Anonymous profiles

[Ba****]

No amount of time. I couldn't get to know someone without knowing what they looked like first. As a sub, I have to put my safety above that of the comfort of others. Meaning that idc if an anonymous profile sends me the most detailed list of kinks, soft limits, and hard limits, if they don't have a picture of them on their profile, I'm not gonna answer.
I'm not saying that anonymous profiles are only creeps that want to hurt people, but I don't care to take that chance anyways.
It's about comfort and safety for me. I wouldn't feel comfortable or safe talking to someone I can't picture in my head.

[ge****]

43 minutes ago, pauld999 said:

All anonymous profiles are just fakes getting off.

Not necessarily - whilst it can be a red flag, it's not an automatic one - some people prefer to keep their identities private for any number of reasons that doesn't necessarily mean they are "fakes getting off"

[Deleted Member]

I won’t engage at all. If you have to hide, you’re not for me. Too bad as I’m sure some people would be if they weren’t anonymous.

[th****]

1 hour ago, CopperKnob said:

How long is a piece of string?
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I don't think that I can quantify how long it takes for me to be comfortable enough with someone before I share personal information or a full face picture.
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It's more than embarassment/judgement for me. My job means not only am I google-able but that it could be at risk if the registering body feels that I've brought the profession into disrepute and I can do without the stress of being under that level of scrutiny.
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I'm also a hugely private person generally about personal/home life.
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How active I am here, the fact that I have some pictures of myself should he enough for others to feel confident that I'm not a fake profile.
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If I don't fall into other peoples timescales with respect of sharing a lot of info about myself then that's OK.

No but one can often work with averages, ranges etc. As a former member of a registered profession I do understand the resistance, but without a physical attraction I find myself losing interest. I’m always interested in understanding whether I’m being unreasonable and learning and appealing to the collective resource on this website is a helpful tool. Im not asking for hard and fast rules, just a finger in the air about general attitudes

[th****]

2 hours ago, 1BlondeBombshell said:

I’d like to address a few of your concerns based entirely on my own personal experiences. First, it is a fact that there are a tremendous amount of nefarious profiles, with their own agendas as to why they are on this site. I am happy to chat with anyone who appears sincere, however, I will not reveal any identifiable photos to a stranger at the other end of a keyboard. I am a female professional model, and I have known of photos ending up on porn sites and worse, unknowingly. So my rule is this: if the first thing you want to know about me is what I look like, I immediately block you from any further discussion. It is a true sign of someone not interested in getting to know me, merely looking for eye candy appeal. If, on the other hand, I have had an ongoing conversation with someone for two weeks, and it seems to be going well, I will suggest a meeting. Most imposters will immediately drop you, and you can stop wasting time. That being said, I have shown up at real time meetings several times, only to be scammed by someone who had no intentions of showing up. But sometimes there will be someone real and interested enough who will be there, and you go from there. Suggest a meeting, test for realism.

Yes but you have some pictures and are obviously very attractive to most people. You aren’t a blank canvas. But your approach does also appear to assume that when the person sees you they are going to be attracted to you, which I have no doubt is the case. I own my own businesses and I’m very busy. For there to be any kind of connection there needs to be a physical attraction. From your point of view, why should I be asked to invest that much time, and emotional energy, forming a bond with someone that I may, or may not, wish to take things further with.

[4R****]

I'll happily talk with anyone for any length or time without knowing what they look like. But that discussion would be rather limited to non-personal information.

 

But lets look at the actual question in the OP......

4 hours ago, thegentlemandom said:

How long are you willing to speak with an anonymous profile regarding a POSSIBLE D/S DYNAMIC or PLAY DATE before they show you what they look like?

I wouldn't be at the stage of speaking to anyone about a possible play date if I had no idea what they looked like. In fact I wouldn't consider playing with anyone until I knew exactly who they were.

As for a dynamic - who in their right mind would consider a D/s dynamic with someone they have never seen?

 

Whilst I'll gladly talk about the lifestyle, kinks & fetishes, if they want to stay anonymous, they'd better get used to talking about the weather, the news and politics because they'll not get much else out of me!

[Anya69bj]

Ive only been on here for 3 days, but don't interact with anonymous profiles,

[CopperKnob]

7 minutes ago, 4RCH said:

I'll happily talk with anyone for any length or time without knowing what they look like. But that discussion would be rather limited to non-personal information.

 

But lets look at the actual question in the OP......

I wouldn't be at the stage of speaking to anyone about a possible play date if I had no idea what they looked like. In fact I wouldn't consider playing with anyone until I knew exactly who they were.

As for a dynamic - who in their right mind would consider a D/s dynamic with someone they have never seen?

 

Whilst I'll gladly talk about the lifestyle, kinks & fetishes, if they want to stay anonymous, they'd better get used to talking about the weather, the news and politics because they'll not get much else out of me!

How are you finding the heatwave these past few days? 😂

[ge****]

9 minutes ago, 4RCH said:

I'll happily talk with anyone for any length or time without knowing what they look like. But that discussion would be rather limited to non-personal information.

 

But lets look at the actual question in the OP......

I wouldn't be at the stage of speaking to anyone about a possible play date if I had no idea what they looked like. In fact I wouldn't consider playing with anyone until I knew exactly who they were.

As for a dynamic - who in their right mind would consider a D/s dynamic with someone they have never seen?

 

Whilst I'll gladly talk about the lifestyle, kinks & fetishes, if they want to stay anonymous, they'd better get used to talking about the weather, the news and politics because they'll not get much else out of me!

