First Munch

[Re****]

Hi guys, C (sub) here, we are going to our first munch this weekend, will freely admit I am slightly nervous, any hints and tips would be greatly appreciated. What should I expect? I realise that as with anything, munches may differ. Thanks in advance, have an awesome day. 

[ey****]

most munches will have a mixed bag of people and experiences - many of which who will all remember what it's like to be new - and some very excited about the possibility of new friends

I'd say don't be too forthcoming with revealing or asking info too personal - and, yeah, see it as an opportunity for the beginnings of mutual friendships

[Re****]

Thank you very much for taking the time to respond, I really appreciate it. 

[ey****]

you're welcome.  I remember being new and not knowing what to expect - and then I remember making new friends and being "woah, people like me" - so hopefully you'll have a similar experience

[Re****]

I hope so, am going in with a calm (ish) open mind, just looking to meet people, hopefully make a friend or two. We figured it's the logical step if we want to get to know the community better, we're all just people after all, we all like to socialise. Thanks again for your advice, very much appreciated. 

[Ra****]

It's all about meeting people. Honestly in London at least it is very casual and very friendly. You go around and talk about mundane things and you look around and you have no idea what kind of kinky person you're speaking with. That is my experience of it. Go have and drink, relax and meet new people..

[Re****]

Thank you, this is really helping me to chill out about it and lose the nerves. 

[Mo****]

I host 3.5 munches every month and the best advice I can give you is to show up with an open mind, introduce yourself to the host, order something from the venue and be nice to the venue's staff. As far as the other kinksters go, be organic. Interact as much or as little as you like and be comfortable. GOod luck and have fun!

[Re****]

Thank you, really appreciate your advice. 

[Ark4love]

How do I find New Jersey munches. I'm single virgin sub.

[ey****]

2 hours ago, Ark4love said:

How do I find New Jersey munches. I'm single virgin sub.

does your computer have a copy of Google?

Being a single, a virgin and a sub is also completely moot.  Going to a munch won't change any of that.

[Mi****]

Munches are usually a pretty relaxed social affair. Just be yourself, chat to as many people as you can and you should come away with some new friends

[Ark4love]

I'm very shy.

[ey****]

1 minute ago, Ark4love said:

I'm very shy.

I'm sorry to hear this.  For what it's worth you'll probably very soon find others there are (or were) in a similar boat and actually being a part and talking to people may help.

However, depending on your levels of shyness - this might be too much.  In which case, I don't want to sound cold when I say nobody will hold your hand - but - there is a level to how much people can really help you until it becomes tiresome.  Seek reading materials or help in overcoming shyness and growing confidence and I'm sure you'll blossom. 

[Edwina343]

Went to really my first munch last night at putney.   I  didn't realise how nervous I was

Knees knockings etc.  Standing in a room with complete strangers.  Some tried to make me welcome but at first I was out of my comfort zone.  But I like to thank Scott, Jo,Phil, Mark, Ben, Ross,  Hungarian Joe,AJ, Graeme, Ruth and everyone else for making my evening.  It was such a thrill and honour to meet a mistress in person . Lol to all.

 

[Edwina343]

I ended  up having a very enjoyable evening. Hence mentioning all those names.  People I spoke to.  Even the experience of the *** and terror was a good thing .