Masculine chastity subs?

[Realsubmale951]

I see what is portrayed online is mostly subs who are trans or sissy. Not that there is anything wrong with that. But it is not who I am. I am a very masculine and muscular chastity sub. Is this something dominant women are into? Everyone who ever contacts me expects me to be a sissy. Should I give up and go vanilla? 

[ey****]

some trans women wear chastity because, well, they don't want a cock

sissies again is part of a hyper femineity

some of this also gets packaged up as a sellable fantasy - sometimes the idea of being feminised and stripped of cock

but the folk I know who do long term chastity are neither.  you look beyond the packaged fantasy

one of the problems some chastity subs often have is - well.... if you wanted to go into chastity you could at any time. you don't need a Domme. you don't need a keyholder.  if you were serious about wanting to be in chastity, you can do it.

but otherwise it's a relationship centred around your dick, in a way that can't even please the other person since it's locked up

[MsPebbles]

Yes we want you masculine and in chastity! Do not give up.

[Realsubmale951]

  3 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

some trans women wear chastity because, well, they don't want a cock

sissies again is part of a hyper femineity

some of this also gets packaged up as a sellable fantasy - sometimes the idea of being feminised and stripped of cock

but the folk I know who do long term chastity are neither.  you look beyond the packaged fantasy

one of the problems some chastity subs often have is - well.... if you wanted to go into chastity you could at any time. you don't need a Domme. you don't need a keyholder.  if you were serious about wanting to be in chastity, you can do it.

but otherwise it's a relationship centred around your dick, in a way that can't even please the other person since it's locked up

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There is so much wrong with this reply.

First, my question was towards dominant women and their preferences. 

Second, a chastity device can be removed as easily as it can be locked. Sex is still possible, it's just she has the control now.

Third, I have been in relationships where chastity was employed and it wasn't "centered around my dick". Which leads to the follow up to that; your assumption that I'm not "serious". If I wasn't serious, I wouldn't have several stainless devices, none of which came from Amazon or aliexpress. And I surely wouldn't have a pa piercing. 

I appreciate input, but I don't appreciate assumptions. 

[Hal727]

  34 minutes ago, Realsubmale951 said:

There is so much wrong with this reply.

First, my question was towards dominant women and their preferences. 

Second, a chastity device can be removed as easily as it can be locked. Sex is still possible, it's just she has the control now.

Third, I have been in relationships where chastity was employed and it wasn't "centered around my dick". Which leads to the follow up to that; your assumption that I'm not "serious". If I wasn't serious, I wouldn't have several stainless devices, none of which came from Amazon or aliexpress. And I surely wouldn't have a pa piercing. 

I appreciate input, but I don't appreciate assumptions. 

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Well said! Assumptions suck! Einstein said, “If you assume, you’re probably going to be wrong “!

[le****]

To bad you aren’t closer I’d def play with you!

[ey****]

  3 hours ago, Realsubmale951 said:

I have been in relationships where chastity was employed

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then, respectfully

you already knew the answer to your question

[ge****]

  3 hours ago, Realsubmale951 said:

There is so much wrong with this reply.

First, my question was towards dominant women and their preferences. 

Second, a chastity device can be removed as easily as it can be locked. Sex is still possible, it's just she has the control now.

Third, I have been in relationships where chastity was employed and it wasn't "centered around my dick". Which leads to the follow up to that; your assumption that I'm not "serious". If I wasn't serious, I wouldn't have several stainless devices, none of which came from Amazon or aliexpress. And I surely wouldn't have a pa piercing. 

I appreciate input, but I don't appreciate assumptions. 

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To be fair to eyem - I think you'll find he was generalising rather than specifically pointing his comments at you - you'll notice he used the word "some" right before everything he said, substitute the word "they" for "you" and it makes more sense (though knowing eyem "you" was a generic term in this instance).
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Either way his points are valid in a general sense.
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Yes, there is a whole area of chastity that covers feminisation/sissys, but there are also areas that cover masculine subs in chastity, whether that be the cuckolding angle, or simply men who are kept locked purely for their dominant's pleasure.
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As with most things in this life though, the key (no pun intended!!) is finding those who match what you are looking for - and that's the hard part.
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Have you tried Chastity Mansion which is a site dedicated to those that enjoy chastity both as dominants/key holders, and wearers? May help find what you're looking for.

[Realsubmale951]

  22 hours ago, MsPebbles said:

Yes we want you masculine and in chastity! Do not give up.

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Thank you for the encouragement. I appreciate it. 

[Realsubmale951]

  18 hours ago, gemini_man said:

To be fair to eyem - I think you'll find he was generalising rather than specifically pointing his comments at you - you'll notice he used the word "some" right before everything he said, substitute the word "they" for "you" and it makes more sense (though knowing eyem "you" was a generic term in this instance).
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Either way his points are valid in a general sense.
.
Yes, there is a whole area of chastity that covers feminisation/sissys, but there are also areas that cover masculine subs in chastity, whether that be the cuckolding angle, or simply men who are kept locked purely for their dominant's pleasure.
.
As with most things in this life though, the key (no pun intended!!) is finding those who match what you are looking for - and that's the hard part.
.
Have you tried Chastity Mansion which is a site dedicated to those that enjoy chastity both as dominants/key holders, and wearers? May help find what you're looking for.

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I have tried chastity mansion. But thanks for the recommendation. I appreciate it. 

