the the crappy messaging part of this app or any other app for that matter doesn't mean it's a scam...I use other apps because this app never sends me notifications and the support always responds in German..

What you are asking is for people not to take a risk and maybe just maybe have a real conversation on a third party app... I agree with you that people need to protect themselves and go into those conversations with skepticism. I respect you choices and never asked you to change your position, but if you read your post it reads that you are blaming the people getting scammed for being scammed not the scanners for doing it in the first place... all that is, is victim blaming.. and not addressing the problem of the scammer...

I have plenty of respect for myself and others, whether it's their kinks, their position on a topic, I respect their opinion regardless of whether I agree or not.. that doesn't mean I condone it. I have made plenty of friendships on here because I do have enough self-respect that I am not threatened by an opinion that differs from mine.

Again I am not attacking you personally..just the way your post reads. Because even in your response you still didn't say one words that the issue is the scammers, just that people need to think and protect themselves from the scammers...

[Da****]

4 hours ago, AndiBoi said:

also I've already expressed that i was mistaken saying mainly sub males deal with this. I understand that was probably triggering to a lot of people. I wish you all the best.

You did do that in a later post and I hadn't read that one before responding...so my apologies...

[Da****]

4 hours ago, AndiBoi said:

also I've already expressed that i was mistaken saying mainly sub males deal with this. I understand that was probably triggering to a lot of people. I wish you all the best.

I wish you all the best as well...