Did I do something wrong?

[Deleted Member]

Her behaviour is unaccaplable. I'm glad you stood your ground & blocked her. My role has a mistress at times should be comforting and reassuring that thing's will be o.k. not to criticize. But also; help find you one. Hope thing's get better for you. She sound's too immature to be playing this role. I would re-think her.

[cu****]

You might be coming off as too eager and not someone people want to be around. What jobs are you applying or have interviewed for

[Ke****]

23 minutes ago, Rlk_218 said:

Her behaviour is unaccaplable. I'm glad you stood your ground & blocked her. My role has a mistress at times should be comforting and reassuring that thing's will be o.k. not to criticize. But also; help find you one. Hope thing's get better for you. She sound's too immature to be playing this role. I would re-think her.

It wasn't the first time she made me question myself, She told me when she'd message me back. i got curious and asked if she was back so she yelled at me and ignored me for three days.

[Ke****]

18 minutes ago, cub4cougar said:

You might be coming off as too eager and not someone people want to be around. What jobs are you applying or have interviewed for

You name it, I tried warehouse, Stocking. a cook at McDonald's. dishwasher/housekeeping at a casino (the current job interview I did) etc. I don't think I'm coming off too eager. as I usually go in to interviews nervous (understandable I'd think) then as the conversation goes on I relax and have what I think is a pretty decent conversation with the interviewer.

[ge****]

10 minutes ago, KeybladeMaster said:

It wasn't the first time she made me question myself, She told me when she'd message me back. i got curious and asked if she was back so she yelled at me and ignored me for three days.

I'm presuming this is an on-line "Mistress" and one you have never met? If so how well do you really know her, or she you for that matter?
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From all you've said it almost sounds like it's more of a game to "her" than an actual dynamic and if it is then I'd question if it's the right thing for you right now.

[Ke****]

2 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

I'm presuming this is an on-line "Mistress" and one you have never met? If so how well do you really know her, or she you for that matter?
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From all you've said it almost sounds like it's more of a game to "her" than an actual dynamic and if it is then I'd question if it's the right thing for you right now.

Based on the conversations I have had with her without having a real chance to meet her, She seems to value total obedience without any real thoughts or opinions from her slaves. this was the only time I have talked to her about something that wasn't related too sex. and that was how she had reacted which is why I think that.

[ho****]

Good luck with your job search!

[cu****]

Just keep pushing but until you find something do an Uber eats or something to keep the income coming in. I’ve seen people get denied jobs because they were “too analytical “ don’t take the denials personally just keep pushing.

[Deleted Member]

Yeah. She needs to go.

[wa****]

No it's just some folks our ages are giving us a bad name by either walking out and never coming back aka quiting or bar

[Fr****]

Make sure ur asking questions too…
What is your company’s mission statement?
How do promotions tend to go in this company? Where can I expect to be in five years if I play my cards right?
What things have previous employees done to make them NOT right for the job?
If you choose not to hire me today, what can I do to increase my chances next time?

[ey****]

as a kinda further and in general

while it sucks - it is easier/better to find a relationship when in employment - especially one with some form of stability - than when out, especially long term

Part the reason is that regardless of anyone else's outlook, experience, or opinions - dating is actually pretty expensive.

If I was to meet someone somewhere neutral for a coffee, that was outside of walking distance, this could easily cost £10-£20 which is a lot of *** if you're not earning

And then this is when it does get into others outlook or experience - that someone might be then willing to meet closer to where you are to save your travel costs. They might spot you a coffee. And then there's other stuff that they might do that puts them out "until you're back on your feet" but this can drag on if you're still out of work

There's an old joke of "no one will tell you they love you faster than a man who needs a place to stay" and the whole thing extends outwards.

