Good Girls - A Conundrum

[CopperKnob]

2 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

You going Dommely on me again CK? 😂😉🤣

I'm a Domsub looking for my subblyDom 😂

[ge****]

6 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

I'm a Domsub looking for my subblyDom 😂

A Domsub subbing for a subbyDom Domming - if a subDom Doms for a subbing Domsub does a Domsub sub or a subDom Dom 🤣😂

[Ms****]

Are comments getting deleted now?

[Puppy6411]

6 minutes ago, MsAddatude said:

Are comments getting deleted now?

From the thread, or just disappearing off the end into "show previous comments" ?

[Ms****]

My comments aren’t there just one of them

[Ms****]

Had 3

[ge****]

3 minutes ago, MsAddatude said:

My comments aren’t there just one of them

Did you arrive her via notifications or via the direct entry to the forum? Have noticed lately that if you enter via notifications that some posts don't show
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Just checked via entering direct into the forum and all your previous posts are there

[CopperKnob]

33 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

A Domsub subbing for a subbyDom Domming - if a subDom Doms for a subbing Domsub does a Domsub sub or a subDom Dom 🤣😂

And now you have your own tongue twisting conundrum 😂

[Ms****]

Ok I did thru notification

[ge****]

Just now, MsAddatude said:

Ok I did thru notification

If you go in via the forum entry you'll see them

[ge****]

2 minutes ago, CopperKnob said:

And now you have your own tongue twisting conundrum 😂

And very proud of it I am too 🤣😂

[CopperKnob]

14 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

And very proud of it I am too 🤣😂

Gold star for you 💫

[ge****]

1 minute ago, CopperKnob said:

Gold star for you 💫

Oooohhh I feel all honoured 😊

[Surferdaddy]

@Copperknob so first and foremost..that was freaking awesome.. it was the best stoner thought ever..lol..jk.. fr though I am a DJ/battle MC turned prod . and I was hoping you would let me plagiarize this ..I may alter it just a little bit but I'm going to try and leave it the same as best I can.. and of course you'll be given credit for it..

[CopperKnob]

11 hours ago, Surferdaddy said:

@Copperknob so first and foremost..that was freaking awesome.. it was the best stoner thought ever..lol..jk.. fr though I am a DJ/battle MC turned prod . and I was hoping you would let me plagiarize this ..I may alter it just a little bit but I'm going to try and leave it the same as best I can.. and of course you'll be given credit for it..

Sure why not

[Mu****]

If it puts anything into perspective, I heard a saying that goes - “a woman wants a bad man that’s only good to her, and a man wants a good woman that’s only bad with him”

[DJ****]

For clarity and some of my comments, I’m using the words, “good girl” and “bad girl”as descriptors, not in anyway as value judgments.

To me, the idea of a good girl has more to do with the way she presents herself, both in vanilla and kinky situations. While kink is about consent, intimacy, and vulnerability, it’s also an opportunity to play a role. Sometimes that role is similar to the one we have in our vanilla life, and sometimes it’s polar opposite. So, really, the question of good girl is largely about the role when chooses to play, in my opinion.

On the other hand, if by good girl, you mean innocent in the ways of kink, or sexually in general, this could be a quite different situation. The “ good girl” who wants “ bad things,” could go back to her normal life and lifestyle after indulging her fantasies, and remain a good girl. However, she could also find that her indulgence has awakened an insatiable beast that bleeds over into all areas of her life. In that sense, perhaps she is now a bad girl.

[Gr****]

I do not necessarily believe in Good & Bad only our comfort level of the consequences. That being said, it is a conundrum being a good girl. Again, my humble opinion. A good girl - (Study by Stanford University) is described by desirable adjectives.
Now to open the can of flying monkeys as I traverse down this rabbit hole.
The adjectives ( words which describe ) which are found desirable to whom?
To Society or societal expectation.
In a society that does not require men to pull up their pants, I am of the mind the point is mute. If we did have any social standards as a whole , (😂😂) the desirable traits of a good girl would be compassion, warmth, cheerfulness, soft spoken and loyal.
For argument’s sake it is not the person who is good but the behaviors.
Urban Dictionary had a quote from Cutie 01.02.2004 which i believe hits the nail on the head.
“A virgin is a freak on the inside and hasn’t been let loose. Asked, “Have you ever done this before? She replied, “ No, I am a good girl.”
It is also mentioned, when a good girl breaks the riles she is wise enough not to get caught.
Traveling down this rabbit hole, I have acquired a measure of knowledge and for sake of argument, I am going to say a good girl is not promiscuous because even though I am a freak, i do not do ass holes or dick heads.
Soooo, I am not going to freak with everyone who is willing and has equipment and the skill set for the job. Also, the physical act of sex creates a soul tie which manifest emotion inside me. Emotion I do not want to have for someone unless I have gotten to know a person, as best I can to try to determine their identity if they are taking me down a rabbit hole to dance with flying monkeys . I don’t know how you feel about flying monkeys but they can go F themselves as far as I am concerned. Again, I do not do Dick Heads or Ass holes. I have discovered getting to know someone on a basic level helps to deter the possibility .
The conundrum comes in because people want instant gratification. They see no value in a person except for the pleasure/ or *** they will provide in the moment.
I am not a virgin nor am I a “good girl”.
I have always said I am a slow study.
It takes me about 3 encounters or meetings to size a persons personality up to decide if I even want to touch them or be touched by them.
Which makes it harder to just get laid or play. But I would rather never be touched again if there were only dick heads and ass holes left in the world. A couple behaviors which cause me to label is they think they are right about everything hey are unkind to people in the service industry. So yes, i am selective ( good girl ) because I like my freedom. Orange is not my color and *** is messy business.

[CopperKnob]

I mean, I posted this over a year ago and I'm pretty certain I'd been out for the evening 🤷‍♀️
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For those that saw it as nothing more than drunken random thinking/a tongue in cheek response to the dullness of the repetitive tropes we find in kink/an opportunity for banter, thank you.
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For those who took it seriously...🤣😂