Compatible

[Sire_Osiris]

Virtues, politics, kinks, love languages, age or education... what matters more to you when you look for someone?
You don't have to respond.

[Je****]

Chemistry. In person. Butterflies. Smiles. Sense of humour. Basic level of attractiveness (for what I prefer). Honesty. Communication and respect.

[Hottiefoxy]

Communication and honesty

[NoNameDom84]

A reply

[Ba****]

If they make me feel safe/at ease. When first starting to talk to someone, it's kinks, values, and how they care about others. Honesty is a big one, too. If you cant be honest, I think you need to find a new thing to participate in.

[Cheekysub247]

Kink/lifestyle has to match well, not bedroom only type.
A similar age/stage in life, i dont want more kids so they need to already have them if they want them.
Their education/job means nothing to me, just need to be able to support themselves.
Got to be honest, trustworthy, kind underneath.

[ge****]

Above all else, attraction, connection, chemistry and compatibility - have those in place and individual elements pale by comparison

[ph****]

I have an 80/15/5 rule when it comes to compatibility. Eighty percent of interests should line up right off the bat. Fif*** should be negotiable. The last five, well, those are never going to jive.
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If those five are in one or the others eighty, it’s prolly (almost definitely) not going to be work out.
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To answer your question; virtues are definitely top tier as are kinks. Education is a sticky one because it isn’t a level of institutional education that I’m looking for as much as an ability to communicate clearly and have the ability to have interests is subjects.
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Love languages would be a close second tier only because one language may be vitally important to one while minor to another, but it’s the thought that counts.

[littlemiss37]

The connection is the number one thing for me.i have a good connection with my dom in a way we think alike in ways and our kinks r different. We want to explore the same sort of kinks. Also with finding someone I need to know about the dangers of the kinks I would like to explore and explore. Like negotiation before hand checking in with the person every so often to make sure they r ok and research right in to the kink also xx

[do****]

Overall, intelligence is sexy 😍. You need that first in order to even discuss the rest.

[kree90]

Honesty and intelligence! If I can't trust you (either because of dishonesty or low intelligence) I won't give out that kind of energy to you. Deal breaker.

[Deleted Member]

For me, it’s the energy I get from the person… if I can feel their energy and it’s a positive feeling for me, then I’m more attracted to them but if I don’t get a positive energy, then there’s no point. I do prefer people near my age that has similar kinks and virtues, but it’s more about the energy for me… though as a primal, that’s kind of the number one thing for me.

[Nocturne]

Willingness to communicate, respect for the differences that we have, and how I feel when I'm with them.

They need to value safety and consent, of course, both their own and mine.