Which Green Flags Do You Look For?

[su****]

  October 23, 2024, jasonastro369 said:

1. One who takes accountability for everything in their life.
2. Good with, cares for and liked by ****** and *******s
3. Doesn't need to be "taken care of"
4. Problem solver and imaginative, intuitive and logical
5. Doesn't do social media but is present in the moment.

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For myself I find perfection boring and you are not likely to find it if your too restrictive in your parameters

[sardonicus87]

That they have non-"vanilla kinks" and know what they want, like if it's obvious their idea of kink doesn't come from PornHub tags. That and actually having literally anything in their profile bio beyond one line that says "I'm a brat" or "I don't know what I'm doing".
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Green flags are far and few between, I have found.

[Sw****]

Consistency and transparency are my favorite qualities. Quite sexy imo

[Li****]

Genuinely, with convincing sentiment, and earnestly accepting only more than casual encounters is the greenest flag. The constant deluge of men seeking only sex starts to make them invisible, and it takes effort sometimes to acknowledge them.

Listen men, it doesn’t matter what you have to offer in bed if that’s all you have to offer. Because if it did for you, it would for others and every housewife would have a body count like a porn star.

We don’t all want that.

[de****]

Emotional maturity and a willingness to meet you halfway, is not a flake and speaks clearly about their wants and needs..

[ho****]

I'm with the girl who says consistency.
Also,
Presence. Honesty. Enthusiasm.

Doesn't try to "play it cool" or whatever bc that nonsense is for high school.

O... Knows how to speak in full, coherent, grammatical sentences! No text speak. No emojis. Poor grammar the online equivalent of having one's pants hanging down off of one's buttcheeks: it's not a good look.

Does not ask for pictures. That's a big one!

Engages on a deeper level.

Has something to say. Has opinions. Is bold with them. Doesn't just dumb himself down to the lowest common denominator.

Shows he can make a plan and follow thru.

[Vi****]

Be kind, attractive, local (moving back to Manchester May) ideally 20s&30s and message first but also show red flags because I've been through enough chat soon 😅✌️🤌

[Ch****]

My best relationship was with a dom who did a great job of checking in with me and how I was feeling. After trying something new he would always make a point to debrief and made sure I felt safe

[SeaDragon580]

Let's see, must not stab me. I hate being stabbed. So not being of the stabbing persuasion is green. I'd like to avoid a manipulative sociopath this time...non-manipulative non-sociopath is green. Also, the basics that go with that, honesty most of all. Loyalty, always good. The ability to accept that you can't always have your way, good. Consistently saying you'll do and doing the same, big green. Taking a genuine interest in what your partner enjoys. Not so much being interested in the thing yourself but that it makes them happy. This was all very stream of thought. Sorry that's it a little all over.

[be****]

Can cook

[ki****]

When they are all about consent!

[Wi****]

Honestly i have no dating experience but for me its good humor?

[Ru****]

When they skip the games

[Cl****]

They are knowledgeable of BDSM and can use the proper terminology for what they are seeking / referring to. Someone who can take hold of their own education. I also feel like in learning about BDSM, ppl tend to learn more about their selves and I think that's incredibly neat to witness. Someone who knows themselves and their role in BDSM is just a massive green flag for me.

[Lu****]

Being VEGAN for the ***s!

[Ar****]

When they don't play any games, are polite, and respectful.

[su****]

Communication, quality and good people.

[Fu****]

Verifiable BDSM knowledge, respectful, realistic about schedules, open and honest.

[Johnathan-9864]

Communication. Being able to tell someone the good and the bad and have a real conversation about those things. Not run away if something isn't working or not up to a standard, but explaining what the problem is, so it could be worked on. It's strange to think that this has become rare.
Respect for each other, and each other's boundaries.
Taking the time to say thank you for something that was done, not in a Dom/sub way, but in a decent human way.

[st****]

Being open and ***

[Ko****]

Vulnerability, openness, honesty, communication, curious before being judgemental, "Naked and unashamed or afraid."