hd**** Posted January 23, 2023 Posted January 23, 2023 Hi I’m new to this kind of scene and I’m not having much luck in connecting with anyone how can I make myself more approachable to others as to not scare anyone off.
Deleted Member Posted January 23, 2023 Posted January 23, 2023 I'm honestly wondering the same thing. I've tried all kinds of approaches, straight up dirty, nice, everything in between... One of my matches blocked me out of nowhere when I thought we were having a good chat? I'd like to know this too lol
Wo**** Posted January 23, 2023 Posted January 23, 2023 Its tough for guys on here. most women wont even answer a message. Keep tryin it'll come
fa**** Posted January 23, 2023 Posted January 23, 2023 Be patient and give a few likes and wait for reciprocation. Don't be sending off messages to someone when they haven't responded to your first. If you are a man seeking a woman the women here and on any dating site or app have their pick of the men. Their profile is going to be full of views, likes, and messages that they can't read them all. Not all. But many. It may take some time. Days,weeks, or even months before you meet someone face to face. Even then that's no guarantee they will like you.
Deleted Member Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 It’s tough for girls too, mostly cos guys don’t know how to chat up a girl and take everything personally 👀
Co**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 7 minutes ago, in_ertia said: It’s tough for girls too, mostly cos guys don’t know how to chat up a girl and take everything personally 👀 Idk maybe if y’all would show a little more engagement…..
Co**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 Anything dating app like is horribly skewed one of the biggest factors is it comes down to women being choosy which I’m not s**t talking or anything that’s just the facts so unless you’re ridiculously hot or rich you’re gonna have to swipe swipe swipe the f**k away. There’s a couple YouTube videos about how broken dating apps are. I think Gerbert Johnson breaks it down the best.
CopperKnob Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 Women/femmes do not have the pick of the men. What a ridiculous statement. Dating is hard for both genders. Theres a post on the forums with that exact title How do you make yourself approachable? Take a look at the men here who have good interactions with women all day long, they all have the same things in common 1. They interact with everyone regardless of gender with respect 2. They are willing to accept advice from others and are accepting/apologetic when someone lets them know they misunderstood or got something wrong 3. They're present and engaging on the forums/chat rooms 4. They don't cold message people
su**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 From what I see in my timeline there's way more men here than there are women. We kinda get run over and it's hard to keep up and answer everyone sometimes. What I personally dislike is when you notice that the person that's texting you hasn't even checked what's written in your profile. Don't be that desperate dude that just sends a huge copy paste text with stuff that doesn't mach half of the other persons description and what their looking for 😅 A normal and respectful message introducing urself (or similar) is just fine :)
Deleted Member Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 16 minutes ago, Coyote_Long_Dong said: Anything dating app like is horribly skewed one of the biggest factors is it comes down to women being choosy which I’m not s**t talking or anything that’s just the facts so unless you’re ridiculously hot or rich you’re gonna have to swipe swipe swipe the f**k away. There’s a couple YouTube videos about how broken dating apps are. I think Gerbert Johnson breaks it down the best. I've seen those videos, the data don't lie
Deleted Member Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 21 minutes ago, Coyote_Long_Dong said: Anything dating app like is horribly skewed one of the biggest factors is it comes down to women being choosy which I’m not s**t talking or anything that’s just the facts so unless you’re ridiculously hot or rich you’re gonna have to swipe swipe swipe the f**k away. There’s a couple YouTube videos about how broken dating apps are. I think Gerbert Johnson breaks it down the best. Are women to blame for the fact that so many women are attractive and take care of themselves and so many men don’t? It’s so hard to find a man who looks decent. And I’m not talking about being ‘handsome’ etc. just bare minimum of looking somewhat put together and not giving off creep vibes. On a typical dating up I’d maybe swipe right once every 50 guys because the pickings are so goddamn slim, not because I’m ‘choosy’. Plus, I believe it’s ok to be picky as everyone should have and follow their own standards, no? Why be salty about it? Do better instead
CopperKnob Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 24 minutes ago, Coyote_Long_Dong said: Anything dating app like is horribly skewed one of the biggest factors is it comes down to women being choosy which I’m not s**t talking or anything that’s just the facts so unless you’re ridiculously hot or rich you’re gonna have to swipe swipe swipe the f**k away. There’s a couple YouTube videos about how broken dating apps are. I think Gerbert Johnson breaks it down the best. Yeah, just like Jordan Peterson right? Lets all take another red pill
Deleted Member Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 I can only speak to my personal preferences. With that being said, anyone that sends me anything sexual in their first message gets automatically ignored/blocked. The best way to get a response is to send a message referencing something in the persons profile with a follow up question. It’s engaging, and shows you took the time to read their bio.
da**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 I can only speak for myself but read the profile first. Engage in conversation or a myriad of topics that are both kink related and not. Showing interest in someone as a person first and foremost.
