How do I Talk to a Dom as a Sub..?

[Deleted Member]

I think yall took this post the wrong way!!! I am not talking about initial contact I'm talking about intimate contact!! Bringing up the fact that I want to be their sub/partner etc not the initial flirting, the talk you have after you KNOW you like them

[co****]

Wow this conversation or comments have me laughing 😃 so much look at the end if the day it's your choice everyone makes mistakes you just need to find the right guy or Dom 😘😘

[co****]

Can't wait to see what someone has to say about that 🤣🤣

[ey****]

30 minutes ago, kinkywitchbitch said:

I think yall took this post the wrong way!!! I am not talking about initial contact I'm talking about intimate contact!! Bringing up the fact that I want to be their sub/partner etc not the initial flirting, the talk you have after you KNOW you like them

In this case a lot of the same still applies.  Until there is a dynamic, don't really change how you interact

You can ask if it's a dynamic he would be interested in pursuing, especially if you are already both talking 

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, BratTamer41 said:

The reality is that she is some ones daughter and a human being, but potato potāto! The issue seems as if she’s just nervous! Knowing yourself and your audience is the key to developing a healthy relationship, that is governed by established boundaries set and agreed upon by all participating parties! That’s the beauty of being free to express ourselves! Give your opinion when asked, btw uk_alpha_dom didn’t ask your opinion, otherwise stay in your lane!😘

A wom*n is herself first, of value and respect not because she is someone’s daughter, but because she is someone. It’s not the same thing - words betray problematic attitudes.

I didn’t ask for your opinion either btw, and yet here we are.

[Br****]

21 minutes ago, shortcake_ said:

A wom*n is herself first, of value and respect not because she is someone’s daughter, but because she is someone. It’s not the same thing - words betray problematic attitudes.

I didn’t ask for your opinion either btw, and yet here we are.

Calm down kitty kat! I assume by your rhetoric your smart enough to know what was meant! One doesn’t take away from the other, daughter or human being, still a valuable part of life! They actually compliment each other, but again, potato potāto! BTW your comment shows that you didn’t appreciate when I was minding your business! This is what happens when you don’t stay in your lane…😘
Enjoy the rest of your day …

[Keelow]

Well if yall fit the vetting process should take care if all the butterflys or anxieties..... that should be discussed prior to entering a dynamic and put to rest..maybe iam off topic but that's what I can offer

[Deleted Member]

Take your time and and be present

[Keelow]

10 hours ago, shortcake_ said:

Please also beware of ‘doms’ using this post as a way to start a conversation. I would consider that predatory behaviour, as you are expressing a vulnerability

You are a Gods send here that is the best advice I've seen....the intent of some of these "doms" is straight malicious...you have to wade through alot on here just to have a valid conversation..

[Deleted Member]

Maybe come at it from a different angle, the right dynamics are going to naturally develop anyway if there is desire

[Deleted Member]

Be yourself!

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, BratTamer41 said:

Calm down kitty kat! I assume by your rhetoric your smart enough to know what was meant! One doesn’t take away from the other, daughter or human being, still a valuable part of life! They actually compliment each other, but again, potato potāto! BTW your comment shows that you didn’t appreciate when I was minding your business! This is what happens when you don’t stay in your lane…😘
Enjoy the rest of your day …

Respectfully, go fuck yourself. (This is what me in my lane looks like)

[ch****]

I’m definitely reading the comments because as someone who has a brat personality naturally, I find that most men, doms or not, are offended if you push back

[Excite356]

Be yourself!! If they dont like you for who you are, F**K THEM

[ca****]

Maybe you’re not a sub? Definitely work on your mental health first. Sounds like you may have some hidden doors you haven’t open and solved in a while.

When I have subs, I like for them to have a health conscience and have strong communication skills. Or else it just won’t work. That’s my two cents.

