Wtf am I? And DP?

[Deleted Member]

I really want to know and positivity identify my true nature in this world I’m intrigued with it almost obsessed 🤩 I think I’m a brat but I have little tendencies and I’m totally submissive but with that I’ve always been monogamist because I felt like my dom was my world and I wanted him to own me I really enjoy being property but my new dom wants me to do a MMF threesome and I am scared 😱 what if I can’t go thru with it? I want to and it turns me on… what woman wouldn’t it? Am I going to do it? Am I going to be comfortable?

[Du****]

I think it's okay to anxious about it. It's a new experience just know that at anytime you can pull the curtain. Be adventurous, have fun, find new things but hold boundaries. Any respecting person will let you say stop whenever you need to.

[BigPolly]

Bringing in another person for play can be viewed as just another item pretty much like a vibrator, dildo, restraints etc It doesn’t necessarily mean your Dom wants anyone else involved in your dynamic it’s just another way of playing.
And if you do like it, then it’s another avenue to explore over time, not something that has to happen every time you play together.
If you don’t like it then like anything else, it becomes a hard limit.
It doesn’t make you anything or mean you have to have a different label and it doesn’t make you any less loyal to your Dom but whatever happens don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with, if you can’t get your head around it then don’t do it until you can and if you say yes then can’t go through with it that’s ok too. Your Dom should put your welfare and safety first.

[Br****]

Communication is key. If you’re uncomfortable then tell your dom. don’t do anything you’re not comfortable doing, and never feel pressured. Just because you’re the sub of a relationship doesn’t mean you don’t have a voice in what you do🙂

[Deleted Member]

It’s okay to not be just one thing. I’m a brat and a middle. I love the idea of being shared but I never wanna share 😂 but if you don’t want to go through with it, that’s okay, too.

Having another Dom after getting close with one is hard. You’re doing your best.

Maybe talk through it with your Dom? Maybe you can see what scares you the most about it and whether or not you want to do it, or you just like the idea of it.

[Ri****]

I don't think you should do anything you're not comfortable with: there are limits and safe words for a reason and if your new Dom transgresses them you might want to consider if he's good enough for you

[Cj****]

If your done is completely in tune with you and your emotional maturity, not to be mistaken for the standard maturity that people refer to when we are young , then you won’t have to feel as if it all falls on you to perform. He will be able to tell if you are relaxed enough to initiate this threesome and when the time is right for you he will allow you to invite your third into bed with you there should never be a sense of pressure for any of you that way you all can just enjoy each other and the experience but don’t be afraid to call it to all stop if it becomes uncomfortable at any point.

[Deleted Member]

I recently have a sub and what I have learnt is subs can’t say no to their daddies especially if they trust them. Do you trust your dom if yes a true sub is eager to please it turns them on

[Me****]

As a sub, you still have power. That’s what safe words are for. You can always say “no” at anytime. You can always make rules beforehand. This is always been a matter of trust. When you go and say “yes”, as a sub you’re entrusting your dom with your everything. But if you want to go through with this might I suggest baby steps. Perhaps being watched first, no touching, etc. New person means building up new trust. Unless you completely trust your dom’s selection, you can always select them yourself. It all hinges on YOU saying YES

[Ki****]

You’re probably all of those things, and maybe more. We can choose one title, but people are rarely one thing. I’ve found that certain people bring out different sides of my kink personality, so I may be a babygirl for one and a slave for another. 
 

As far as the MMF, you really need to talk it over with your dominant. I don’t think anyone should be pushed into something they’re really not comfortable with. Hard limits are hard limits.

But sometimes we may be interested and have ***s too. I was like that with needles: super afraid and not wanting to do them. But my dominant loved them and I wanted to please him. They turned out to be something very intimate and calming for me, and I love them now. So talk about your concerns with him and what boundaries you would like to set up. Sometimes it’s just anxiety and anticipation that keep us from trying new things. (Yes, I’m totally jealous and have always wanted to try a MMF, but easy to overlook any ***s when it’s not actually in front of you.)

[Deleted Member]

Perhaps you should move your focus back to submission and away from what submission entails. If you feel safe with your Dom and he’s not putting you in danger there is no reason for second thought. What is submission without a bit of ***, *** or other sacrifice? If your focus is him, isn’t it a monogamous on some level to do what he requires? Just some thoughts.

[So****]

It’s weird at first, but if the vibe is good between the three of you, and everyone’s paying attention to each other, it’s very rewarding! I prefer MMF/MFM threesomes to FMF, less work and more pleasure ime 🥰 Good luck and keep us updated! 💕

[yo****]

I can relate to this so much!!! I really want an MMF threesome but I'm nervous too 🙈

[Deleted Member]

Ah dont stress itll probly be fun just trust ya dom and enjoy it ur always gonna have nerves but like all first times just try and relax and enjoy the experience and pleasing ur dom 😈💯

[ny****]

You are allowed hard limits; if it’s not something you’re ready for; express that. Maybe arrange a meeting with the third party under a setting where you know it will be non-sexual and then you will have a better sense of it’s something you’d be comfortable doing in the future.

[Ro****]

Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with, especially if it goes against your gut feeling. I real Dom would NEVER share his sub, especially if she’s a little and collared.

[Lo****]

Personally .....i would not want to share you....I am looking for a sub who solely worships me and I think it has to be two way.....so many times a third element adds complications.....but that is my choice not a rule nor true for everyone....and I am still waiting for the right sub

[Kitten711]

People's true nature is often hard to define and label with just one thing bc obviously everyone is unique, it's ok to be a mixture of things, even if they're contradicting. With the threesome I guess just meet the other guy, maybe a few times causally and non sexually and be comfortable with him too beforehand, and just relax and have fun, and if you can't go through with it and want to stop at any point that's ok, neither of the guys should be mad at you or feel let down at all. You definitely shouldn't feel scared or ***d into it in any way. If you want to, give it a try and if it's not for you just stop and have a cuddle with your dom and have a backup activity planned for the 3 of you.

[Un****]

If you like to be monogomous then adding others to the dynamic could create emotional disturbances. If your dom is good at reassuring you and aftercare and you find it appealing to DP then it could be something enjoyable. It all depends if you want to risk it or not!

[do****]

So as much as it's important to explore and find your true nature, I wouldn't obsess with finding one label for yourself as different relationships will bring out different sides of you. In my time I've been called a pleasure Dom, a brat tamer, soft Dom, primal, and of course daddy.

In terms of the MMF I would say talk with your Dom and have a pause and stop plan that way and discuss that with the other guy. That way everyone knows if you're uncomfortable or aren't enjoying yourself what the signs are so that way you can stop and talk and either reset or just fully end the date. Either way have fun, be safe, and good luck!

[UK****]

Firstly, don't worry about titles, they are just convenient boxes to categorise people.  Very rarely does a person fit only in one box.

Secondly ,if you want monogamy why are you agreeing to a threesome.  Either you are OK with limited poly and you need to accept that or if you aren't then you need to insist that your dom respects your limits.

[no****]

Think you identify as a human being

[Je****]

Sadly I wasted decades on this question only to learn we do not neatly fit into boxes or stereotypes. The answer is you are you and you need to do you. Whoever you work with in this lifestyle needs to take the time to understand you and build a custom program that addresses your needs while intersecting with their own needs safely.

[Deleted Member]

Sounds hot I’ve been in a few

[la****]

Sounds hot to me