How do I Talk to a Dom as a Sub..?

[Deleted Member]

try being straightforward, (if you’re into guys) luckily we love that shit. it makes things easier as far as comfortably knowing your limitations and expectations, and it could save you a lot of bad or awkward experience. Overall know what you want and be open about what you think you wanna try, starting off the person you find should lead you into submission instead of demanding it outright.

[sh****]

Every body in a rush to kink it up .

[Ae****]

Work on your self esteem. Learn to not base your feelings on how a person responds to you. Learn to be ok with rejection. It's a big task.

There's no short fix for this. You're in the typical guy position. "Just be confident". "Be yourself". It's obviously not at all easy to approach someone, put yourself out there. You're not gonna be relaxed if you are worried what they think. Rejection hurts, a lot.

Having this kinda self esteem is one of the biggest asks a person can have. So be patient with yourself. Be happy you don't have to learn how to actively charm a guy. We deserve a medal for this stuff.

[Ae****]

Oh, also - you're in good company - most guys really struggle with this. It's such a hard thing to get - not caring what another person thinks of you. So you've picked a great challenge 🤝💪

[Ri****]

I overcame talking to people like that by slowly but surely letting a couple of walls down it’s ok to keep a few but it will take time to get there just keep trying and don’t let negativity get to you

[Deleted Member]

Right now this moment is all we have..trippin on that past or future does nada
Stay where your feet are
Shame is a funny thing..ask yourself why you have so much then ask why of the answers you get n so on…if someone thinks negatively about you- how will it actually hurt? It won’t..thought isn’t tangible it can’t touch you, you a badass Queen no one’s opinion of you means a thing
Walk tall chin up tits n teeth out

[Ae****]

Case in point - I joke around and *often* people can't tell and think I'm weird, or upset, or mean - and end up disliking me. But that's ok. I need to have relationships with people who enjoy *me*, who are on my wavelength, so I can be myself and be liked for myself. The sooner they let me know they don't get me, lack the same sense of humour or simply can't keep up, the better. It can be pretty funny sometimes 😅

It's a filter to find people who fit me, and saves me from stressing and pretending for anyone, and ultimately limits me to easy, fun relationships that work without needing to care at all how I come across or what they might think of me or how they may react - because I say whatever I want, and they either get it and love it, or they don't and we both find better matches.

[Deleted Member]

Great post.
Thanks for sharing.

I’m a switch.

One get rid of the mind set of anxiety.
I do breathing.
Breath in from the bottom of gut but on the sides not in the middle
When you pull the breath up the sides and bring the breath up to your chest & top of abs meet.
Pull breath together in center
image like a circle or ball
Blow breath out of this area.
Like the energy of breath out this area.
When full breath is exhausted
Hold your breath for a second
Then breath in again full breath
Hold for a few seconds
Then repeat the exhale again.

That should take away the feeling of anxiety.

It might work right a way or with a bit of practice.

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*Show respect- they may not. When Being submissive i except to be tested for my limits, ***, ***, so i look forward to it. I don’t *** it. The more I say to my self. Oh gosh oh my gosh oh my gosh. It builds mind energy & it makes it hard to act. So just act
*ask them what they want to be called
*they should you lead you
*be honest
*be open
* be up front

The more you. Walk and do.
The more you’ll do.
If you think and dont move
Then nothing gets done.
So just keep walking forward.
For *** can be exhilarating if walking in it for something good.

Well hope my words work.
Emperor Pope