What do you think? brat or slave?

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, kiseu said:

Don't want to get too personal, but can you please tell us how long was the communication and vetting? How long did you communicate before meeting? How often did you communicate in a week? How many times did you meet him before deciding to be in the dynamic? How much did you communicate in the beginning of the relationship? When did he start behaving negative? We sort of need to know this to give more accurate opinions.

We met on this app and had been chatting for 3 months. We were from different countries so we didn't meet in person, although I'd already made plans to visit next month and have bought the tickets.
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We texted every day because I'm given the task to send him pictures/videos every morning and night. There were times that he would ignore me for days... Which made it difficult for me to continue performing those duties. But if I dropped the ball there, he would get ***ed at me.
Mostly I don't like being made to send photos and videos when there is no attempt on his part to take care of my well-being.
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The negativity wasn't constant... There were a lot of happy times too. But open communication was never really his strong point I guess. I have another thread on here about him being unhappy with me and unwilling to communicate...

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, veevaciously said:

We met on this app and had been chatting for 3 months. We were from different countries so we didn't meet in person, although I'd already made plans to visit next month and have bought the tickets.
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We texted every day because I'm given the task to send him pictures/videos every morning and night. There were times that he would ignore me for days... Which made it difficult for me to continue performing those duties. But if I dropped the ball there, he would get ***ed at me.
Mostly I don't like being made to send photos and videos when there is no attempt on his part to take care of my well-being.
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The negativity wasn't constant... There were a lot of happy times too. But open communication was never really his strong point I guess. I have another thread on here about him being unhappy with me and unwilling to communicate...

Thank you for more information. I don't know if he is good or bad. Look at what you wrote in vanilla eyeglasses. The dynamic is only three months. It's new and fresh... AND this is happening. To me, I already see few red flags.

Please reread the comments again. The answers are there!!🙏

If this kind of thing happened to me, I wonder if this guy is only B***sh*ts!! Also, I would put that ticket on credit, and look for a new place to visit. BUT... this is me.🤷‍♀️

 

[Deleted Member]

8 minutes ago, kiseu said:

Thank you for more information. I don't know if he is good or bad. Look at what you wrote in vanilla eyeglasses. The dynamic is only three months. It's new and fresh... AND this is happening. To me, I already see few red flags.

Please reread the comments again. The answers are there!!🙏

If this kind of thing happened to me, I wonder if this guy is only B***sh*ts!! Also, I would put that ticket on credit, and look for a new place to visit. BUT... this is me.🤷‍♀️

 

Thank you❤️

[QXX666]

Your profile state you are single.
Not sure how long you have been with your “Master” how much experience you have but this relationship is odd.
People like to be called slave or Master without really be one.
So in your situation it all depends about your mind state. Are you needy type? If so your Master would have picked that up from the start.
You send pics and vids which tell me he’s more a wank fob than a real Master. The fact that he ignore you could be that he is very busy person or not single.
The difficulty with online dynamic is the blackout. Not 💯 about anything.
It takes years to be a Master and becoming a slave. It would be better if you start being a sub for someone real and progress to be a slave.
Related to power sun and slave can have the same level, the difference with being a slave is that you are completely destitute from your identity, you start the submission blank slate. The Master will progressively mould you to become what you suppose to be without any input from you . This is why it’s the most complex and challenging submission. The Master’s skill and expertise depends of your flourish slave life.
Maybe it’s time to reconsider your dynamic.

[Deleted Member]

15 hours ago, Toxic_Meerkat said:

I've seen a lot of this kind of discussion recently on other forums. 

Yeah... Valentine's Day is coming. All I see is hearts everywhere.😣 Crappy Cupid. He must love shooting arrows at everyone's butts.💘😈😅

[Deleted Member]

30 minutes ago, QXX666 said:

Your profile state you are single.
Not sure how long you have been with your “Master” how much experience you have but this relationship is odd.
People like to be called slave or Master without really be one.
So in your situation it all depends about your mind state. Are you needy type? If so your Master would have picked that up from the start.
You send pics and vids which tell me he’s more a wank fob than a real Master. The fact that he ignore you could be that he is very busy person or not single.
The difficulty with online dynamic is the blackout. Not 💯 about anything.
It takes years to be a Master and becoming a slave. It would be better if you start being a sub for someone real and progress to be a slave.
Related to power sun and slave can have the same level, the difference with being a slave is that you are completely destitute from your identity, you start the submission blank slate. The Master will progressively mould you to become what you suppose to be without any input from you . This is why it’s the most complex and challenging submission. The Master’s skill and expertise depends of your flourish slave life.
Maybe it’s time to reconsider your dynamic.

My profile states I'm single because we're no longer together. Maybe you're right, I'll think about it. Thank you..

[Deleted Member]

1 hour ago, veevaciously said:

we're no longer together. 

Huh?!😨

Are you still in a dynamic with him or not?? Are you still in communications with the guy??

Confused.

[Deleted Member]

I think the OP is seeking a shoulder to cry on; trying to validate her emotions/decisions by shedding her accountability in this dynamic.

[Deleted Member]

9 hours ago, veevaciously said:

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We texted every day because I'm given the task to send him pictures/videos every morning and night. 
 

This is a new and fresh relationship. Do you see the other red flags with this... with an "s". I saw 3 with this alone.

