Chloebear Posted February 7, 2023 Posted February 7, 2023 2 hours ago, MrSadistDaddy said: It’s easier than you think… ”I’ve thought about this and I don’t think you are a right match for me. “ The end. This is true - it ends up being less stressful than deliberating over ‘Do I? Don’t I? How do I phrase it?!’ It gets easier the more you do it…. There are studies about how women especially are socially programmed to be ‘nice’ and this can make it difficult to clearly cut off people we don’t like or who aren’t right for us, but you can learn to do it.
Deleted Member Posted February 7, 2023 Posted February 7, 2023 @SeanDGF don't let this behaviour get into your head, especially if you met her through dating apps like this here. Everyone can pretend to be a caring partner just to show red signs later on, mostly once they cannot reap benefits anymore. Many women on these apps also act high and mighty and think they can do as they please, because there are enough desperate guys that pay just to feel loved. It's not always us guys but we tend to be more blunt and direct and don't think too much about the delivery of wishes or concerns, but at least we tend to communicate our dissatisfaction. Still, it's great that this question was asked. No matter the gender, red flags are red flags but don't cry over someone who simply ghosts you, they are not worth it if they can't spare the time to say a few words
littlemiss37 Posted February 7, 2023 Author Posted February 7, 2023 3 hours ago, SeanDGF said: @slut_tamer_97 Thank you, man. It’s just tough to learn from your mistakes when you don’t even have a clue what your mistakes were. Hell, a few days before she blocked me, we were talking on a phone call and she said “I can’t wait to marry you.” It was as sweet and sincere as I’d ever heard her, which is saying something. Like… she promised me that she’d make sure nobody would ever hurt me, and she broke her promise by hurting me herself. With all the stress I’m going through with college right now, it’s so hard to have any hope of finding someone that will stay with me forever. This was me when i had to let my last one go . Im talking to a local one . Then that other one messaged me . I was honest and said look being in touch with u is to much .after he messages i end up upset for a few days .he said i contradict what i say . I messaged him when did i contradict what i said .he didnt Even message back . I had messaged him on saturday i cant b in touch with u its to much . I have bpd and when i get down i hit rock bottom . Then i said friends dont abandon eachother when one is struggling . Im giving this new guy a chance . Udleast he is in glasgow the other one was in kent x
be**** Posted February 8, 2023 Posted February 8, 2023 There really isn’t ever an easy way but you do need to get away if you see those flags. Keep your wants and needs in the front and send how he feels to the back burner
littlemiss37 Posted February 8, 2023 Author Posted February 8, 2023 12 hours ago, beautifulcock81 said: There really isn’t ever an easy way but you do need to get away if you see those flags. Keep your wants and needs in the front and send how he feels to the back burner Whent ahead and done it . The guy was ok with it . Got talking to someone else and saw red flags when he wanted me to do a video straight away x
UK**** Posted February 8, 2023 Posted February 8, 2023 2 minutes ago, littlemiss37 said: Whent ahead and done it . The guy was ok with it . Got talking to someone else and saw red flags when he wanted me to do a video straight away x Why red flags, unless he was expecting explicit? Some want to do a video chat early to prove that the person is real, rather than waste time talking to find that later it was someone pretending to be what they aren't. Personally, I wouldn't do it anywhere near the start of a conversation as I'd want to get to know the person more first.
Sa**** Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 Fwiw - direct and considerate is the line you want to walk. Direct is your decision and considerate is not categorizing or analyzing their behavior but rather being polite and being clear about where this is going or not going - example “I’m going to explore things with someone else, thank you for your interest. Best of luck”).
Deleted Member Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 I guess just be honest, we get curious when we got no clues
Sa**** Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 Honest and kind works just fine. It’s how you would want to be treated. Unless you shared your personal info with a psychopath which is always a bad idea. Treat people the way you would like them to treat you.
de**** Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 Red flags? Gently? Barely tap the block button love xx
Li**** Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 Even i agree with the one above^ go ghost most people do nowadays
li**** Posted March 6, 2023 Posted March 6, 2023 Just be truthful and honest with him, most people admire honesty. If he gets salty just block.
Xe**** Posted March 7, 2023 Posted March 7, 2023 I feel bad. First date on here and we were making out.. I accidentally split his lip..and he started it..he was too excited..never wrote me back after..totally accident.thats now how i like *** usually and never where it scars someone possibly..I really wish for forgiveness.. cause I am far from a red flag..I would have treated that man like a God. End rant-
Xe**** Posted March 7, 2023 Posted March 7, 2023 I like when people are just straight up in a not brash way.. just this is what it us. And appreciation ..possibly friendship and I'm good. But it's a rarity
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