Punishment/rewarding

[Gu****]

**For Doms**
Was curious what are some ways you punish (and or) reward you sub non sexually?? Just looking for some insight within the community.

[ey****]

in general

punishment (if part of the dynamic) : an activity mutually agreed in line with the subs enjoyment / consensual non-enjoyment

reward : something the sub actively enjoys

 

what is a punishment/reward for one person is a reward/punishment for another 

[Mr--Sir]

I punish almost exclusively non sexually. From sitting on door mats, to putting puzzles together in uncomfortable positions. It depends on the infraction and its severity.

As for rewarding, my submissive is a needy slut that typically only craves one reward. However, I will get her small gifts, make something, or take her somewhere special.

[un****]

everything from small things like stuffed ***s, make up, movies, massages etc altho that last one can lead to sex occasionally as for punishment it could be writing lines, kneeling on frozen peas, corner time, no tiktok or screen time in general for X amount of time etc because usually i’m with littles with masochistic tendencies

[Da****]

Punishments are mean to “fit the crime”
So corner time, with or without a tack bra, lines or an essay, reduced screen time…
Rewards picking something off her Amazon wish list, taking her somewhere special…

[ta****]

To reward: snacks, anything she may mention in text, spontaneous gifts/dates

Punishment: Varys light punishment take phone and make her sit in timeout, light spankings

[Deleted Member]

Rewards 1. Mani pedi 2.food 3. snuggling
4. Shopping 5. Books and so on. It truly does come down the how in depth this dynamic between Dom/sub and what's within the boundaries and consent


Punishments, that's truly based off the dynamics of that relationship ill do anywhere from 1.sensory deprivation
2. Light to medium spankings 3. whipping, 4. breath play 5. Edging 6. Orgasm denial
7.

[Deleted Member]

Many subs find a lot of “punishments” to be not a punishment so depends on your sub and the dynamic, what he/she likes doesn’t like, etc. some examples of punishments I’ve used include: tying them to the bed and leaving them there for a certain amount of time and freely going in and out of the room to use them however you please. Another good one is silent treatment (no texts, calls, etc). Cold spanking (no warm up) is another good one. Orgasm denial (tying them up and using toys until they’re close to cumming and then stopping it’s before they cum) there’s also lots of *** stuff like walking them on a leash in a public space, having them service you in public (like road head) or having them service your house (cleaning, laundry, etc)
Rewards can be orgasms, date nights, gifts, fulfilling a fantasy they’ve told you about

[To****]

90% of what I do is non-sexual sexual has to be earned and that's only if they're good other than that they earn points points add up they get rewards such as going out on a date letting them pick the movie that we go see letting them get pampered manicures pedicures there's plenty you can do

[co****]

Non-sexual rewards?? Treat them like a human being that you have interest in and bring that masculine quality of leadership/reassuring guidance/safety helps them grow (sick of this buzzword but brevity...), be more confident in themselves, happier and more mentally and emotionally stable as a person in their day-to-day lives. Basically, encouragement and emotional interest - the specifics depend entirely on the person. The (bdsm) dynamic is just one layer or facet to the other person, as most people aren't living in 24/7 bdsm fantasy world. 🤷

[sn****]

Those who mention silence treatment = biggest turn off ever!

[ad****]

Individual dynamics are key, some great answers above on the wider lifestyle. Some options I use depending on the scenario is points, success gain points, failure, lose points and so forth. Treats while tied up could include a favourite snack (my last sub really loved a chocolate button slipped under the foreskin), permission to orgasm or simply one of their favourite sensations (pinwheel/leather etc on thigh/stomach etc).

[My****]

The question asks for non-sexual lol! Here is what I use: (non-sexual ofc)

Punishments:
Soapy mouth - swearing 🤬
Corner time - no listening 🙉
Spanking - bad behaviour 👋
No wifi - too much Minecraft
Early bed - staying up late
Fake doms use silent treatment

Rewards:
Stay up late, night time story time, “star chart”, road trips, icecreme, trips to the zoo, aquarium and theme parks, extra gaming time, favourite food night, “reward bowl” (mystery rewards) and anything my sub desires within reason!
Have Fun! 😊

[ad****]

10 minutes ago, MyHandsYourNeck said:

The question asks for non-sexual lol! Here is what I use: (non-sexual ofc)

Punishments:
Soapy mouth - swearing 🤬
Corner time - no listening 🙉
Spanking - bad behaviour 👋
No wifi - too much Minecraft
Early bed - staying up late
Fake doms use silent treatment

Rewards:
Stay up late, night time story time, “star chart”, road trips, icecreme, trips to the zoo, aquarium and theme parks, extra gaming time, favourite food night, “reward bowl” (mystery rewards) and anything my sub desires within reason!
Have Fun! 😊

True 🤦 I got distracted halfway through answering 😞🤦🤦🤣

[Deleted Member]

I have found counting grains of rice and writing lines to be fairly effective 😁

[Deleted Member]

Cold shower, time out, lines.

[No****]

It really depends on the sub, that is why you need to have a connection so you can figure out what they like, really dislike, what is a funishment and then apply the right amount of balance in between and according to what rule has been broken/award has been earned. That is half the fun of it ;-)

[Gu****]

Thank y’all for the info and I want to assure you I have my own set of rewards and punishments for my little one (& their well taken care of) I was just very curious and wanted to see what the insight out there was in the community 😌