What to do

[cl****]

When you are waiting to find a way to tell your wife that you want this

[Wi****]

It will either make your relationshipstronger or tear you apart.
Have hinted to her your interests?
maybe watch some porn together?

[ge****]

It depends what "this" is and how long you've been together but unless you have that conversation with her you'll never know either way.
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If you've been together for some time you must have an idea of her interests, or if not often a conversation that starts off talking about fantasies, hers as well as yours, is a good way to open up - but you also have to be prepared to accept that she may not have an interest at all.

[Lord_Talion]

Since you're more submisive I'd say get home before her and kneel at the door naked wearing cuffs and a collar and her favorite alcoholic beverage in one hand and a light flogger in the other

[bo****]

There are online questionnaires that you can reach fill in separately, and it'll then show you things you both want that you haven't dared to ask for.
Do that and it'll show you a couple of things
1 is she already into it and just waiting to be asked
2 do you have a major disconnection which will take some time and test the limits of your empathy
3 is there something that she wants that you haven't done, which you can start with so she feels it's fun to explore new ideas

[Qu****]

It didn’t work for me. I think it made things worse. He didn’t understand why I wanted what I wanted. Shamed me for it. Now divorced and free to explore. I hope yours works out better than mine.

[Deleted Member]

I told me dearly dear part as a joke
Made a joke of something.

Like I did something
She as upset a little.
I said
I guess ill go to the bed room so you can give me a good paddling.

So where it goes.
Either you get
Thats not funny
Or
You get
Yeah thats right
Get in there.
Hehe that be funny

Your Q to say ok lets do it.
Sounds fun
Lets spice it up a little bit.

Slowly introduce it into the life.
As time goes on it could open the door in a passive way.

[an****]

Lmao be an adult and just tell her? 😭

[za****]

Just surprised Ng out of the blue a d saying I want this.. I think would be traumatic for all. I'm going through it now. Gradually talking about the very few things I know about that are kink. And what I think I would enjoy to see the reaction and discuss it. If the answer is no.. then that leads to a discussion of how I can fill that gap.