Gently

[littlemiss37]

How do u let someone down gently? I hate doing this . There is red flags with this guy x

[Deleted Member]

A respectful individual should accept rejection. A disrespectful one doesn’t understand boundaries. Just be honest!

[Ha****]

No gently. Block them

[Ha****]

Red flags deserve no mercy.

[Deleted Member]

I'm here to take notes 😅

[un****]

let me just preface this by saying some people just really don’t take rejection in any form at all well however what i’ve found has worked well for me is saying “you seem like a really nice girl(or in your case girl) however i don’t think we would be a great match i wish you luck in finding someone who is.” that usually results in little to no fallout

[Deleted Member]

Tell him your pregnant and he maybe the father lol jk , I say be honest , let him know the connection is not there and I don’t think this will work out .

[Darkpuppy]

Have you tried the compliment sandwich? Some people are going to be triggered no matter what you say or how nice though. Just be aware that thier reaction is not always a reflection of you yourself.

[CopperKnob]

"Thank you for taking the time to talk to me however this is not a conversation I wish to pursue" for example
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However, it depends very much on the context/hiw ling you've been chatting and what the red flags are as well as your instinct in relation to how you feel they may take rejection. Any safety concerns and I wouldn't bother, it'd be a block.

[Mi****]

What woman usually do to me is they just stop messaging me. Or they block me.

[Deleted Member]

Fast and blunt, is usually the best way

[littlemiss37]

Thanks everyone x

[Bo****]

Thank you for the interest; however, we are not a good match. Simple and polite.

[littlemiss37]

The red flags is ceremony stuff and needle play x

[Deleted Member]

Rip off the band-aid

[Ar****]

If he's setting off alarm bells then the most you need to do, especially in the early stages you're in, is to say it isn't working out you and then to step away. You don't owe an explanation, and if he's a red flag type then his response to your laying a boundary down and saying no will likely show you that you were right to put an end to things. Don't feel pressured or gaslit into feeling you need to be sympathetic to somebody who is likely trying to take advantage of you.

That said, the moment you start to feel unsafe or anxious about your situation with him, you need to know it's okay to remove him from your life to protect yourself and your wellbeing. If that means blocking without explanation, then remind yourself that it's his behaviour which brought it about; do it and don't look back.

[Deleted Member]

Let me do it.

[ro****]

If someone can’t get the obvious hint make it plain be honest if that don’t work report them that’s what Ide do but tell them first about your intentions

[Ca****]

The best way I've found is the "two positives and a negative" method. A little compliment, a thank you very much, and the "but I just don't feel: the connection, or like we're a good fit etc."

If you've ever watched Shark Tank they usually do a pretty good job of that. Encouraging the contestant a little bit then "for that reason I'm out"

If that doesn't work then there's always the block, report...restraining order 😉

[fr****]

Just let him know you not interested already and move on, rather than leading him on and wasting both your time.. he may be genuinely okay but just very eager..
Also, no disrespect but I think you just seeking too much attention with these posts. okay, I understand that the first one was a genuine cry for guidance but this one just sounds like you wanting the attention on here..
See what I did there? Direct and to the point.. drop your man like that if you really want to.. cheers..

[ny****]

A simple… “I’ve given this a lot of thought and I don’t think we are a good fit”. I wish you luck finding what you seek.

[da****]

Nice for me is: it’s been interesting getting to know you but I don’t feel we are compatible enough to continue. I wish you well and hope you find your person.
Otherwise depends on the red flag and if it’s in person or via text/phone call.

[Deleted Member]

Simple, direct, to the point, honest. It can be this simple

[Se****]

Thank you so much for actually thinking of this. People have just straight up blocked me three times now! I had built a connection with each of them. I still don’t understand what I did wrong.

I would absolutely tell them RESPECTFULLY what’s going wrong, and that you feel the best thing to do is end it. If they take it well, then just say your goodbyes and let them say theirs. If they take it badly, block them. But PLEASE, tell them why you’re ending it. If they’re anything like me, just blocking them without saying anything or not giving them a chance to explain will put them in such an emotionally *** state. The most recent time it happened to me was literally yesterday, and I don’t remember the last time my mood was this low. If you tell them what you see as a red flag, it may make them less likely to do that again if they find someone else. So speaking from experience, please help them out. Everybody deserves love in some fashion, so before you end it, please point their behaviors in the correct direction.

[Tt****]

If there are red flags why are you giving anything gentle to him?