Disabled and kinky life

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  6 hours ago, Sting-ATL said:

I'm in a wheelchair. I'm a Dom and have an impact sub and a pillow princess. I posted pictures of my subs being restrained and some p*ssy play and got a strike.  The BDSM community is pretty open-minded, but still, I'm discriminated against, and accessibility is an issue with some munches and some dungeons. Most women would not choose a guy in a wheelchair. I'm in my 50s and have had a penis implant surgery and I can stay hard for hours.  There are devotees or AKA Devs. People who love wheelchair users. I tried joining a few Dev groups, but somehow, no female Devs are in Atlanta but I did attract a lot of gay Devs. I'm straight, and a gay dev telling me he wants to have a spinal cord *** for a year or two is insulting. Then he asked me if I had a spare wheelchair. I said, "No," I had backup wheelchairs I might need. I personally would steer clear of the devotees, but it might work for you. Search "Paradevo". Start going to munches and dungeons in your area. I usually go to 2-3 munches a week. I use Fet Life to find the real munches. I have gotten two strikes in a week and never had any before, and I hope I do not get a strike here. Ask me anything. If it's too personal, then DM. 

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 Thank you, I really appreciate it and I will take you up on your offer. I just might be a naive when it comes to people in this community, I thought that people would be a bit more receptive. Like I said it’s not that I haven’t found some I’m just shocked at the unwillingness to even talk and get to know me first before deciding it’s not for them, of course, I completely understand peoples uncomfortableness, especially if they don’t have someone in their life with a disability, but it’s just weird to me, how people react, even though I seemingly fit what they are looking for .

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  1 hour ago, ShyJay33 said:

I’m upfront about it as well, and yeah, having a disability might be offputting for some people, but that just means anyone who does show genuine interest is worth getting to know. 

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And yes, you are 100% correct and I will be moving forward with that mentality.

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I am planning to go do a few clubs in London if anyone’s from the area and has it already done this. Would you mind giving me recommendations cheers in advance. 

[Mx****]

In a wheelchair and getting surgery soon but interested in a sex party. How to keep it safe for my ankle and covid?

[Sting-ATL]

Atlanta has 2-4 munches a week; these can be found on Fetlife. Most munches are in restaurants are accessible.

The Dungeons and not so accessible:

• Club 1763 is 100% closed down.
• The Farm is a farm with an upper dungeon. One big step to get into a 3-car garage down the hill is the barn, which has a steep ramp, not exactly ADA, but someone is there to push. There are some BDSM activities in the house, which are eight steps; I'm carried up.
• The Sinners and Saints dungeon is, I guess, gone, with T being in trouble with the ATL community. It was held in a 140-year-old church in downtown Atlanta.   
• I posted the Dark Haven, which is now out of business.
• I also posted that Tokyo Valentino is a bit dodgy. 
• Defiant Players meets on the first Friday in a biker bar.
• The rest are private house parties which are a hit or miss accessibility wise. 

My favorite munches:

• SAM or Sugarloaf Area Munch meets monthly in Duluth
• Kennesaw Kinskters meets monthly near Maietta Square
• HOT Hothouse Slosh meets monthly at a Brewery in Lawrenceville
• Trivia Munch meets weekly in Sugar Hill
• AASS or Atlanta Area Spanking Society, meets monthly in Dunwoody
• Cobb Munch meets monthly in Kennesaw
• Woodstock Alternative Munch meets in Woodstock.
• I just started my munch called  The Peach Munch. in Peachtree Corners.

Sometimes I go to these:

• Alpharetta Munch meets monthly
• DAM or Decatur Area Munch meets monthly
• N.A.K.E.D. educational Munch meets monthly in Woodstock
• Hiram Munch meets monthly
• Gwinnett Munch meets in Duluth bi-weekly or twice monthly.
• There are more in the Greater Atlanta Area, out further. Just ask me.

DM me if you have any questions regarding accessible munches or getting vetted for a dungeon.

