Very new, how to know what I want?

[Newbieneedshelp]

I'm very new to this world, I know I like more than the norm. Was wondering without meeting a million people to try everything is there a way to narrow it down? Thank you for any help given xx

[Si****]

It's a bit like walking into a takeaway and saying I want food, but don't know what I like and I don't wanna try everything. Either ask a friend who tried some of the food yo see if you can get an idea, or try an item off the menu each time to see whether it interests you or not. Best of luck x

[ey****]

yes - and certainly I'd say that it's a good idea to try to narrow things do.  If nothing else, it helps you provide a starting point.

Have a little look at some of the kinks on this website, see which ones you feel you'd like to explore.

if there's something you're curious about - it can be a good idea to watch associated porn (but, remember that porn - for the best part - does not tell the full story) but remember nothing has to be to those extremes.

[Newbieneedshelp]

Thank you I will do that

[Mi****]

Firstly I would say dont be in too much of a rush to try new things, there are so many kinky activities out there, after 15 years in the lifestyle I still come across new things all the time.

One of my favourite ways to guage wether I may like to try something is to watch someone else doing it at an event so you could try that. At the very least munches and events will provide you with a lot of experienced people who you can talk to and ask questions

[UnwiseSexCouple]

I totally agree with Miss Tillysure. Search on here for a woman or couple (or perhsps Man) to take you to the southampton munch. Or go to the London Alternative market in the daytime and chat to stallholders - to get your confidence up.

[Astrild]

Hi. I'm also new to all of this. I've not tried anything with anyone yet, but I've done what eyemblacksheep suggested and checked out some porn. That can give you an idea for what does and doesn't turn you on. However, as he pointed out, porn can be rather lacking, so I also like to check out some erotica stories. You can find some that focus a lot on relationships as well as kinky sex, and these are the ones that really speak to me.