I'd take that one step further and suggest I'd find it hard to consider entering into a D/s dynamic with someone I'd not met, let alone not seen - perhaps consider a meet with the potential to play, but a dynamic would take a lot more

[CopperKnob]

49 minutes ago, thegentlemandom said:

No but one can often work with averages, ranges etc. As a former member of a registered profession I do understand the resistance, but without a physical attraction I find myself losing interest. I’m always interested in understanding whether I’m being unreasonable and learning and appealing to the collective resource on this website is a helpful tool. Im not asking for hard and fast rules, just a finger in the air about general attitudes

For sure, physical attraction is important. But like I say, it happens when it happens and rather than being a definitive timeline would be more of a natural occurrence for me.

[4R****]

Just now, CopperKnob said:

How are you finding the heatwave these past few days? 😂

I'm melting........ smartass!  

[4R****]

8 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

I'd take that one step further and suggest I'd find it hard to consider entering into a D/s dynamic with someone I'd not met, let alone not seen - perhaps consider a meet with the potential to play, but a dynamic would take a lot more

Agreed but I was making allowances for the possibility of LDR dynamics. - you never know ;)

[ge****]

1 hour ago, thegentlemandom said:

No but one can often work with averages, ranges etc. As a former member of a registered profession I do understand the resistance, but without a physical attraction I find myself losing interest. I’m always interested in understanding whether I’m being unreasonable and learning and appealing to the collective resource on this website is a helpful tool. Im not asking for hard and fast rules, just a finger in the air about general attitudes

I think a lot may come down to how individuals use the site - for me my aim of using it is not primarily meeting, so attraction etc become less of a thing and happens more organically, so the need to "see" someone becomes less important as a result.
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It also does away with the "losing interest" angle you refer to - as I said I have people I talk to on here who I've been talking to for months and in some instances longer, yet have never seen them - in some instances there's an attraction but on a different level from the physical, kind of a more cerebral connection

[ge****]

8 minutes ago, 4RCH said:

Agreed but I was making allowances for the possibility of LDR dynamics. - you never know ;)

Oh for sure, and was talking more from a personal standpoint

[CopperKnob]

22 minutes ago, 4RCH said:

I'm melting........ smartass!  

I'm in a wind up mood tonight 🤷‍♀️

[Deleted Member]

If there are no pictures, you had better be willing to send them through the chat. If not, nope. Sorry. My face is there. If you aren’t comfortable enough, to trust me in chat, all set.

[th****]

10 minutes ago, gemini_man said:

I think a lot may come down to how individuals use the site - for me my aim of using it is not primarily meeting, so attraction etc become less of a thing and happens more organically, so the need to "see" someone becomes less important as a result.
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It also does away with the "losing interest" angle you refer to - as I said I have people I talk to on here who I've been talking to for months and in some instances longer, yet have never seen them - in some instances there's an attraction but on a different level from the physical, kind of a more cerebral connection

Yes but at least for me a cerebral attraction without a physical attraction is a friend. I need both, physical attraction alone isn’t enough to keep me interested either

[Bi****]

This isn’t 1997 in a chat room anymore with asking someone’s asl and describing them selves and hoping that’s true

[ge****]

32 minutes ago, thegentlemandom said:

Yes but at least for me a cerebral attraction without a physical attraction is a friend. I need both, physical attraction alone isn’t enough to keep me interested either

Oh absolutely they go hand in hand for it to be more - but my point was you can have that cerebral attraction until both are ready to take things to another level and discover if the physical attraction is there, especially in instances where there are non-face pics on the profile to give you a fair idea that there will be.
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There is however no right or wrong way to it, only our own individual ways and for me I'm happy to wait if the other person prefers not to share, but can understand those who might want to establish facial attraction early on - though as I said perhaps it comes down to individual ways of using the site and the primary aim we each have of doing so.

[Lu****]

Anonymous profile as in no photo and blank profile? If that's the case I would be very wary. I can understand and respect why people chose to have their face hidden or partially hidden in their photos because after all this is the interweb.
From experience, I will never ask straight away because I wouldn't like that of that was asked of me, if its been a week or depending on how the conversation flows, naturally curiosity will want to see who is on the other side. If they make excuses, avoids the subject and flat out refuses then it's down to me to decide if I'm okay with that to continue talking.

[Je****]

I won't and I don't. Ever.

[ey****]

I think some depends on the context

and, it really does

But I think....

we've had threads in the past where (particularly) women have said they feel put off by anonymous or minimal profiles - and, largely, guys should consider the same.

if the person is anonymous because they are lazy - then why would you be interested?

if they are anonymous because say they're really nervous, apprehensive, like they want to get into kink but it all still seems a little scary - then, they need time to come out of their shell and, to be honest, in many cases they probably aren't ready to meet.   

There is power play of course - because they know what you look like and you don't have the same luxury, which on one hand gives them assorted advantage - but, on another hand, you having a picture and them not being ready could make them feel pressured when they're not feeling quite ready

context really is everything

 

[do****]

No go for anonymous. To each their own. With almost 30 years of online dating experience, too, too many bored people in the world. Time is something you cannot get back. I'm authentic, an originalist. I'm not wasting on anonymous something original that I cannot use again. Just for you to sit on the opposite side of the screen and get your kicks and giggles on. Nah, I'll pass. I get the blackmail, work, warrants, etc. part of not showing your pic but after initial engagement, you must prove who you say you are before engagements proceed or you will not get a response from me

[QXX666]

If it’s new profile I give a week or depending how long I could feel it’s a dead dodo. In my experience most anon profile are fake/ time waster or attention seekers. I would certainly not wasting your time waiting for a Ds relationship… trust is both sided

[Ni****]

I'd have to say no time at all, I will open a conversation but not discuss dates or anything even close simply because I've already chosen to show my *** side if you can't do the same we have nothing to talk about