Meeting dom

[littlemiss37]

Been talking to a dom for a few days now.  He is mostly on the UK.  He is visiting in a months time . What can we do to get to know eachother?this is my first met I know to meet in public.  Won't b going to his hotel and he won't b coming to mines . Been in to this since November x

[Ch****]

Treat it as you would any other date. Meet for a drink or an activity and if everything goes well you can always decide to go home/to a hotel.

I’d advise to set up expectations for eachother though. If he’s coming all the way from another country, he might be hoping for more than just a date, so be clear on what your expectations are before the date.

[Deleted Member]

As @Christian1997 as said, treat this like any other date, and ensure your expectations are aligned ahead of the meeting. Bear in mind also that it's only been a few days that you've been chatting, and there's still a month until his visit, so that's quite a bit of time to continue chatting online getting to know each other personally alongside your Ds desires, limits and boundaries. Good luck and take care.

[ge****]

As Christian says, treat it like any other date - maybe find a common interest to guide what you do specifically but keep it social until you're both sure about wanting to take it further - in the meantime just keep talking like you have been since November

[co****]

Agree with @Christian1997 Do not encourage him to travel that far if you are not sure. He might be saying he is coming for some work and also meet you, but honestly he is coming to have fun time with you. If he gets only coffee date then please don't do it to him.

Have online sessions and once you feel okay go on regular date with open mind to end up in hotel or home

[Lord_Talion]

Get drunk publicly with the idea of NOT going back to his room. This is done to see how he is without filters

[Deleted Member]

9 times out of 10 when they are in a different country and claim they are coming to visit next month or whatever they are trying to pull a romance scam. Proceed with caution.

[Deleted Member]

It won't let me quote @coolfriend328 for some reason, but here's my response to them:

I'm sorry. Does this really imply that if you're not willing to get kinky, you shouldn't meet??? No. If he is lying about his reasons for travel, as is suggested here, that is *not your problem*.

[littlemiss37]

@Lady_Char thanks this is my second meet with a dom and as he said meet for a drink and c how it goes without expectations  . I appreciate everyone's response thanks . When I started in November it was with another guy . Been talking to this one for a few days x

[ki****]

Definitely proceed with caution.
I agree with @PillowPrincess1, it is likely a scam.
What ever you do , please do not give any personal data to him or transfer *** for any reason.
If he turns out to be genuine, enjoy a few drinks and chat with him. If the chemistry is there, you'll agree together how you want to proceed.
Remember consent is everything. Take it at your pace, not his.

[mo****]

It’s all about managing expectations. It sounds like you’re not going to want to do things first date.
Make sure you let him know that.
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want, but it’s always worth managing expectations x

[ge****]

14 hours ago, PillowPrincess1 said:

9 times out of 10 when they are in a different country and claim they are coming to visit next month or whatever they are trying to pull a romance scam. Proceed with caution.

What is a romance scam?

[Deleted Member]

10 minutes ago, gemini69 said:

What is a romance scam?

Well it can take many forms - but for this scenario the guy might be on his way to visit you and suddenly some terrible catastrophic event takes place and he just needs a short loan to get to you or to get home or something. It’s always something and usually a ton of drama

[ey****]

4 hours ago, gemini69 said:

What is a romance scam?

Romance Scams are one of the most common types of scam - and no one is immune for them though they usually take different forms depending on the mark.

One of the more common formats which typically targets women involves a man who usually has a cover for being away a lot - military is very common, as is doctor (especially if allegedly working in poorer countries), but different shades of businessman also possible.  Some who will either conveniently be visiting your area, or will seemingly put in the effort to come and meet you.

Some will pretend to be rich ('The Tindr Swindler' on Netflix is somewhat of a must watch) and some don't.   But they tend to use social leveraging. 

Anyway.  There will be some reason why the meeting falls through.  Or looks like it might fall through.  This could be something like being unable to get a plane ticket because, say, a bank account is frozen or unavailable - it could even be there are other or ongoing sweetners, so for example sending cash to increase how much internet access they can have, or access to a secure phone line.    You know I was on the train the other day and someone had an invalid train ticket and was told to pay up £90 or they would be greeted by the police at the next station, they claimed no *** so the guy got a friend to send some *** so he could buy the train ticket.  So, someone could run a very simple scam of "I got the wrong train and they're going to arrest me if you don't send £100" - which is a small amount in some ways, but can be a lot to a scammer.

 

[QXX666]

On 2/21/2023 at 7:24 PM, littlemiss37 said:

Been talking to a dom for a few days now.  He is mostly on the UK.  He is visiting in a months time .

Can you clarify if he is from the U.K. as people  assumed he is from another country? 

[QXX666]

20 hours ago, Lord_Talion said:

Get drunk publicly 

This is the worse advice you can give to someone meeting a stranger and engaging in a bdsm activity. Never mix alcohol and bdsm unless it’s a consent play. 

[littlemiss37]

@QXX666 I agree with u . He said his main work location is London x

[do****]

Sounds like a scam

[QXX666]

12 minutes ago, yourholesmine said:

Sounds like a scam

Explain please. Would love to hear how and why? 

[ro****]

Just be careful make sure someone knows we’re you are and arrange a quick call to tell them all is good include a safe word to tell your friend all is ok if you don’t say the word then your friend will know all is not ok
Be lucky
Be good lol
Be careful
Have a nice time

[Ma****]

If you are meeting outside of your home terf if you are meeting outside of your home are find someone in the meet area to be your overwatch or phone buddy