[Realsubmale951]

  21 hours ago, lewisville9189 said:

To bad you aren’t closer I’d def play with you!

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I always seem to be in the wrong place. 

[Th****]

  On 6/13/2023 at 6:42 PM, eyemblacksheep said:

some trans women wear chastity because, well, they don't want a cock

sissies again is part of a hyper femineity

some of this also gets packaged up as a sellable fantasy - sometimes the idea of being feminised and stripped of cock

but the folk I know who do long term chastity are neither.  you look beyond the packaged fantasy

one of the problems some chastity subs often have is - well.... if you wanted to go into chastity you could at any time. you don't need a Domme. you don't need a keyholder.  if you were serious about wanting to be in chastity, you can do it.

but otherwise it's a relationship centred around your dick, in a way that can't even please the other person since it's locked up

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Wow. Your responses aren't usually quite this bad. 

 

@Realsubmale951 to answer your op, we're out here. It often feels just as frustrating to sift through the throngs from this side of the slash as well. 

I personally don't want a doormat, but a strong, capable partner. I just happen to enjoy the position of power and control if there's to be any power exchange. 

[Realsubmale951]

  37 minutes ago, ThaliaVirago said:

Wow. Your responses aren't usually quite this bad. 

 

@Realsubmale951 to answer your op, we're out here. It often feels just as frustrating to sift through the throngs from this side of the slash as well. 

I personally don't want a doormat, but a strong, capable partner. I just happen to enjoy the position of power and control if there's to be any power exchange. 

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Thank you for your reply. 

Power exchange isn't really power exchange if one half is powerless. 

[Mi****]

I love a masculine sub!! I actually prefer them. I think it’s a bit of a cliche that most Dommes like a feminine sub.

[Shananddr]

Yes women want that. Don’t believe all you see portrayed. Most subs I know are strong men. Giving up control doesn’t make someone weaker or more feminine.

[Realsubmale951]

  On 6/15/2023 at 1:21 PM, PervyPenelope said:

I love a masculine sub!! I actually prefer them. I think it’s a bit of a cliche that most Dommes like a feminine sub.

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Thank you for your input, it's very encouraging. 

[Realsubmale951]

  14 hours ago, Shananddr said:

Yes women want that. Don’t believe all you see portrayed. Most subs I know are strong men. Giving up control doesn’t make someone weaker or more feminine.

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Thank you for your input, I really appreciate it. 

[Theo-the-Lion]

Hi mate, absolutely. As a man, I think it is really important that we be who we are. I'm the same, I am a man, I have hair, a muscular build, I have to shave, I smell like a man and like masculine pastimes.

My wife loves that she has captured and brought a man to heel. She doesn't want me to some girly man.

Please don't look at all the Femdom trope videos on pornhub etc., this is a cartoon fantasy world and is not a reflection of Female Led Relationships or Female Domination.

I hope you find what you're looking for.

T x

[Va****]

I was LITERALLY just having this talk! I find it very hard to look into my kinks when it is so closely associated with humiliating kinks and sissificstion. I'm so glad to hear I'm not alone in this

[Deleted Member]

I will say this is a good question/comment. I’m just not into the feminization side of chastity. But it’s hard to avoid when posting or chatting with others about chastity. I know not everyone is into that. But hard to find people that want a more masculine guy locked up. 

[Realsubmale951]

  On 9/5/2023 at 6:38 AM, JustWantSome said:

I will say this is a good question/comment. I’m just not into the feminization side of chastity. But it’s hard to avoid when posting or chatting with others about chastity. I know not everyone is into that. But hard to find people that want a more masculine guy locked up. 

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Way too often, the first words of a first message from someone new, will be, "hi sissy". For some reason, there is an automatic association between chastity and being a sissy. 

[Brooksong]

I am willing to put up with a sissy but do not seek those types out. I enjoy a masculine male under my feet. We are out there...looking for the man that fits our bill. But so many factors make it difficult for both sides of the slash to find the right one. Do not give up hope. I have not, nor will I. Nor should you. Keep your head up, eyes wide, ears open, and keep reaching for your dreams. Just know that there are a lot of people on these sites that you will have to wade through to find your gem. But the gem is there waiting.

[KinkyChef-69]

I have previously been in a FLR and was in chastity for a year. My Dom didn’t want me to be a sissy or trans. She just wanted me to be the person I was previously (before chastity) but with her having control over my orgasms and leverage for her to get her way. It was my idea too, so I think she respected that I wanted to be a better me, which ultimately worked really well. I was more respectful, we never argued and we connected sexually 10x more than we did before.

I think there is definitely demand for a male like you, but i think there are a lot of women who are not aware of the benefits. Good luck👍

[Realsubmale951]

  On 10/22/2023 at 6:22 AM, KinkyChef-69 said:

I have previously been in a FLR and was in chastity for a year. My Dom didn’t want me to be a sissy or trans. She just wanted me to be the person I was previously (before chastity) but with her having control over my orgasms and leverage for her to get her way. It was my idea too, so I think she respected that I wanted to be a better me, which ultimately worked really well. I was more respectful, we never argued and we connected sexually 10x more than we did before.

I think there is definitely demand for a male like you, but i think there are a lot of women who are not aware of the benefits. Good luck👍

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Thanks, I appreciate the encouragement. 

[in****]

I do have a question about this. Does chastity cages shrink your penis size?