Healthy dynamic

[Bi****]

In your opinion, what is something thats important for you to practice often in order to remain a good Dom or sub? And how do you and your partner insure your power exchange is still on point from when it was first discussed? Thanks 🙏

[am****]

I believe aftercare is important to practice so the trust stays committed. Just make sure you’re doing your role as a dom such as, being a leader, protector and en***r. And make sure the sub is doing the job at pleasing you in any aspect. 😉

[Deleted Member]

Consistency.

[Bi****]

20 minutes ago, am024 said:

I believe aftercare is important to practice so the trust stays committed. Just make sure you’re doing your role as a dom such as, being a leader, protector and en***r. And make sure the sub is doing the job at pleasing you in any aspect. 😉

I Love you 😘

[Bi****]

17 minutes ago, wicklowdom said:

Consistency.

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[slavewife]

my master always has my interests at heart and is always looking out for me wether it be having a lie in or day to day life. i myself always do the same we connect and have done in all the time we have been together. we now 24/7 live together but things have never changed. best thing we have ever done is never held anything back we have told each other things we never thought we would but the best thing we do is out kitchen chats, he in one room im in kitchen and we can talk for hours about everything kink where we want to go what we want to imporve on and ideas.
the dynamic is always there only time it changes is when we work but even then a message from him and im goo goo (not good ha)
we have talked and still do talk for hours i know when in public where i have to stand (sounds daft but been together to long )
sorry if this is not the answer you needed

[Bi****]

20 minutes ago, Subsluta said:

my master always has my interests at heart and is always looking out for me wether it be having a lie in or day to day life. i myself always do the same we connect and have done in all the time we have been together. we now 24/7 live together but things have never changed. best thing we have ever done is never held anything back we have told each other things we never thought we would but the best thing we do is out kitchen chats, he in one room im in kitchen and we can talk for hours about everything kink where we want to go what we want to imporve on and ideas.
the dynamic is always there only time it changes is when we work but even then a message from him and im goo goo (not good ha)
we have talked and still do talk for hours i know when in public where i have to stand (sounds daft but been together to long )
sorry if this is not the answer you needed

How long we you together when you guys decided where you stood in public? Was it his decision? Did he ask you if you were okay with that? Tell me more about how that got started! 🙏 thank you !!!!

[Th****]

Information.

As a dom. If you cannot answer the question, “ why “ then things will fail.

“ because I said so” is never an acceptable answer from any dom

For obvious reasons I left out the basic bullshit like trust and commitment. Because that should be unsaid.

A sub should be asking ….why? And a dom should have an answer. If not …don’t do whatever it was.

Have conviction with your actions and your sub will understand.

Understanding breeds trust.

We have to remember as doms that not everyone has a full understanding of why they’re doing what they’re doing.
A dom is a guide. But not crutch. If we carry them through said experience they learn nothing.

And this goes for Subs as well!!!! Go beyond communicating. Like am024 said. After care is key. Let them talk …and listen. Understand , and have answers. Believe in what you do.

If you are not always learning as a dom you are doing it wrong! Hehehe

Good luck and be safe, cheers 🥂

[Th****]

And now I just hope ur actually bill gates hahahahahaha

[slavewife]

sorry dont know how to cut and paste on this . it took a while but once we went to master slave and exploring it it was just natural i just always seem to be on his left not sure as he does most driving and lay left of bed (which hard as always like being near door mummy thing) and it all just formed just took us a while to realise what i was doing and now i feel uncomfy on his right if i am i have to walk behind till i can get there if you get me . i always walk in front as well but thats an ass thing he needs to see it ha . but we never spoke about it till about 2 years in as we never realised thats what we do was  a subject someone said on here and it clicked 

[slavewife]

just to add depends if you 24/7 or just play pals then you have your own things you want out of play but still talk the ears off each other

[DeviantInside]

Ok… the one thing above all others I believe is important is… communication. Of your expectations, needs, wants, what is working, what isn’t, things that intrigue you, things that you thought would be interesting but now have changed, what you hope for, what the relationships means (or doesn’t mean) for you. And so much more. Basically it all comes down to communicating well.

