How to text better

[Br****]

What are good conversation starters and how do I get better at talking with people

[Sy****]

You can comment about something interesting in a picture, ask How the experience has been in the app..

[Ar****]

This is an excellent starter!

Practice - do it often, and you'll get more confident as you interact with others even passively here in the forums.

Personal conversation starters in DMs can be trickier, I would suggest being honest and respectful. Let the recipient know why you are messaging them - did they say something you really liked, did something in one of their photos catch your eye? - and don't try to be anybody you aren't.

Good luck 🙂

[Deleted Member]

Be yourself. Comment on strike up conversations. But trust your gut online

[Se****]

Be interesting. Because of the disproportionate number of male app users on here, the women often get a huge amount of incoming messages. Helpfully a great deal of those messages say “Hey” so it’s not too difficult to stand out. Asking relevant questions can often illicit a nice response and start building a rapport. Be yourself and try and get that across in your messages. Make sure your profile is interesting and aligns with your messages. Be respectful, and if someone replies saying they’re not interested, say ‘Thanks for letting me know. Good luck with your search’ Do not be a dick. Do not argue and do not tell them they are wrong. Accept it and move on like a grown up. Also, if a Dom, don’t use honorific’s without permission and don’t start trying ‘dominating’ until you have built up a rapport and agreed to move to that stage. Again, it just makes you look needy and pathetic. There are lots of lovely kinksters out her dying to converse with nice, respectful and compatible people. Good luck 👍

[ge****]

Agree with all that has been said so far - but the other thing that is key is a level of acceptance that not everyone will reply or be interested in you and not to throw your toys out of the pram when it happens.

[Deleted Member]

Don’t get sexual right away. Even though yes this is a sexual app that conversation can always be brought up later.

[Po****]

Agreed with all the above. I’d recommend mentioning something you read on their profile. That shows you haven’t just looked at the picture and isn’t generic.

[Deleted Member]

Authenticity is key. Be clear about why you're messaging and try to veer away from kink. Ask about her passions, dreams, interests. To be honest, you won't hear back from most people that catch your eye. Women's inboxes in particular are flooded with "Heys" from low value thirsty men. So standing out isn't hard, but the message will likely get buried. If you don't hear back, take the rejection like a Champ. If they can't see how awesome you are, then that's their loss.

[CopperKnob]

Generally, comment on or respond to people in the forums/chat rooms before sending a message. You're more likely to get a response due to a level of familiarity
Other than that, a common interest, pick up on something in their bio, avoid commenting on a picture, be funny, don't try too hard, don't be a dick in 3mths time if you don't get a response by sending a snarky message and don't comment on forum posts asking why someone didn't respond 🙄

[CopperKnob]

10 hours ago, SensuousDom said:

Be interesting. Because of the disproportionate number of male app users on here, the women often get a huge amount of incoming messages. Helpfully a great deal of those messages say “Hey” so it’s not too difficult to stand out. Asking relevant questions can often illicit a nice response and start building a rapport. Be yourself and try and get that across in your messages. Make sure your profile is interesting and aligns with your messages. Be respectful, and if someone replies saying they’re not interested, say ‘Thanks for letting me know. Good luck with your search’ Do not be a dick. Do not argue and do not tell them they are wrong. Accept it and move on like a grown up. Also, if a Dom, don’t use honorific’s without permission and don’t start trying ‘dominating’ until you have built up a rapport and agreed to move to that stage. Again, it just makes you look needy and pathetic. There are lots of lovely kinksters out her dying to converse with nice, respectful and compatible people. Good luck 👍

Also, if an s type, don't use honorifics. It works both ways

[CopperKnob]

Oh, and ask a ***y question. Something I can respond to. You've read my profile, you agree with what's said, great but, I can't pat you on the back via a message and that kinda message doesn't really warrant a response 🤷‍♀️

[Fi****]

Hi just be you thatsall . Simple huh

[Ki****]

Be you...and what you're into😂

[Wi****]

WYD? Is not the way to start. A joke about what you read on the profile is a great way, or an upfront question if that is your style. Everyone has different communication types, and this depends on how that person identifies. As a DaddyDom, I will begin a conversation different from a little, because I am upfront or direct. Some people think being a DD you just tell people what to do, but I am a nurturing and supportive one. I enjoy talking about pets, because my dogs are my ***. Made the mistake at a meetup in saying that I needed to get home to let my girls out of their cage. The women there thought I was into captivity! Always remember that you are talking in a kink community, and don't kink shame. A simple, "that's not my thing" is better than telling somebody that something is gross or weird. Treat people with kindness, the same as anywhere else.

[Deleted Member]

Some great information here everyone

[or****]

👁️💚 all the feedback, awesome advice from the community. Great job!!

[saintsaltysynz]

Agreed

[saintsaltysynz]

Be authentic and unique understanding and adaptive find something on their profile to be an ice breaker. Leave open ended questions and be respectful. Have patience and tolerance. Except that I’m not for everyone. Don’t be afraid to express yourself and be open minded. Depending on the account name and type of information let’s me decide if I’m salty or sweet with my approach.

After all I’m about the lulz of syn
Alpha hotel Romeo always hella romantic 🥰 at the same time. So let’s dance together and get nasty after we talk

[Nocturne]

Be direct, try to get to know them as a person before focusing on kink, tell them why you messaged them/why you find them interesting.