Wtf am I? And DP?

[jw****]

You have to remember that you also have a choice. Do you want to make your dom happy? Of course. But do you want to make yourself sad at the same time? Are you willing to cross your boundaries for someone else? Like anything else in a D/s relationship, you need to talk about this with him. Let him know how you feel. Maybe there are things you could do that would help become comfortable, if you wanted to build up to it. And if it’s not something you want, you HAVE to say that. As a sub, you are the one with power. You are always a sub. Your dom is not a dom until someone submits.

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10 hours ago, JerseyDmat said:

Sadly I wasted decades on this question only to learn we do not neatly fit into boxes or stereotypes. The answer is you are you and you need to do you. Whoever you work with in this lifestyle needs to take the time to understand you and build a custom program that addresses your needs while intersecting with their own needs safely.

This!! 100% THIS!

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Don’t let him spring it on you, cos without your consent it’s the ‘R’ word

[ch****]

Am sure this been said more than once, none of us are just one of these labels. You dont need a label to define who you are.
If you have concerns discuss them with your Dominant. Be open and honest, and remember there is a first time for everything that you do. It doesn't mean now has to be that time or ever.

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Friday at 07:45 AM, janieiswild said:

It’s okay to not be just one thing. I’m a brat and a middle. I love the idea of being shared but I never wanna share 😂 but if you don’t want to go through with it, that’s okay, too.

Having another Dom after getting close with one is hard. You’re doing your best.

Maybe talk through it with your Dom? Maybe you can see what scares you the most about it and whether or not you want to do it, or you just like the idea of it.

I feel you on the sharing part 💯 I can’t imagine seeing him with someone else and I would think he would feel the same but surprisingly he just loves to see me in my most euphoric moments and says he can’t watch me while he’s in action with me and to put it simply he loves looking at me, he really makes me feel beautiful he always wants to take pictures of me when he picks out my outfits and is always telling me how sexy I would be to watch from the sidelines.

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I feel you on the sharing part 💯 I can’t imagine seeing him with someone else and I would think he would feel the same but surprisingly he just loves to see me in my most euphoric moments and says he can’t watch me while he’s in action with me and to put it simply he loves looking at me, he really makes me feel beautiful he always wants to take pictures of me when he picks out my outfits and is always telling me how sexy I would be to watch from the sidelines. I am falling in love with my him and he’s making it so easy.

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Friday at 07:15 AM, BigPolly said:

Bringing in another person for play can be viewed as just another item pretty much like a vibrator, dildo, restraints etc It doesn’t necessarily mean your Dom wants anyone else involved in your dynamic it’s just another way of playing.
And if you do like it, then it’s another avenue to explore over time, not something that has to happen every time you play together.
If you don’t like it then like anything else, it becomes a hard limit.
It doesn’t make you anything or mean you have to have a different label and it doesn’t make you any less loyal to your Dom but whatever happens don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with, if you can’t get your head around it then don’t do it until you can and if you say yes then can’t go through with it that’s ok too. Your Dom should put your welfare and safety first.

On point thank you and he explained it the exact same way about the part where the other man is just a toy, no pun intended, and we are not cheating it’s only a new thing for us to play with and our bedtime is our special time when we love each other and that’s our time for one another with no one else. So again thanks for reiterating it for me.

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Friday at 09:03 AM, bratuser said:

I recently have a sub and what I have learnt is subs can’t say no to their daddies especially if they trust them. Do you trust your dom if yes a true sub is eager to please it turns them on

That’s how I feel 💯 I just am new to another person and I won’t have time to get comfortable beforehand because it would be just a fun time not a long time if you know what I mean… I usually spent time with the man I sleep with before deciding he’s the one I give my loyalty to and I did with my dom he is my safe and I do trust him completely I know he wouldn’t ever let anyone hurt me so on that tip we are crystal and I will obey his commands

[Cu****]

I switch all over. I’m just into whatever mood and chemistry is there. It’s all about those moments. One moment I need to baby someone the next I want to be dominated and told what a good princess I am.. and another I may be aggressive and make yu give me what I want ( with consent obviously ) …. It’s ok to not fit in a box or whatever. That’s the beauty of being human

[sw****]

I will say been there and so happy I did the MMF. I have never felt sexier and the way my partner looked at me during it was indescribable. It’s not something I would do all the time but on occasion it’s like an added toy but it does the work for you lol. DP is one of my favorite things now feeling so full and truly worshiped is powerful feeling.

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Friday at 09:46 AM, MercuryMan said:

As a sub, you still have power. That’s what safe words are for. You can always say “no” at anytime. You can always make rules beforehand. This is always been a matter of trust. When you go and say “yes”, as a sub you’re entrusting your dom with your everything. But if you want to go through with this might I suggest baby steps. Perhaps being watched first, no touching, etc. New person means building up new trust. Unless you completely trust your dom’s selection, you can always select them yourself. It all hinges on YOU saying YES

I like this idea of being watched first no touching! Thanks

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Friday at 10:14 AM, BiKitty said:

Perhaps you should move your focus back to submission and away from what submission entails. If you feel safe with your Dom and he’s not putting you in danger there is no reason for second thought. What is submission without a bit of ***, *** or other sacrifice? If your focus is him, isn’t it a monogamous on some level to do what he requires? Just some thoughts.

I really like what you’re saying here. The part about the true definition of submission… that part turns me on the most and it’s what has me on board firstly but after that the porn we have been watching is also turning me on.

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Friday at 10:39 AM, megbaby17 said:

I can relate to this so much!!! I really want an MMF threesome but I'm nervous too 🙈

I’ll update if we go thru with it and you too!!!

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Friday at 11:17 AM, RoccoSiffredi said:

Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with, especially if it goes against your gut feeling. I real Dom would NEVER share his sub, especially if she’s a little and collared.

OmG 😱 will the Real RoccoSiiffredi PLEASE stand up!!! I heart ❤️ you!!! And love seeing you in action I have seen all your videos! Which tells me you’re prolly just using a username because the man I watch is a #supafreak

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Yesterday at 12:32 PM, Alex10473 said:

Don’t let him spring it on you, cos without your consent it’s the ‘R’ word

He would never do that to me he’s very protective and proud of me and he wants it for us both not just him. There is no pressure at all just something he’s done before me and wants to continue but had reassured me if I didn’t want it then it would be just as fine not doing it .

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15 hours ago, swanDive99 said:

I will say been there and so happy I did the MMF. I have never felt sexier and the way my partner looked at me during it was indescribable. It’s not something I would do all the time but on occasion it’s like an added toy but it does the work for you lol. DP is one of my favorite things now feeling so full and truly worshiped is powerful feeling.

I love this

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Human. You're human.

[wa****]

Me and a guy friend have done DP and DVP a few times now and the best way to enjoy it is with guys who know what they’re doing. It’s all about the timing. When c**k is on the out stroke the other c**k is going in. When the timing is good everyone will f**king love it. It’s such a hot time. 💯🔥🇮🇹🍆

[ka****]

No, you won’t be comfortable and that’s the best part. You’ll feel as a submissive and work to satisfy your dom! Both M’s will have desires and take them from you. As a good sub you’ll submit to both of them and eagerly satisfy not crossing your doms wishes. Enjoy it!!!