And while you may very well be not like that, a lot of people have dealt with similar or know someone who has

So - a lot of folk will be a little wary 

[ge****]

5 hours ago, KeybladeMaster said:

Based on the conversations I have had with her without having a real chance to meet her, She seems to value total obedience without any real thoughts or opinions from her slaves. this was the only time I have talked to her about something that wasn't related too sex. and that was how she had reacted which is why I think that.

How long have you known her? A relatively short time I'll wager.
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Because honestly? I think her reaction may have been the realisation that she wasn't going to be able to milk you dry if you've no job and therefore no income - so your situation may actually have worked in your favour in that respect.
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To be honest any Mistress that expected "total obedience without any real thoughts or opinions from her slaves" would be someone I'd avoid - especially if my thoughts or opinions about *my* limits were not taken into account.
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So in that respect, and in my opinion, you've done nothing wrong by blocking her, in fact I'd suggest you've done everything right.
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As far as finding a job goes - keep plugging away, consider re-training or re-skilling, maybe to the kind of role that is available in your area, it may mean a short term continuation of your situation but will be worth it in the longer term.

[CopperKnob]

I'm not going to deal with the "Mistress" part because Gemini answered that really well in his second comment. But, re the employment, some tips...
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Always research the company you're interviewing with, relay what you've learnt and how you'd apply it in the role. Even if it is Maccy D's. It shows interest and always goes down well.
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When you get the call to say you weren't sucessful, ask them for feedback and accept it graciously. Then work on that ahead of any other interview.
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If I were to interview you, I'd want to know why you're applying, what can you bring to the role other candidates can't.
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I think the biggest thing for me is your break in employment. You need to be prepared for this question and answer it well. I'd also expect you to be telling how you've spent your time, eg volunteering and any education you've been doing and what your learning was from that. If you aren't doing those things make sure you are.
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My biggest tip, read the job profile. Figure out their likely questions and prep your answers. Your answer should include examples as to how you've dealt with that situation previously in work or personal life if you've not experienced it in a previous employment. If the interview is online, postion your computer screen in front of a wall and put your prepared answers, in bullet points under different headings, on that wall in front of you in case you get stuck. They can't see it. I use different coloured pens for this
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When they ask you a question, write it down on a notepad beside you. It helps you break down the question and gives you a moment to consider your answer before you randomly blurt something out. Don't be afraid to ask them to repeat a question if you've not heard/understood it or if your unsure if you've answered all parts of it. What might appear to be one question might actually be two or three. Writing the questions down also means that you have them and can practise/prep answers to them for another interview.
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Lastly, what agencies are there that can offer mentoring/coaching/writing CV skills? Who in your friends/family can help you with mock interviews?

[Ca****]

Maybe you need better interview skills. Look up the company before going to the interview. Always ask questions and never ask salary. They usually tell you the salary. It’s okay to be nervous but if you’re prepared your nerves won’t show. Make sure your resume backs up what you say. Have references in a folder on hand but don’t give it unless they ask for it.
Have you tried Uber, door dash, insta cart? Retail usually has stocking positions available. Even if it’s a temporary job with an agency always keep an eye out for better. Put your resume on careerbuilder not indeed. You got this! A year is long to be without a job, you should apply to at least 5 places a week, in person and online.

[Deleted Member]

Ok. Old man here. In my youth I did warehouse work. It was a good gig. I did lawn and estate work, but it takes self control and follow through. 
inworked for a national level moving company. It was very hard work for low pay, but it paid rent. 
then I found temporary placement companies. There are at least one or two in your area. Those might be your best bet, but if you blow off work once, they won’t let you work for them again. 
 

if it has been two years since you had a job, you are going to have to take anything that will put you in the books. The problem you are having is that your work history is gapping. That gap is killing your chances. Take any job. Stay there for a year and then look for better opportunities, with the blessing of your current boss (hopefully a letter of recommendation.) 

Lastly, if you have some issues that are affecting your ability to dedicate yourself to the job hunt, it might be time to lean into the *** and deal with them. The longer you wait the closer you get to living in the street. 
best wishes. 

