Advice for beginners

[wa****]

I have always been interested in certain kinky activities but I am very new to being almost a full submissive male, and to be honest I'm actually quite shy about it because I have very little to no experience with other people. I I'm curious on just about everything but being cis and straight makes it extremely complicated because the majority of people that are interested in me are not straight. I guess what I'm asking is does anybody have any advice for someone in this situation?

[wi****]

I don’t know if I have any advice or not I think we are in kind of the same situation because I have never done anything of the such either but I am just curious because I really liked other things that seemed like the same thing. I don’t know if I helped you but I think you have me in a sense that helps let loose just a bit and not worry about what other people think as much and make myself happy.

[CopperKnob]

What's a 'full submissive'?

[wa****]

13 hours ago, CopperKnob said:

What's a 'full submissive'?

What I mean when I say that is that I would much rather roll over and have somebody else take advantage of me over taking advantage of them.

[wi****]

Ok, I guess I was just a little bit laid back and I could take control but I guess I feel just like you do from time to time

[ey****]

5 hours ago, wall-e101 said:

What I mean when I say that is that I would much rather roll over and have somebody else take advantage of me over taking advantage of them.

submission, and D/s in general, isn't about "taking advantage" of any one.

 

[ph****]

You never done fem dom?

[wa****]

16 hours ago, philadelphi759 said:

You never done fem dom?

No, but It is what I am looking for though.

[lo****]

Just do what cums naturally it's in you or you wouldn't be here

[Ba****]

Just be yourself. Put it your actual bio, if you don't want guys messaging you if it makes you uncomfortable. You should be able to even set your message settings to only women are able to message you.

[ne****]

Id say Depends on what else your into. If kinkplay and sex or relationship . Women are are alot more open minded and cool about it then one would think. Girlfriend status just have a talk . If adult time there's also plenty of dom girls,, Mistresses,, to sub you down right. . Ever been with a Transgirl?.

[ta****]

Put it in your bio, radical honesty works best in my experience

[Ki****]

There's a few things I'd suggest:
Try abs get out to some local kink events with the intention of making friends and connections.
Decide if the play you want is sexual, platonic, casual, etc; so you can communicate that. Personally, I'll consider playing with someone casually In a platonic way, doing certain things but not other things.
Find a bdsm checklist and try to work out what you especially like and where your soft and hard limits are.
View women you connect with as people and put effort into getting to know them as such. They are not objects or kink dispensers.

[sm****]

With anything in the fet community, "take your time" don't rush in to things.  Like you have here ask questions, no matter how silly you may think they are, we have all been there at the start and learning stage.

Start off trying to attend local or easy to get to much's to get to know people in a safe vanilla setting, where you can be more open to asking some questions and getting advice.   This will also help greatly in introducing you to real people, as being internet only can cause it's issues of trust and getting to know people.

[Deleted Member]

I agree with Taylor be upfront about it. It sets the level of where your going to start off with anyone so there’s no suprises or a bad experience