Deleted Member Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 17 minutes ago, sub_slut2 said: From what I see in my timeline there's way more men here than there are women. We kinda get run over and it's hard to keep up and answer everyone sometimes. What I personally dislike is when you notice that the person that's texting you hasn't even checked what's written in your profile. Don't be that desperate dude that just sends a huge copy paste text with stuff that doesn't mach half of the other persons description and what their looking for 😅 A normal and respectful message introducing urself (or similar) is just fine :) Agreed there. I always check a girls profile before writing, it's a great way to get straight to common interests! Even then though I get left on read most of the time but that's understandable
ba**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 Don’t approach a girl the way you would comment on a porn site, still juman.
Ro**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 Don’t have the mentality of these men ^^ @in_ertia there is some real proof of what you said here.. Your best bet here is to follow what @sub_slut2 and @facelessleather have said. Engage positively and respectfully. Our inboxes are bombarded with men who don’t know how to respect us. Chat rooms and forums are a great way to meet like minded individuals. If I see someone has liked one of my photos I almost always engage after that..
Ro**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 1 minute ago, Roses19 said: Don’t have the mentality of these men ^^ @in_ertia there is some real proof of what you said here.. Your best bet here is to follow what @sub_slut2 and @facelessleather have said. Engage positively and respectfully. Our inboxes are bombarded with men who don’t know how to respect us. Chat rooms and forums are a great way to meet like minded individuals. If I see someone has liked one of my photos I almost always engage after that.. I meant copperknob
CopperKnob Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 46 minutes ago, Coyote_Long_Dong said: Idk maybe if y’all would show a little more engagement….. The entitlement is off putting The OP asked for guidance as to how they may become more approachable. They did not ask for people to attribute blame to others for a lack of interaction
za**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 I'm the same. Thanks for the Convo starters. I'm new and didn't even realize what the spank and match was really. I've said hi to a few people but most people seem to have either blank profiles.. so what to say when there's nothing known.. or the profile is so full of jargon and specialities, I have no idea where to begin. Can I have a sign please "new person give me a break" or " if your new I'm just happy to talk and get you started" I'll take one of each please
Deleted Member Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 So is approaching nicely and asking questions about common interests what you ladies prefer from us? : ) Not straight up sexting DMs? Let me know if that's mostly universal! I want only to improve
hd**** Posted January 24, 2023 Author Posted January 24, 2023 5 minutes ago, slut_tamer_97 said: So is approaching nicely and asking questions about common interests what you ladies prefer from us? : ) Not straight up sexting DMs? Let me know if that's mostly universal! I want only to improve That’s my thing though is I always ask something about what they have in the profile about interests that are not kinky things but even those just get left on read if lucky read at all.
CopperKnob Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 6 minutes ago, slut_tamer_97 said: So is approaching nicely and asking questions about common interests what you ladies prefer from us? : ) Not straight up sexting DMs? Let me know if that's mostly universal! I want only to improve The thing is, women are first and foremost human beings. We are also individuals, we do not have a hive mind and so there is no universal way to approach us Treat all women with respect. Take time to read profiles. Engage with us in the forums. Write a message that follows up on the first two points and provides us something to respond to And maybe, specifically for you, rethink your username.
su**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 8 minutes ago, slut_tamer_97 said: So is approaching nicely and asking questions about common interests what you ladies prefer from us? : ) Not straight up sexting DMs? Let me know if that's mostly universal! I want only to improve Yes! Build up a connection, get to know each other and ur preferences and be honest about what you're looking for so no one's waisting their time. Pls no straight up sexting/dirty talk unless you have our consent! 😬 You can ask nicely (if you're able to take no for an answer as well)
Ri**** Posted January 24, 2023 Posted January 24, 2023 Just be yourself. You'll always get those who just block out of the blue for no reason, those who don't reply, those who just want friends and those who you have a connection with. I've had my fair share of all in the last few months of being on here. No point being anything but you, to do so would be fake. Just bear in mind that women do receive literally thousands of messages in the space men get tens (at least that's what the stats that upgraded members see show). Be you, provided that's polite it'll all come together and remember, tea isn't always everyone's cup if tea, don't take the negatives to heart.
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