To message or not to message

[Deleted Member]

Expectations are an ugly beast. To get rid of them you have only one way: talk. Or as in this case: write.

[ta****]

Go for it, you’ve got nothing to lose! Worst case no response, best case you get what you want. Shoot your shot, you won’t know unless you try - it’s too easy to say ‘no’ in life.

Once you’ve messaged then establish if you want to go any further based on how the conversation goes.

All the best

[Pr****]

Fortune Favors the Bold

[st****]

So far, these are all thoughts. Thoughts have power. This power can fire up feelings.
Thoughts, so far…

[Tr****]

Those who dare win.

[Deleted Member]

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

[Na****]

My favorite quote: “Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.”

[bl****]

Get your man girl! Lol

[dr****]

I would have to say drop him a line and see where it goes if he’s cool and understanding than he will get that you not really into dom/sub relationship but you will never know till you try I would do it 10/10

[Bi****]

Go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[sm****]

if you never try, you will never know.

Even if it's a no thanks or just ignored, you can at least have some ease of mind and move on.

If you get a positive outcome all is good, but like everyone says you will never know unless you take the plunge.

Iv'e had  a few people over the years with your same dilemma take the plunge and contact myself.  Some i have stayed friends with and others  just died off with no real reason, but some interesting conversations were had, and both parties getting to know one another and finding out if it is worth pursuing.

Nothing worse than thinking "what if" if you have never took that first step.  At the end of the day, you are both just faceless profiles on either side of the internet, so no harm in finding out.

 

[ck****]

Yes you have to let him know

[Deleted Member]

Just talk to me darling its fine. Hahahaha joke. Seriously though. Whats a message gonna hurt. CONTACT HIM

[co****]

See what he is about

[go****]

If you feel in your heart that something is off. I would trust that over anything. Usually peoples gut leads them in the right direction.

[ey****]

I looked at this a few times and there's a few bits of thought it's given in my head (including how rarely I message anyone who interests me! or assuming people message 'to be nice' and not because they want to do something one day)

And I think a lot of the answers you are been given as a woman, are different to as of if you were a man.   And there's a couple of things to watch for there.

 

So.   Perhaps one size for everyone.

If you are genuinely interested in someone, drop them a message.   However, don't expect you will get the outcome you're hoping for, or even a response at all.  But the one way to make sure nothing ever happens is if neither of you message the other.

As well, it's also OK for your own interest to dry up.  I know a lot of guys complain about that someone they were talking to will suddenly stop responding - but that's often kinda for them to deal with.  

Often, one reason I don't message sometimes is because I don't feel I am what they are looking for, but, I guess, if you go into a conversation accepting that, then even a passive conversation can be good.  Hell, there's been people over the years I've done stuff with where, we weren't initially what the other was looking for at the time.

Just. Don't assume you'll change someone's mind. to the point of, being wary if someone does drop what they're looking for a little too easily.  

 

[ma****]

Contact him please

[Be****]

Absolutely say hello, you never know how things will turn out

[CopperKnob]

Yesterday at 07:51 AM, ErzaSixxx said:

Thank you guys, I really appreciate the input. 💜

Did you message them? We're all dying to know. Well, me, I'm dying to know!

[Deleted Member]

Nothing wrong with a Hello message

[Deleted Member]

Say hi! I messaged a guy on here saying I probably wasn’t his type but how handsome I found him. When in fact I am his type and we have great conversation. You only truly regret 100% of the chances you never took.

[pi****]

My gut is usually right when my head disagrees. I say hi without whatever your gut is telling you.

[mr****]

Because you find him physically attractive maybe more than you think of your self….. your already talking your self out of it…….

[Bi****]

I’m confused

[Ca****]

Do it