[gl****]

Yes. It's all your fault. You're not the victim.

[Nacho-2589]

If I were going to an interview I’d ask to meet the interviewer before the interview. Helps them and you. Shows interest. Then at the interview think of a question prior. So many interviews end with “any questions”? I’ve been on both sides of the table and a decent question that isn’t about *** or holiday pay is good. Anything size of the team you’d be working with. Education opportunities is always good. Even if you don’t need it. As others have said if you don’t nail the gig go back and ask why. Also ask if there is anything else coming up you might be good for. Shows initiative. As for your Mistress I wouldn’t like to say. But if it feels wrong most of the time it is wrong. Doesn’t matter who’s at fault. That’s besides the point. Work what you want between you. If you don’t think that’s working….

[Deleted Member]

There is always a job somewhere it depends on your willing to do it

If you are a hand working man you can always find something even temporarily

If you are an office person setup an upwork or freelancer account and work from home on your computer

Can’t find a job? Go independent do something you know, setup a website on wix and sell your services

[Cu****]

Its this tow

[Deleted Member]

You are NOT ALONE!! Idk witaf is really going on with thise weird like hiring freeze but it is real and widespread... don't give up the hope!

[Aj****]

The prison service are always looking for staff. As daunting as working with cons may be you could go for an operational role instead of frontline work so to speak. Good luck buddy.

[CopperKnob]

March 29, Ajm90 said:

The prison service are always looking for staff. As daunting as working with cons may be you could go for an operational role instead of frontline work so to speak. Good luck buddy.

Actually, I have no issue working with offenders. They're generally the most down to earth individuals with whom you can build good relationships with and have some excellent banter. They tend to also accept, and prefer honest communication and accept decent boundary setting with no complaint and have a certain politeness about them. Moreso than the general public. It'll depend on what category the prison is but certainly cat c and cat d prisoners, I've never had an issue regardless as to their index offence including the individual whose crime was so significant it was featured on Panorama.

[Un****]

1- you did good by blocking a toxic person. Dom or not, these behaviours are unacceptable.

2- location can change your life.
I am goth with lots of tattoos. Back where i came from (Montreal) it was an issue. Minimum wage jobs wouldn’t hire me because of my appearance even though i was overqualified for each job i applied to.
I bought a home in the middle of nowhere. Every single job i applied to wanted me. Like i went to give my resume at a bank and the manager came running after me in the parking lot. It wasn’t my style of job, went back to school (love learning new things) became a fully trained security agent. While in my uniform i kept getting job offers by people meeting me.
Picture this. I now work for the government, i have a great income, great work conditions, great insurances, great everything.. all that with having tattoos from my face down to my ankles. Nobody cares! Only skills and personality matters. I couldn’t be happier.

So yeah! If you feel like moving. Do it.

[Ke****]

1 hour ago, Unholy-Mali said:

1- you did good by blocking a toxic person. Dom or not, these behaviours are unacceptable.

2- location can change your life.
I am goth with lots of tattoos. Back where i came from (Montreal) it was an issue. Minimum wage jobs wouldn’t hire me because of my appearance even though i was overqualified for each job i applied to.
I bought a home in the middle of nowhere. Every single job i applied to wanted me. Like i went to give my resume at a bank and the manager came running after me in the parking lot. It wasn’t my style of job, went back to school (love learning new things) became a fully trained security agent. While in my uniform i kept getting job offers by people meeting me.
Picture this. I now work for the government, i have a great income, great work conditions, great insurances, great everything.. all that with having tattoos from my face down to my ankles. Nobody cares! Only skills and personality matters. I couldn’t be happier.

So yeah! If you feel like moving. Do it.

Yeah, I'm currently trying to work something out with some friends of mine. they will let me move in with them we just have to set up a day where they can come and get me. I'm planning on cutting contact with anyone from where I currently live. changing my name. etc all for a fresh start that fingers crossed goes better for me.