BigPolly Posted June 12, 2019 Posted June 12, 2019 8 hours ago, Pacman1965 said: The hurdle for me (not for her, because we talked about it) seems to be with her laying there tied up and with a gag. While this would be extremely erotic for me and her, I just feel all awkward and feel I need to blindfold her so I can relax and not feel awkward. So annoying! Have you thought about going to a fetish club/party? You don’t have to join in just go along, see what other people do & get chatting to folk. I think this will help massively with new ideas & any awkwardness
Pacman1965 Posted June 12, 2019 Author Posted June 12, 2019 13 hours ago, BigPolly said: Have you thought about going to a fetish club/party? You don’t have to join in just go along, see what other people do & get chatting to folk. I think this will help massively with new ideas & any awkwardness Thanks for this suggestion, but this wouldn't really be an option for us due to various reasons. It would be great to hear some experiences here, but I am not sure people really want to share.
Deleted Member Posted June 14, 2019 Posted June 14, 2019 I used to be really uncomfortable in having anyone look at me when I was tied up. I used to close my eyes and not want to see them looking at me, but as I got more comfortable with it i got used to it. I think it’s about enduring it more, the more you do this stuff and realise you’re getting turned on and realise that other people share the same fantasies as you. That’s in one way how porn helped as it got me used to it more. Maybe you could try tying her up from behind in a not sexual way first. Just talk about it to her whilst your doing it, have talk with you. I think you need to be more exposed to it to overcome the awkwardness of it
Pacman1965 Posted June 15, 2019 Author Posted June 15, 2019 Ok, nice to know that I'm not the only one who has felt a little embarrassed or awkward. I have the fantasy of just tying her up and gagging for a while, before the serious play started. Kind of like a captured damsel thing for fun, but her seeing me looking at her and the eue contact is a challenge. When the toys come out for the serious play, that is when the blindfold goes on and seems easier.
Vandalslut Posted July 17, 2019 Posted July 17, 2019 (edited) Hi, Pacman 1965, hope things are going easier for you. I know how you feel about scheduling sessions, but that's the way of it, life is busy. So 'book' a day - but not a time - and take some of those excellent suggestions already offered. Turn phone off, lock the door. Just surprise her with an order to "Face the wall, NOW!" when she comes in from hanging the washing out. (The housework can wait...). Order her to strip and if she's slow about carrying out your order, you do it and really rip her knickers off. Get a collar and lead - we got ours at a discount shop, a dog chain collar and lead. My lord uses a padlock to lock it on me. Tell her to get on all fours once she's naked, straddle her, lock the collar and lead on and urge her along on all fours to the bed - with a switch if you like. She is to keep her head down and rein*** the instruction with a light switch on the behind - just to remind her who's boss and what may happen if she doesn't do what she's told. Up on the bed, face down, handcuff her and tie her arms together as well above the elbow. Not necessary, but that rein***s, in her mind, that you are the boss and can do it just because you feel like it . Blindfold her and gag her. Turn her over, spread eagle and tie her ankles. (Hint: my lord's rather well endowed and I find it easier to accommodate him if I can bend my knees before he ties my ankle apart) If the lead's long enough, tie it to the bed head. If not detach it and leave her in the collar. The above scenario might solve your problem of eye contact. Making it last...Now leave her there, wondering what's going to happen next and when...or even if! Let her hear you moving around in other parts of the house, put the telly on, whatever. Return to the bedroom at irregular intervals to start getting her aroused, then leave her - kind of edging variant. Then it'll go as long as you and she likes, she doesn't know what's coming (pardon the pun), you've got her gagged so she can't beg for release or for what she wants... and save one form of arousal, whatever REALLY gets her hips thrusting, to tip her over the edge into one hell of a screaming orgasm. Get some toys you're certain you'll both enjoy and keep them as a surprise. One submissive I heard of found herself blindfolded, gagged, hand-cuffed, elbow-cuffed, butt-plugged, in an ankle spreader which was roped up and tied to a high posture collar in a quite sadistic hog-tie - with a 10 inch remote dildo inserted. For the next two hours, her Master watched telly while she lay at his feet, completely unable to move so much as an inch or scream, and he turned the remote on during the ads - then turned it off when the film came back on. She reckoned it was the finest afternoon she ever spent. Whatever you do, depending on how long you make it go on for, once she's come, leave her there - tied, gagged, etc. Tell her she's staying there for your convenience and usage. I love it when my lord tells me that. Another thing you can do, while she's at your mercy, is take photos. We're in the digital age, it's not like you've got to take the film anywhere for developing now, and you can delete them if you want. But if she hears the camera clicking - oh, wow, could be a whole new addition to the distressed damsel scenario. Have fun. PS. Fetish.com has a fabulous article about types of gags, check it out. Edited July 17, 2019 by Vandalslut Forgot something
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