He made you contact him... contact him... in a task. He covered his a** in showing if he was really into you or not. 

Also, are you sure, you were not in a Sub frenzy, and didn't use your judgements so well. 

It takes two in mono relationship.🤷‍♀️

 

Edited February 10, 2023 by Deleted Member
Misspellings

[nc****]

27 minutes ago, kiseu said:

Huh?!😨

Are you still in a dynamic with him or not?? Are you still in communications with the guy??

Confused.

I believe the OP was sharing her past encounter and by asking if she could have done things differently, she is trying to learn from the situation.

[BruiseWayne]

18 hours ago, veevaciously said:

We texted every day because I'm given the task to send him pictures/videos every morning and night. There were times that he would ignore me for days... Which made it difficult for me to continue performing those duties. But if I dropped the ball there, he would get ***ed at me.
Mostly I don't like being made to send photos and videos when there is no attempt on his part to take care of my well-being.

Neglect on either side of the slash doesn't make for a good relationship.

 

IMHO if someone is going to assign someone a daily task then they need to be there daily to receive it. Or take like half a f*****g second to acknowledge they did and maybe a little 'hey I'm very busy rn, today, etc." or something to go along with it if they can't interact beyond a 'good girl'. It's not always practical or convenient, sure, but nobody is THAT f*****g busy that they can't touch base with someone that they're involved with at least every other day so just to let them know they're still alive and ya know, like interested in them.

[Li****]

Given that the context he made was deliberately rude you are your own decision maker, Dom or not, in his perspective you dont have a Slave spirit however given the right signals you can be compelled to be a very obedient slave just from hypothesis if your dom isnt doing it right and he's putting YOU as his contract companion down maybe its just on his end and maybe its time for you to rebel a bit and show him what hes missing you might have an attachment towards him but if he cannot love you the way you want to be loved its wasted time and energy

[CopperKnob]

3 hours ago, Xavier1978 said:

I think the OP is seeking a shoulder to cry on; trying to validate her emotions/decisions by shedding her accountability in this dynamic.

I think that you're absolutely rude with regards to making the comments you have been but managed to keep quiet about it til now. "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it" is what I was brought up hearing.
The OP has asked a legitimate question and engaged with those commenting with sensible thoughts. This is how we all learn. It's unnecessary to make derogatory comments. All you're achieving is preventing people feeling able to ask questions/use the forums/making yourself look very silly.

[Deleted Member]

OP, and everyone else, are free to engage or ignore my comments; all adults here, wearing our big boy/girl pants.
I’m fine with your expression to censor me, …..take it up with the site admins.

[ey****]

3 hours ago, Xavier1978 said:

OP, and everyone else, are free to engage or ignore my comments; all adults here, wearing our big boy/girl pants.
I’m fine with your expression to censor me, …..take it up with the site admins.

no one is "censoring" you

they just disagree with you.  that's kinda how freedom of s***ch works

[Deleted Member]

36 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

no one is "censoring" you

they just disagree with you.  that's kinda how freedom of s***ch works

That some serious straw man skills; I never claimed I was being censored.

[ey****]

5 minutes ago, Xavier1978 said:

That some serious straw man skills; I never claimed I was being censored.

umm, if you re read your own post

"I’m fine with your expression to censor me"

it's right there for the world to see.

[Deleted Member]

Jesus christ, lol.
Yes, she was expressing her wish for me to be silent, instead of possibly scaring away people from posting their problems.
Again, she can take it up with the admins.
God damn, that shiny white armour.

[BruiseWayne]

"Hey asshole, stop acting like such an asshole."

 

"How dare you try and censor me!"

 

F**king LOL.

 

 

[nc****]

3 hours ago, BruiseWayne said:

"Hey asshole, stop acting like such an asshole."

 

"How dare you try and censor me!"

 

F**king LOL.

 

 

Love your username, batman! Lol @ comment

[ey****]

Anyway.   I just realised I've not answered the OP question.

So.

An important part in any dynamic is communicating what you want from it.  And if that communication is that you want attention - especially by asking it - then this is not unreasonable behaviour.   And if this is attention or affection that your Dominant can't, or won't give then this doesn't necessarily mean there is anything wrong with them (although dismissing a want for attention as "being a brat" is rather cold) but there is definitely a big mismatch in how you both want this to work - at it's simplest, sometimes relationships don't work out and it's not necessarily anyone's fault. 

[Deleted Member]

6 hours ago, BruiseWayne said:

"Hey asshole, stop acting like such an asshole."

 

"How dare you try and censor me!"

 

F**king LOL.

 

 

Another White Knight appears; showing off his straw man skills.

[CopperKnob]

21 minutes ago, Xavier1978 said:

Another White Knight appears; showing off his straw man skills.

You keep mentioning "take it up with the mods/admins"
The Mods are literally allowing your comments through so others are able to see who you are and what you stand for not because you're contributing anything meaningful to the thread.
I'll never understand why the phrase "white knight" is used as a negative. It's not.

[BruiseWayne]

28 minutes ago, Xavier1978 said:

Another White Knight appears; showing off his straw man skills.

Actually I'm the Dark Knight.

 

So... wrong again.

[Ar****]

4 hours ago, BruiseWayne said:

Actually I'm the Dark Knight.

So... wrong again.

🙌😂