[Sting-ATL]

My page on KinkD and Feeld has only close up pictures of me. But I see if they are a member here on Fetish or Fetlife where I have pictures of me in a wheelchair. On the other site they allow me to post pictures of my subs (even with my hands and my same leather chaise lounge). Last Thursday I had a sub take a selfie with me caning her. I think I can post those here. I got 3 points in a month and I am a bit shy to post anything here. 

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I totally understand, I will check them out

[so****]

All beautiful ppl

[Ko****]

I'ma disabled veteran, with EDS, an some other issues, got kaboomed in Afghanistan. Just beat thyroid cancer as well! But I love the kink side, I'm a little at heart, an a td:dl. So it also helps with coping to being taking care of.

[lu****]

I have spent the last year fighting for breath. Was diagnosed with COPD/athsma crossover. Its diagnosed as severe..sigh. Also have two bad knees, and my right hand is curled from duptreyens syndrome. However, still going to try things out, and see where they go.

[Wr****]

I am 6ft 10 with one leg. My left leg was amputated five years ago and this change has limited my passions. Kink being one of them.

[Sting-ATL]

Disability doesn't need to stop or slow down your kink. I've been paralyzed for 25 years and in a wheelchair. I play with multiple subs weekly. I'm in my 50s. It is about attitude and confidence. Get over yourself, go out, have fun, and do great things. 

[Si****]

Great thread. People with disability should be free to live the life they want, including kink of course.

[Ma****]

Paraplegic here. I’m always up front and honest about my disability. Be open minded and come try it out.

[so****]

Para with no legs it’s the disability that bought the kinks out to try and satisfy my hunger. Trying to orgasm is different now. I’ve just discovered prostate massage. Whoa different having someone fist up my arse but wow best orgasm I’ve ever had

[so****]

It’s difficult finding a partner as a paraplegic specially with no legs but what they don’t realise is we are better lovers as we are willing try different things and think out of the box. We have to just to get on in life. I love my life love my kinks, straight guy but will let who I’m with do a** play with me. I’m into trying absolutely anything. Looking for a loving willing partner for sure so we can play in this world

[Wr****]

At 6ft10in tall, that was part of who I was, I lost my left leg above the knee, and my prostheticist changed my prosthetic from a strap to a suction apparatus, but because my workout has eliminated over a hundred pounds and it just doesn't suction. I never gave much thought to depression, but I sure am thinking about it on the regular. I am 68 and I have decided that I will entertain any kink or fetish, provided the evil taboos are not introduced into the festivities. I am open to just about anything, as long as at least of us has climactic pleasure.

[gr****]

Wow 😮 great information

[br****]

But I found this thread maybe I could get some input. I've got a very dear female friend who's beautiful and was always very sexual she was in an accident 15 years ago she's been a quadriplegic almost she's paraplegic with some use of her arms and talking about things she definitely expressed and desire for better sex life she still has lots of feeling and sensation down there so I was looking at things and I've decided to buy a bunch of simians and start renting them out she lives going to distance from me so I haven't gotten to her yet but I think that this is an amazing answer for a lot of people in wheelchairs especially females who are challenged in getting out of socializing and meeting people is anybody here had experience with the Simeon and if you haven't had experience have you thought about it

[br****]

Sorry talking to text but obviously should have said Sybian

[ba****]

I have neurodiversity and I've never been able to attract a woman. Fine speaking with them online but when I meet in person they lose interest very quickly. Women I've meet in everyday life have never been interested in me. I ask myself is this because of my neurodiversity? Has anyone else found this?

[da****]

Nope, never found that. In addition to my physical disabilities (I'm a wheelchair, hearing aid and AAC user, who is also Coeliac and has sleep Apnoea) I am also autistic, and not exactly a looker, but have never had any issues keeping women or men entertained.

[ba****]

  2 hours ago, danonwheels said:

Nope, never found that. In addition to my physical disabilities (I'm a wheelchair, hearing aid and AAC user, who is also Coeliac and has sleep Apnoea) I am also autistic, and not exactly a looker, but have never had any issues keeping women or men entertained.

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That's good to hear. I guess there are different variations of ND which can make it more difficult to connect with women. Such as poor body language, body posture, nervousness, restlessness, unable to read a women's emotional state, easily distracted, not able to focus etc