[Da****]

29 minutes ago, DeviantInside said:

Ok… the one thing above all others I believe is important is… communication. Of your expectations, needs, wants, what is working, what isn’t, things that intrigue you, things that you thought would be interesting but now have changed, what you hope for, what the relationships means (or doesn’t mean) for you. And so much more. Basically it all comes down to communicating well.

I can't agree more... my sub and I talk about everything.. we are much more than play pals.. I am in every part of her life, in and out of the bedroom... for us the communication has been essential as there have been assumptions that were completely wrong and the communication has been a saving grace.. everneefs to feel safe communicating so they can be open about what's going on.

[Deleted Member]

Sex. Hard rough nasty sex. I'm usually yelling her reminders that she is a sex slave to me. Its like therapy. I like to record it and post it on Twitter for everyone to see. It's all through sex for us. Anything else seems like roleplay.

[po****]

pacing is very important like yes communication but also checking in with yourself and self advocacy (for what you dont want to do and what you do want to try) is important. my sub and i did a very intense scene one time and it started slowly and i double checked each time it got more intense and they paused us to switch to aftercare/softer play about half way through and then picked up again it's all flexible and always ready to pause

[de****]

Communication is a high value. If i want to be able to get what i want, i need to give SSC in full and keep aware to check if she is ok with what and how is done. Through time, as the connection gets more fluent, some levels can be rested more, because mutual understanding, trust and reliability already raised to higher and deeper understanding of eachother. Always two fingers on the pulse.

[ma****]

Honesty and good communication.

[Mi****]

I’m upvoting communication as well, for any relationship really, but especially a D/s one. Checking in before, during, and after playtime, always keeping the lines of communication open, and making sure you and your partner are in a good place. It’s a good idea to establish the routine of a monthly relationship check-in as well, to make sure you’re both on the same page. You can often address small problems and differences before they become larger issues. Even if you don’t identify as polyamorous, I recommend using the R.A.D.A.R. method from the Multiamory podcast.

multiamory* radar 

A little regular communication goes a very long way towards keeping the relationship bond strong.

Edited September 4, 2022 by FETMOD-TF
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[pi****]

Be honest and I agree communication always. A must in my d/s relationship

[Po****]

I agree with MisterUp. Periodic check-ins to assess the health of the relationship are important. I find that people say communication is key but they don’t actually know what that looks like. Be honest and open to the extent that your partner doesn’t feel ashamed for expressing themselves.
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Also remember that not everyone will be on the same level of communication as you are. They should be willing to improve though. If they aren’t ok with that and your needs aren’t being met, then it’s ok to walk away. I repeat— it’s ok to put yourself first.

[Deleted Member]

Honesty and open communication without forgetting the overall goal. Revisit and communicate feelings and plan things out and stick to it exactly as planned.

[Bi****]

3 hours ago, denair678 said:

Honesty and open communication without forgetting the overall goal. Revisit and communicate feelings and plan things out and stick to it exactly as planned.

💯

[Deleted Member]

September 3, The-White_Rabbit said:

Information.

As a dom. If you cannot answer the question, “ why “ then things will fail.

“ because I said so” is never an acceptable answer from any dom

For obvious reasons I left out the basic bullshit like trust and commitment. Because that should be unsaid.

A sub should be asking ….why? And a dom should have an answer. If not …don’t do whatever it was.

Have conviction with your actions and your sub will understand.

Understanding breeds trust.

We have to remember as doms that not everyone has a full understanding of why they’re doing what they’re doing.
A dom is a guide. But not crutch. If we carry them through said experience they learn nothing.

And this goes for Subs as well!!!! Go beyond communicating. Like am024 said. After care is key. Let them talk …and listen. Understand , and have answers. Believe in what you do.

If you are not always learning as a dom you are doing it wrong! Hehehe

Good luck and be safe, cheers 🥂

As a sub, I fully agree! I learned very quickly that I don’t care so much as what are the kinks rather why. If a Dom is able to tell me what about something he likes or how it makes him feel positively then I’m much more able to submit because I feel I know him. The trust is built on the fact that he was *** enough to tell me what he thinks/feels, so of course I want to give him this, and in return I’m pleased at giving him the satisfaction.