Deleted Member Posted October 1, 2022 Posted October 1, 2022 It's a well established stereotype that the male figure should protect you so they need to be bigger than you. It's well rooted in vanilla dating and probably even more if you look for a Dom figure. However, luckily, in the bdsm community there are people who question their prejudices and stereotypes and will know that height is not one of the important attributes of a good Dom
DireWolf91 Posted October 1, 2022 Author Posted October 1, 2022 Thursday at 06:55 PM, Demon___ said: I’m 6”4’ and 240, I find my physical size gives me a mental edge, but that’s all it is… an edge. Anything can be learned, remember big things come in small packages! It’s all about how you en***. Dominance means being in charge… of everything. Become the alpha maestro, leave no doubt in her mind that she’s in your hands and she will quiver every time. This is awesome feedback man, thank you!
DireWolf91 Posted October 1, 2022 Author Posted October 1, 2022 3 hours ago, NyxHypnoWitch said: It's a well established stereotype that the male figure should protect you so they need to be bigger than you. It's well rooted in vanilla dating and probably even more if you look for a Dom figure. However, luckily, in the bdsm community there are people who question their prejudices and stereotypes and will know that height is not one of the important attributes of a good Dom This comment is perfectly said! Thank you
Deleted Member Posted October 1, 2022 Posted October 1, 2022 Story time: On a different platform I was talking to a submissive from farther away and we did some online play. At one point she told me she was talking with a local dominant that she got along with but quickly lost interest when she found out he was shorter than her. She even provided to nickname him “the teddy bear” and told me “how could he dominate me when he is shorter than I am?” I told her that dominance isn’t all about hight and that if she actually liked him as a person and his dominance style that she could, at the very least, give him a chance. She agreed I was right and followed my advice. They proceeded to have a few years long relationships and he introduced her to new experiences. They did split up in the end, but still.
Lostlilgrl76 Posted October 2, 2022 Posted October 2, 2022 Aggressive v. Assertive, Dominant v. domineering; there are differences. Daddy’s height v. how His very presence commands my respect and attention reaches me in different ways, on different levels. I’m only 5’5, but make no mistake, I can be aggressive AF! His height(6’4)does not intimidate me, but rather makes me feel very safe and secure, especially in public, or if I am having nightmares, overwhelming emotions, etc.. I feel 110% safe with Him…ALWAYS, even when He expresses displeasure in my behavior or lack of.
au**** Posted October 2, 2022 Posted October 2, 2022 @Lostlilgrl76 is 100% correct. If a man carries himself with confidence and self assurance, height will not be an issue. I’m 5’ 6” and i date women in positions of power; i frequently get the comment that i’m the first man they’ve been with that they wanted to submit to. But if you are starting with a “don’t condone ***” view, i suspect you’re presenting as timid and unprepared to protect her. There’s nothing less sexy and dominant than that
Deleted Member Posted October 4, 2022 Posted October 4, 2022 I'm all of 5'7"", athletic but not big..it's how you project yourself that counts. So many state, and we've all seen the "Tall,dark handsome,over 6'" stipulation.. never underestimate yourself,it's the narrow minded who miss out.
pe**** Posted October 13, 2022 Posted October 13, 2022 I am a Transman switch. I am 5’6” as well and I don’t have a preference in height or gender. It is all in how the dynamics feel.
sa**** Posted October 14, 2022 Posted October 14, 2022 Nope. Admittedly I am very new to proper subbing, but my Dom's height does not matter as much as their skill.
ru**** Posted October 16, 2022 Posted October 16, 2022 "all" subs don't prefer anything. We're not one entity. Personally, I'm attracted to dominance, ethics, and personality. One of my Doms is shoulder height to me and she's scarier than our mutual partner, who is taller than I am.
Jo**** Posted October 16, 2022 Posted October 16, 2022 I’m fine with any height. For me it’s about energy and actions.
Ae**** Posted October 26, 2022 Posted October 26, 2022 "Large and aggressive" and "dominant" kinda fit like ice cream and hot summer days. But, people being varied, there might be a few subs that don't care or who prefer smaller doms.
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