[Le****]

I have been in this lifestyle for many years, and in my personal opinion to find any dynamic that works uses some essential tools. Communication + honesty etc., but establishing a foundation of friendship is vital with any relationship(kink or not). Patience is not my strong suit but my advice would be take your hands off the wheel and see where this will take you. You may find they have an even bigger crush on you! Goodluck!

[Deleted Member]

Be yourself, be respectful, and be honest. Those three qualities are perfect for how to speak to a Dom. Kindness goes a long way for every aspect of life

[Bo****]

15 hours ago, chesterfield822 said:

I’m definitely reading the comments because as someone who has a brat personality naturally, I find that most men, doms or not, are offended if you push back

Literally!!!!! Omg ! Underrated comment.

[Deleted Member]

I’m always nervous when approaching a new domme. I just hope they sense my awkwardness and make the move.

[Deleted Member]

Be yourself. Every dynamic is based off of how each other prefer to live and is comfortable in that role. Be honest, many doms can see right through lies very quickly. They have been at this for a long time. Be respectful. Don’t address them under a title or honorific. Daddy, master, dom, slave, pet, etc..etc.. talk to them as you would someone you just met at the bar, coffee shop or anywhere else. Most doms and masters have a set guide they have come up with along the years they follow. In other words don’t be shocked by a question, task asked or anything once they get comfortable with you and may be close to asking you to be their half of a dynamic.

I’ve been living this lifestyle for 30 years. One never stops learning from it. Be patient. Some doms, masters and such have a process they take. I’ve taken up to 3-6 months before accepting someone before. It’s all about communication. If your interested, be interested. They will see you paying attention to them, looking for guidance. Don’t begin talking to someone and then leave them wondering for two or three days because you found something more interesting or exciting then come back when your left alone. We all catch that very quickly.

Most importantly, have fun being you and enjoy yourself. Look around, talk to others. Learn from everyone you can because no two dynamics are the same.

[Deleted Member]

Be yourself. Every dynamic is based off of how each other prefer to live and is comfortable in that role. Be honest, many doms can see right through lies very quickly. They have been at this for a long time. Be respectful. Don’t address them under a title or honorific. Daddy, master, dom, slave, pet, etc..etc.. talk to them as you would someone you just met at the bar, coffee shop or anywhere else. Most doms and masters have a set guide they have come up with along the years they follow. In other words don’t be shocked by a question, task asked or anything once they get comfortable with you and may be close to asking you to be their half of a dynamic.

I’ve been living this lifestyle for 30 years. One never stops learning from it. Be patient. Some doms, masters and such have a process they take. I’ve taken up to 3-6 months before accepting someone before. It’s all about communication. If your interested, be interested. They will see you paying attention to them, looking for guidance. Don’t begin talking to someone and then leave them wondering for two or three days because you found something more interesting or exciting then come back when your left alone. We all catch that very quickly.

Most importantly, have fun being you and enjoy yourself. Look around, talk to others. Learn from everyone you can because no two dynamics are the same.

Good luck.

[Mi****]

Proper vetting finding kink based relationships is key for safety and to determine potential compatability. Never enter roles until you’ve at least established basic getting to know each other tactics. You are human first and a basis of trust, honesty, respect, consent, and proper consistency with communication has to come first. Friends minimal to begin with. Then see if you both have the same interests, wants, needs, desires etc. Then you would assess compatibility with kinks, fetishes, hard & soft limits and basic boundaries that are important to you both. Go from there. Exploration and getting take time. You want to find decent people with similar interests. And weed out all the fakes, scammers, and scary folks that can be a danger emotionally, physically, psychologically etc. Sadly, there are no shortage of ***rs and a**holes out there to sift through. These are just general guidelines in the beginning. Be yourself. If you sense any red flags, run… Best of luck in your search xx

[Mi****]

Typo — above …. “exploration and getting to know one another takes time” **

[Deleted Member]

talk to your dom as if he owns you for real.

[Cu****]

Good comment MissCDomme