How submissive are you?

[Deleted Member]

I really hate this question.  Firstly, I think it shows a basic misunderstanding of Ds, but also, it's not a scale!

"I'm a level four submissive,  what are you?"

"I tested at a six, can you believe???"

The level of submission I offer is in direct relation to what is earned, inspired and deserved by the Dominant. For 95%, that's none whatsoever. 

[Nikki_Hexy]

In my eyes, you are either a submissive, a switch or Domanant. Invoking questions like this makes me feel like someone is trying to make it itno some kind of childish competition when in fact the real question is if you are compatible with the other person. The questions i feel someone should ask are what kinds of kink are you interested in, what do you enjoy, what are your hard and soft limits.
Which always comes back to my personal understanding of BDSM, Fetish and Kink. We are all different and that is a good thing, be yourself because no one else truly can 💙🖤💜🤍💗

[Cheekysub247]

Oh yes, that old question, and when you say 'no im not into/dont do that' suddenly your not even a true submissive. 😂
Im submissive, thats it.

[ge****]

It's invariably a naive question posed by those with little or no knowledge of D/s beyond what they've seen in porn and can be loosely translated as "how much can I inflict on you to ensure my own wants are met" - it almost needs a Beevis & Butthead grunt to follow it. As such it's a red flag in itself.
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Connection, chemistry, compatibility, trust, respect and more all come before submission and if those are in place the "level" matters not beyond what is agreed between the two (or more) people that share it.

[CopperKnob]

Blimey Char, I'm a level 9 submissive. To everyone. No discrimination here. I'm literally Going For Gold (maybe showing my age there), this isn't the Olympics? 😂

[ge****]

1 hour ago, CopperKnob said:

Blimey Char, I'm a level 9 submissive. To everyone. No discrimination here. I'm literally Going For Gold (maybe showing my age there), this isn't the Olympics? 😂

Henry Kelly was your Dom? *mind blown* 😂

[Ar****]

@CopperKnob @gemini_man Well I was about to have a post-school run nap, how am I supposed to do that with 🎵The heat is on, the time is right🎵It's time for you, for you to play your game...🎶🎶🎶 twatting around in my head? 🤣🤣

Edited January 16, 2023 by Aranhis

[CopperKnob]

@Gemini_man, yes. Yes he was!!
@Aranhis, well what can I say? I loved skipping college and popping round my grandparents to watch it 😂 have a good nap!

[Ma****]

I have never heard of heard of anyone being asked this in the real life kink scene. It must be an online thing.

[Ky****]

never heard of this, where can I find list of levels please?

[ChristySub]

My submissiveness changes on a day to day basis.....sometimes hourly.....I might wake up in a bratty mood and my poor dom just gets backchat throughout the day.....some days I'm subdued and follow orders without hesitation......there is no scale

[blue_diamond]

If anyone would be asking me this I’d be: nope, I’m a level 9 bitch 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[McGraw]

I’m not sure. I did a quiz in a magazine that put me at 3 but an online test returned a 5. I’m going to split the difference and call it an even 4.

[Erebus]

Now you have me thinking what level Dom am I? God damn it I want a record breaking plantium trophy on my wall now!

[littlemiss37]

I don't know I'm just new but I think mayb a 7 x

[Th****]

This is another one I have to admit to asking that question myself. You're right at least partially, it is a severe lacking of understanding. Not just about what subs are and are not, but also not understanding what doms are and are not. When I first started out, I didn't know anything honestly, I knew there were people who were submissive and dominant, I didn't know about anything else. I have to admit I still don't know half of what I should know. I do know that I'm not a Dom, I have learned that I am more of a rigger. I don't even know a quarter of my knots, but I'm learning, and getting better. I started about 6-7 years ago and for me to ask that question was a lack of understanding but also an attempt to find someone who wouldn't fight me so I could boss them around. That's all it was, and I never felt comfortable with it either. I probably shouldn't even be typing this out because undoubtedly someone will call me a fake no matter what I say. I know my faults and have no problem admitting them. In my opinion that should make me a better rigger.

[Deleted Member]

Is a numerical rating actually a thing for submissiveness? I've never heard of it!

I've dominated before and it was enjoyable enough but I couldn't stick to it. Submission however, as soon as I get in the subspace I would do anything, it's like a switch flips in my brain somewhere

[ge****]

49 minutes ago, MrMechanic said:

Is a numerical rating actually a thing for submissiveness? I've never heard of it!

I've dominated before and it was enjoyable enough but I couldn't stick to it. Submission however, as soon as I get in the subspace I would do anything, it's like a switch flips in my brain somewhere

No it's not a "thing" at all - there is no Richter Scale of submissiveness - there is however communication and discussing likes, wants, limits and desires to establish ground rules and boundaries on both sides for any dynamic

[esoteric]

I have never heard of this being a thing either. The other question in this would be what type of submission are you talking about. There are so many areas of submission and it can vary also depending on whether it is just submitting in the bedroom or for play or submitting to 24/7 slavery. A person can agree to have their consent in matters taken away. 

 

Submission can mean different things to different people, that is why communication is such an important part of any serious BDSM relationship. People need to decide what each party wants/needs and see if they can have their mutual desires meet either in short or long term depending on how the agree things will work.

[littlemiss37]

I think now a 9 x

[Darkpuppy]

On 1/15/2023 at 10:48 PM, Lady_Char said:

I really hate this question.  Firstly, I think it shows a basic misunderstanding of Ds, but also, it's not a scale!

"I'm a level four submissive,  what are you?"

"I tested at a six, can you believe???"

The level of submission I offer is in direct relation to what is earned, inspired and deserved by the Dominant. For 95%, that's none whatsoever. 

Not to discount your experience but is this type of question not an attempt of gauging how deep into you are? For example some might be cool with letting a Dominant/Domme pick out Thier clothes and choose what and when they eat. That give full control to the Dom 24/7. Vs someone who wants to be dominated in bed only but than go to work in morning like normal.  To  something like a pet which is more nurturing like how you might treat your actual pets or is more *** setting oriented. Each of these are sub positions but they have different levels of control and different peramiters. There also like is the pet okay with being made to eat out of a dog bowl or do they just want you dress them in dog ears and tail and snuggle all night? I mean niether is wrong but there's a different degree of control you are giving up. Like there not a rating system but there is a level control and how much a person is willing to give. 

Edited February 6, 2023 by Darkpuppy

[nc****]

I am at Level 41 dominant. Give me another month and I will level up! 🤭🎂

[Nocturne]

Could have something to do with the usage of the BDSM test; it shows various archetypes with percentages based on how the questions are answered, including submissive and dominant.

[ne****]

Too submissive here