I'm new to the LS but not new to the knowledge

[li****]

I just turned 18 so now I can experiment I know what I like, But i'm scared to actually try it...... Scared really isn't the word I think i'm looking for overwhelmed.
Yeah I'm overwhelmed with the fact that I'm allowed to do this now as a *** It seems so taboo and always interest me but now I can enjoy it but I think I'm overwhelmed with the thought of actually being able to do it.

[De****]

Gardually to accept who you are is a lifetime work which requires letting go of taboos and facing various ***s, some of the society-related. Take care to go slow and follow your intuition as you do not have to take major steps all at once. Find a nice partner who you trust and if you feel good intuition about it begin experimenting with small things and not all at once. Very important to enjoy whatever you choose to do.

[ey****]

this is not entirely uncommon

that you might have built certain fantasies or ideas up in your head - and now there's a possibility these could become real it gets a bit... yikes... what if I don't like it, what if the opportunity doesn't present itself, what if...?

So. Stop. Breathe.

The plus - you are now 18 so can do it if the opportunity is there

But also the plus - you are ONLY 18 so there is a lot of life ahead of you so you can indulge as and when you're ready.  

To be honest, rushing out and doing all the things (which is a form of sub frenzy) can often be bad.    So, like, chill in the knowledge that you CAN do things you've fantasised about.  You just don't have to. 

[Sw****]

Please be safe, always have a safeword if you're going into a new space, and mutual respect is always good :) (not as in don't live your fantasies, if you're a degradee, masochist, etc., but that you're a human being and everyone has some form of limit/boundary, yours should be respected too). Most importantly, have fun out there!!

[al****]

Hello love. We share similar stories except, I wasn't scared to try it before 18. If you ever need any advice on the BDSM world you can always shoot me a message

XOXO 😊

[Cr****]

I would suggest finding a partner who you trust has your best interests at heart, physically and psycho emotionally.
I like playing with two safe words: One is a red light; a complete and immediate stop. The other is a yellow light; indicating that you are getting close to the boundary. An ex of mine and me used this for non-sexual purposes too.

[Ex****]

Whatever you do, make sure you are safe, i would suggest choosing someone you trust from your local/community it would be safer than a stranger on the internet. If that's not an option, just try online play for a period of time before physically interacting. To start, i would suggest submitting only during play time and you MUST return equal to discuss. If the person doesn't understand this is a game, which you can stop and act abusive you should notice it. Life is shorter than you think so have fun, but in a responsible and safe way.

[li****]

Please be safe, I have been in your shoes and sometimes still am. If you have any questions or want some advice shoot me a dm.

[ba****]

It's ok to move slow. No need to rush into things.

[ed****]

One step at a time. There is no rush ok.

[as****]

Can and should are two different things, take your time, as 18 is just a legal minimum and doesn't make u magically any more mature. I feel like this post invites weirdos into ur dms.... I'm sorry that be careful is such prevalent advice but I'm glad the comments are such- and so kindly.

[Pa****]

Ok to be nervous. Take your time and enjoy the ride

[Deleted Member]

Pretty much what everyone else said. It can start like a regular relationship. Just hanging out with a person you like. The difference is you are into things that are more fun is all.

[Deleted Member]

Same here

[va****]

Just focus on 1-3 specific kinks that you’ve been dying to try. If you try to do a thousand different things at once, I feel like you’d be overwhelmed by it.

[Th****]

Just because you can doesn't mean you must. Hang out here for quote a while first. Go through old posts and read. Read and pay attention to new posts and threads. Make some platonic friends who are ***rs, talk to them about their experiences. Ease into things, find someone you can build friendship and trust with.  Maybe you already have someone in your life you trust you can discuss and explore together. 

[Deleted Member]

Follow your heart ♥️ & be committed to what you want. You’re 18 ! Relax love, things will work out in your favor. My best wishes for you ! Sincerely ! Jess 🥰🌷