Trans Men

[Ki****]

I’m curious as to why the initial assumption when a person’s gender is marked as trans is that of trans women, I haven’t been apart of the app long and already been approached a few times under the assumption I was a trans woman. Are there not many trans males on this app?

[ey****]

there are trans men on here - but - I think a lot of people are more aware of trans women in general : from media, their own exposure, so on - I can understand why folk make false assumptions (even if they do just need to look at your profile to be put right) 

[Deleted Member]

there are far more trans women than trans men, not just on the app but in general

[ey****]

3 minutes ago, a1exk said:

there are far more trans women than trans men, not just on the app but in general

you might be surprised to hear this, but

these are US stats

1.3m adults identify as transgender

38.5% are trans women

35.9% are trans men

(25.6% are non-conforming, i.e. non-binary or genderfluid, so on)

So there's not that much in terms of wild difference.

[Deleted Member]

16 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

you might be surprised to hear this, but

these are US stats

1.3m adults identify as transgender

38.5% are trans women

35.9% are trans men

(25.6% are non-conforming, i.e. non-binary or genderfluid, so on)

So there's not that much in terms of wild difference.

that’s quite interesting, worldwide there are twice as many trans women as trans men.

[ey****]

29 minutes ago, a1exk said:

that’s quite interesting, worldwide there are twice as many trans women as trans men.

that might be the assumption but I'm not convinced it's true.  It's more based on perceptions.

[Deleted Member]

Yeah I’ve heard recent stats say more trans men making transition than women. Good on them all. F**k the patriarchy.
Ps it’s odd because the app doesn’t specify your gender when trans-it just puts “trans”!

[Pu****]

Hi, trans man here!
Firstly the assertion that some people make that there are more trans women than trans men is just flat out false, there is nothing to suggest that there are more trans women than trans men if you actually look at the statistics(I know that OP didn’t make that claim, but I just needed to put my two cents in).

Secondly: yeah, I get that a lot. Even people who have it on their profile that they are into men will assume that “trans” means “trans woman” and it’s honestly pretty tiring. But there are trans men on here, we exist and would like to be seen and recognised as such. Also cause if one more person tells me how much they want my “femboy” body, I’m gonna scream. Like one thing is being fetishised for being trans, but when it’s not even aimed at the gender you actually are - it gets old really freakin’ fast.

Incidentally you shouldn’t write that shit to trans women either, unless you’ve both agreed that it’s okay.

[Cu****]

I haven’t had that happen yet fortunately.

[Bo****]

No theres not. That is one of my fetishes but it's so rare

[Ba****]

Trans man here! We're here. I haven't had anyone on this app/site think I was a trans woman, but I'm also very adamant about people not using feminine compliments on me. :)

[Bu****]

3 hours ago, BabyBoyNate said:

Trans man here! We're here. I haven't had anyone on this app/site think I was a trans woman, but I'm also very adamant about people not using feminine compliments on me. :)

I'm curious what you consider a feminine compliment? Is beautiful feminine, cause it's not explicitly gendered, but society has made it seem that way. Just genuinely curious, sorry if this comes off as combative

[Bu****]

3 hours ago, Bo215 said:

No theres not. That is one of my fetishes but it's so rare

It's not okay to fetishize someone's identity. It's just not, in any way, okay.

[Ga****]

11 hours ago, Bulbarat said:

It's not okay to fetishize someone's identity. It's just not, in any way, okay.

I think a person Can fetishize whatever they please. Are we fetish shaming now?

[eu****]

Yes there is, and there seems to be those on this platform that only gravitate twords trans women.I have a lot of people that look ,but oh he doesn't have
a penis so yes we are over looked or assumed we are trans
women.I bi trans man and I've yet in three months had a date
hookup none.

[ey****]

1 hour ago, GandG_inSD said:

I think a person Can fetishize whatever they please. Are we fetish shaming now?

it's not really 'fetish shaming'

it's basically seeing people *as* a fetish and not *as* a person - which understandably grosses a lot of people out and puts a lot of people off. 

[ar****]

I guess trans man generally would be on Grindr, b/c lots of men on Grindr are already kinky so there is less call for a specialist kink platform for gay men

[eu****]

eugene742 You know I been thinking about group Grindr. That and since everyone is so specialized, as you say witch in it's self is BS!
If people on this platform are going to specify there kinks to certain gender groups,
and that is exactly what most of this so
called fetish is. I'm about ready
to bounce I just want to be kinky
explore my new sexuality.And what is this take the time to get
to know each other,that happens when ya ingage in sexual acts (come on people)

[eu****]

Hence" I would love to be intersexed,Oh' but wait I can just
add a dick to me.Its not hard people we all have kinks and yes I am very frustrated.Having to explain who I am,I am bi-trans-man and no I haven't
had the eight surgery's.Decited
not to when I came out bi-sexual.Any one can read up on a potential date, hook up,
pet,slave,brat and Dom.
It's called research?

[Bu****]

Yesterday at 08:41 PM, eyemblacksheep said:

it's not really 'fetish shaming'

it's basically seeing people *as* a fetish and not *as* a person - which understandably grosses a lot of people out and puts a lot of people off. 

Thank you, there's nothing wrong with fetishes. But people's identity, race, ect. aren't fetishes, it's dehumanizing

[Ca****]

New to this site, but thought it was weird you could choose Man, Woman, Trans but not Trans man or Trans woman and i havent seen where you can put pronouns🤔 seems odd for a site that's fetish based and, one would assume, inclusive of all identities.

[Ki****]

18 hours ago, ariana_grandad said:

I guess trans man generally would be on Grindr, b/c lots of men on Grindr are already kinky so there is less call for a specialist kink platform for gay men

Why would we generally be on Grindr unless we’re looking for specifically gay or bi-male partners/hookups?

[ar****]

1 hour ago, KingNico said:

Why would we generally be on Grindr unless we’re looking for specifically gay or bi-male partners/hookups?

I guess I was basing this on most trans ppl I know being w ppl who are also trans in the same way - at least as a primary partner. Even if you then split the rest of trans men up between different types of attraction it would make the majority attracted to men?

[Ki****]

5 hours ago, ariana_grandad said:

I guess I was basing this on most trans ppl I know being w ppl who are also trans in the same way - at least as a primary partner. Even if you then split the rest of trans men up between different types of attraction it would make the majority attracted to men?

That still seems like a rather broad assumption.

[ar****]

7 hours ago, KingNico said:

That still seems like a rather broad assumption.

Fair enough.