New here - is there anyone real?

[Cr****]

Irony of ironies is — there’s more conversing that’s happened in this thread in the past circa 15hours than I’ve seen since I signed up on here hahaha.
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But people’s responses shows there’s lives connected through this app.
….I was beginning to think I’d just downloaded an app knock off of Fetlife..
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Happy weekend!

[Deleted Member]

Oh don’t doubt it for a minute. It really is a knock off app. Just more people here to ask for *** because they are hungry, they need their phone fixed, living with a sick grandma or aunt, needs *** put on a steam card so they can occupy their kid.

[Deleted Member]

You have no idea how many times I heard that old bit

[4R****]

5 hours ago, OneMaster4aslave said:

Oh don’t doubt it for a minute. It really is a knock off app. Just more people here to ask for *** because they are hungry, they need their phone fixed, living with a sick grandma or aunt, needs *** put on a steam card so they can occupy their kid.

Well you've clearly read the thread and all of the real people responding to it haven't you!!!!!! 

Oh and just for the record, my kid is occupied without the use of tv or video games, there's food in my cupboard, the heating is on, my phone works just fine and my grandma died 40 years ago!

[Deleted Member]

22 minutes ago, 4RCH said:

Well you've clearly read the thread and all of the real people responding to it haven't you!!!!!! 

Oh and just for the record, my kid is occupied without the use of tv or video games, there's food in my cupboard, the heating is on, my phone works just fine and my grandma died 40 years ago!

I'd love to be insulted but I'm afraid I don't know what a steam card is ...

Makes you wonder why the gentleman is here.

[Deleted Member]

No***ee none of us are real, it just all in your head

[Pe****]

Put a bit more effort into your profile. It’s boring and tells people nothing. Harsh? Maybe. True? Definitely.

[ey****]

one actual thing - I do feel a bit for some of the US counterparts - the site was initially rather UK/European focused and then kinda branched into the US so while there is clearly a growing base there, especially since the app launched a couple of years ago - there's a lot of people in the US finding fewer matches in their locality.

There are a couple of US users I know have had considered success so it's not a no starter, but I can appreciate things being a little bit more difficult there.  Especially depending on your geographical area, ability to travel, etc.   Mind, some of the more remote areas of the US are going to have problems finding many people on any site.

[Erebus]

1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

one actual thing - I do feel a bit for some of the US counterparts - the site was initially rather UK/European focused and then kinda branched into the US so while there is clearly a growing base there, especially since the app launched a couple of years ago - there's a lot of people in the US finding fewer matches in their locality.

There are a couple of US users I know have had considered success so it's not a no starter, but I can appreciate things being a little bit more difficult there.  Especially depending on your geographical area, ability to travel, etc.   Mind, some of the more remote areas of the US are going to have problems finding many people on any site.

I don’t know on another somewhat popular website that shall remain nameless apparently Antarctica is way more populated than I thought possible!🤣😂🤣

[Al****]

I mean there are real people ( me being one of them) but for some reason I seem to attract people way over my age

[Pe****]

Wishing you luck 🥰

[ey****]

2 hours ago, Erebus said:

I don’t know on another somewhat popular website that shall remain nameless apparently Antarctica is way more populated than I thought possible!🤣😂🤣

you'd think by now there'd be an Antarctica munch  

though, there is a lady on there who the other day put up a note about why she sets her location there and why she doesn't disclose location that often in any private conversations.  Because almost immediately she will get one of three responses "that's near me, we should meet", "I am happy to travel to you" or "Damn, shame you're so far" and in all of the above there is the presumption that she wants to, or should, meet them.    And while she has met people for play (and was in a relationship for a long time with someone she met on there) there is a certain air of entitlement.   

And this all fits in because then of course when it's "ok, we chatted for 5 minutes and now you want to meet, no..." there's the accusations of being fake.    Which ties quite neatly with this thread  

[sm****]

There are lots of real people, it's just down to putting the effort in and this can take a long time, for people to feel comfortable to chat with then hope things grow.

I know most lurk in the background.   As a tip one of the main things i was first taught in the scene, don't ever underestimate a good friendship base, "no matter the local" this can and does open more doors and meetings than just looking "local" but this does take time and it does tend to frustrate people just finding out about the scene.

One of the best ways is to see if there are any events particular munches in or within a decent traveling distance to you, has trust me there are far more people in the scene than try it out online.  

 

[Erebus]

51 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

you'd think by now there'd be an Antarctica munch  

 

I'm not sure I'd be up for a munch in Antarctica I think the prevailing winds or weather would be the only topic up for discussion!

