Subs - How Do You Like To Be Approached By A Dom On This App

[OrchardBoy]

For me something along the lines of "Hi, I think you might be into what I'm into". As much as I love roleplay, and I very much like to be bossed about and spoken down to, starting like that from the get go just feels . . . . . weird (and not in a hot way!).

[lo****]

Top stud to take the lead with very specific things he wants to do with his boy

[tu****]

Adore me
I'm goddess on my knees

[Ka****]

Very aggressively and assertive to be told that we are going to meet and to be ready to be used..

[si****]

The dom takes control immediately and must be respected

[Deleted Member]

Why would you ask them what they want? They want to not have to think about what they want. They'll want whatever I want. If they don't, they're not submitting.

[su****]

You realise subs are human and you have to earn their submission. An aggressive first message will get you straight in my delete box. If you can't respect me from the word go how will you respect my gift of submission.

[wa****]

Straight to the point take it out period

[ma****]

I’m on my own here ig lol but um I tend to show slight interest first (ex: prolonged eye contact, a soft smile, a slight of hand. Depends really) then I like being perused HEAVY

[wa****]

Make me get on my knees worship you

[qu****]

If I had a dollar for every time one got away subtly noticing as they moved on I’ll put it this way I like things to be clear and understood

[Deleted Member]

I do realize everything you said, and none of it requires that I approach them the way they want. Not does it mean my approach would be too aggressive or disrespectful.

I choose to live life on my own terms and I'm confident that my approach is not a problem, even if I were to be rejected.

Very often, peoples preferences will change with the wind. They may even think they want a specific quality at a specific amount, only to find out they've been missing something better the entire time.

I will get nowhere by chasing the wind. I will wait patiently until it blows my way. Then, I will harness it and direct it wherever I want.

Whenever you approach anyone for the first time, you need to read the room first. That doesn't require asking the room what they want. It means you observe first, do you can respond in a way that doesn't induce discomfort.

Approaching a stranger requires a certain type of aggression that's not synonymous with being rude. It's a type of aggression that's bold or courageous. It's just the antonym of passivity. Breaking the ice with a stranger is an active process that requires the suppression of ***. I may be aggressive but I'm not too aggressive.

[Deleted Member]

4 hours ago, manicminxie said:

I’m on my own here ig lol but um I tend to show slight interest first (ex: prolonged eye contact, a soft smile, a slight of hand. Depends really) then I like being perused HEAVY

If we were in a room together and I asked you how you prefer to be approached, would you immediately assume I'm dominant or submissive?

[ma****]

I don’t assume, anyone can be approached or do the approaching, and it doesn’t change what they are or identify as. 🤷‍♀️

[sn****]

I like it subtle, I find it rude when they just insulting and hitting back instantly instead of waiting a bit 😅

[ed****]

I want to know exactly what you are looking for.

[da****]

IF I came across a Dom that wanted to approach me, (I can't find one anywhere it seems) I would be happy with a casual greeting and then straight to business. But I am a person. And disrespect ain't gonna give you access to my honey hole lol

[sk****]

I would prefer that Dom/mes would engage in proper conversation first. People being overtly sexual right out the gate is a red flag since it feels like you are bypassing the appropriate conversations to have like compatibility, limits and wants.

[Westernsky11]

23 hours ago, skyeyes93 said:

I would prefer that Dom/mes would engage in proper conversation first. People being overtly sexual right out the gate is a red flag since it feels like you are bypassing the appropriate conversations to have like compatibility, limits and wants.

Problem for anyone seeking a female sub is that they get a high volume of requests. How does one stand out and still start out as yourself?

[Fe****]

Casual approach. I'm here for kinks but I also wanna know the human. I know everyone here is passionate about their kinks but people being to extreme on the sexual side are not really my cup of tea.

[Ba****]

16 hours ago, Westernsky11 said:

Problem for anyone seeking a female sub is that they get a high volume of requests. How does one stand out and still start out as yourself?

Offer cheese. Nobody ever offers cheese

[EL****]

I wasn't to be approached initially as a person, not a sex object. Engaging with someone who sees you ONLY as a toy is dangerous and anxiety-inducing. Even well into the relationship, it shouldn't all be about your dom/sub dynamic. Sometimes we can be people for each other too.

[CopperKnob]

18 hours ago, Westernsky11 said:

Problem for anyone seeking a female sub is that they get a high volume of requests. How does one stand out and still start out as yourself?

1. Be authentic
2. Female subs are able to and do make the initial contact.
This is not a numbers game.
It's also not necessarily about the content of the message.
It's definitely not about the volume of messages received.
It's vetting. It's considering compatability. Mutual interests, chemistry. All the things that anyone looks for in any type of relationship, and yet people make out that this is rocket science.

[Th****]

I would like a potential dominant.
To chat and get to know me. Since I'm only looking for real life fun. Meeting up for drinks of some kind would be nice.Maybe a meal. That way, I get to feel their real energy.