[Leisa]

I think there are a lot if “real” people on the site. They just may not fit into your definition of what a real person is. You say you’re new to the site. How new? This is not a f🧲ck site and if you’re looking in that direction, you’re not going to find what you’re seeking here. If you’re looking for authentic individuals who you can begin a friendship with and allow for a normal progression you’ll have much better success.

[Deleted Member]

19 hours ago, 4RCH said:

Well you've clearly read the thread and all of the real people responding to it haven't you!!!!!! 

Oh and just for the record, my kid is occupied without the use of tv or video games, there's food in my cupboard, the heating is on, my phone works just fine and my grandma died 40 years ago!

As is for the most of us. Just the new era of people trying to use bdsm as a cover for a profitable business opportunity.

[Deleted Member]

13 hours ago, Erebus said:

I don’t know on another somewhat popular website that shall remain nameless apparently Antarctica is way more populated than I thought possible!🤣😂🤣

Yes. That is a long standing inside joke there. A lot of people don’t get it but many of us who have been there awhile know.

[ey****]

5 hours ago, OneMaster4aslave said:

As is for the most of us. Just the new era of people trying to use bdsm as a cover for a profitable business opportunity.

BDSM itself is a new era of kink.

And, any form of "kink for cash" long predates it.  for many centuries it was pretty much the only opportunities most folk would have.

The present era has more opportunities to meet people for play or opportunities, to openly discuss kink, to experiment, or play - without (or, with, if you like) exchanging cash than ever before.

[Deleted Member]

19 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

BDSM itself is a new era of kink.

And, any form of "kink for cash" long predates it.  for many centuries it was pretty much the only opportunities most folk would have.

The present era has more opportunities to meet people for play or opportunities, to openly discuss kink, to experiment, or play - without (or, with, if you like) exchanging cash than ever before.

We have been taught differently for sure. 30 years ago it had nothing to do with ***. Least not in the circles I was introduced to.

[ey****]

9 minutes ago, OneMaster4aslave said:

We have been taught differently for sure. 30 years ago it had nothing to do with ***. Least not in the circles I was introduced to.

there are more than 30 years of history.  

equally, community events these days are not *** driven (aside from obviously paying entry fee etc)

[Be****]

It’s rigged. Because if we meet someone we stop paying

[Erebus]

1 hour ago, phoenix695513 said:

It’s rigged. Because if we meet someone we stop paying

I’m not quite sure that’s how it works, the paywall is there to stop you viewing peoples explicit photographs, but once you have paid if that is your choice your subscription doesn’t end with you finding someone! Also I’d add to that I have matched with several people on the site and have meet some of them in real life and that was both with and without a subscription! So I stand by my previous post and that is do your homework about the people you contact makes sure you sell yourself on your profile and don’t just say “Hi how are you today?” When you message people.

[sa****]

It’s always hard to find people to match with but definitely everyone’s real people lmao.

[Erebus]

39 minutes ago, sactransqueen said:

It’s always hard to find people to match with but definitely everyone’s real people lmao.

I’m not saying it’s easy, just possible! The thing that I’ve found is this is a vast and varied community we have here is we are all encompassing and accepting of everyone with in it… There in lies the caveat though when there is such a vast community there are going to be those who are on the fringe of the community who have specific tastes like me or requirements that mean there isn’t as large a pool of potential matches! I’ve been on the site looking for weeks before without success of finding a single match and then before I knew it one pops up as people are always joining the site or coming back from having a break because of real life problems, it amazes me how willing people are to give up and the first sign of not finding a person straight away! This isn’t tinder we are a kink community so therefore we are fewer in number than say a vanilla dating site! You just have to keep looking.

[ey****]

10 hours ago, phoenix695513 said:

It’s rigged. Because if we meet someone we stop paying

when someone joins a dating site (or a non-dating site with a view of dating) there's usually two reasons why they'd leave (or cease paying) one is, like you say, they meet a long term partner.  The other is they don't really meet anyone and give up.

Aside from any form of "more than just a dating site" spin off - the best way to get either recurring or new members is by success stories.

Obviously finding a long term relationship, no reason to keep paying, but if you're getting lots of dates, or value, or short term relationships then there is desire to come back - and if you do have great success there is desire to recommend friends.

This is largely true of any dating site.

Exceptions apply, Ashley Maddison of course was found out that most of the women on there weren't real, but were pretty much people paid/employed to lead people on - there has to be a wariness where someone can maybe alert you they're interested but that you cannot message them at all unless you pay - which was a formula of sites about 10 years ago.