Are there any real people on this site?

[CuriositD]

Haven't been here long but serious question, don't want to waste my time..

[ey****]

Yes, there's lots of "real" active people - often spotable as being active in the forums and/or chat room.

Wasting time all depends on not just what you're seeking, but how you approach it.

[BigPolly]

Hello, welcome & here have this big bag of patience which you’re going to need to learn to use. If you think finding a BDSM partner is as easy as finding a vanilla partner then there is a long disappointing road ahead of you. If someone isn’t to your liking or appears ‘false’ then use that to your knowledge stack of knowing ‘what you do & don’t want’. Finding an exact match of what you believe someone should be like, how someone should be acting, finding someone with the same confidence as you is hard but it doesn’t make people false. There are many on here who ghost easily or will ask for funds towards what they are doing but there are many on here who are genuine...be it a little shy sometimes. However coming on here asking if people on this site are real will just get people’s backs up. Sit back, watch what goes on, look at people’s questions & responses & navigate your way round on that. Failing that there will always be local Munches or Fet Clubs if you want to jump straight in.

[Deleted Member]

this site is not really big. Few peoples are really active, lots of dormant profiles, few fakes, few just want ***, other just want chat and will never meet up. You won't find more than 50 in the chat room, then again its always the same ones. So your questions is legit. Be patient is your best friend here

[ey****]

here's a hot take.  I've met up with nobody from this site... but... not a second has been a waste of time for me.

being able to share my experiences and somewhat help others is good... and also there's others whose perspective and experience has further enriched my knowledge and understanding.

I could half argue that enriched knowledge and continual activity has possibly helped me with stuff I have done off-site.

[Lombardo43]

Very good question as I'm sure a majority on here would agree.There's probably a few on here who are lucky to get everything they want from a site like this.Maybe the beautiful girls or handsome guys. But it probably reflects real life where the attention goes to the few and the rest have to muddle through and keep trying. Interesting to see how many are happy with it though?

[ey****]

there is a guy around my way - his profile picture on other sites is his abs.  He often moans about not understanding why nobody really wants to do anything with him - he did the "I went to 3 munches and didn't meet anyone" trope also.

The truth is - women are just as sick of "I am good looking" messages as they are anything else where it's not obvious what can actually be offered.   He started attending events expecting this would land him a partner - and, you know, the truth is - there were people interested in potentially doing things with him, but it was his expectancy and entitlement - and disappearing while still building trust that killed the momentum.  His online moaning then also made some who were interested feel like he wasn't really interested in them, else he'd still be looking for options to socialise.

Being attractive isn't enough.  I'm not conventionally attractive by any stretch of the imagination - some things could be better - but the next event I'm going to I have two people asking if I'll play with them - but these are both people I've been socialising with and interacting with online for quite some time.   Results don't come quick or easy.

[ac****]

I seriously doubt anyone on this site is serious.   There is a bunch of trolls here that report profiles 

[Mo****]

37 minutes ago, actuallyadream said:

I seriously doubt anyone on this site is serious.   There is a bunch of trolls here that report profiles 

There are people on here serious about meeting/making relationships etc....Well unless the people I have met in real life including my Dom are figmets of my imagination and by virtue I must also be a figment of my own imagination.... it then begs the question is anything real and are we just Sims being controlled by bored alien ***agers......

[ey****]

it's just basic negging "I haven't found what I want so you're all fake. prove you're not fake" it's tiring. 

[Mo****]

36 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

it's just basic negging "I haven't found what I want so you're all fake. prove you're not fake" it's tiring. 

Ah I know but sometimes feeding the trolls is fun when the other option is housework 🤣

[ey****]

Just now, Morganna said:

Ah I know but sometimes feeding the trolls is fun when the other option is housework 🤣

haha - I don't blame you

mind.... I can confirm I don't exist 

[sm****]

It takes time to build up trust and getting to know people.  

Personally I have met several off here r/l and made many friends im in contact with on an almost daily basis.  

There is no quick fix, it takes time and effort, if your not willing to bide your time, contribute and get your name known, your not going to go anywhere fast, sorry.

Few tips, apart from it takes time:-

Try and contribute to forums, ask questions or even answer some that you may like to answer.

Chatrooms are not the be and end all, as stated it has it's core of regulars, but it does help.  There are far more who trawl through the forums.

Try logging on Thursday nights at 20:00 GMY to the "Quarantine Munch" room, a set topic discusses each week.  It only opens at that set time each week ....im not sure if there is another one at a more convenient time for our American Fet friends, but im sure someone will answer that one for me.

There is also "Place an Ad" for what your looking for option, in the hope something catches someone's eye.

I do strongly recommended above all, see any listings for convenient "Munches" in or near your area, safe non kink meeting places to meet up, chat with other likeminded people, plus it helps others start to trust you more over time.

But be patient, being too eager sends out the wrong vibes and does scare people off.

Iv'e been in the scene on and off for 340 years, teh same advice needed to be applied then as it does now.

Feel free to ask questions in any of teh forums, im sure people will be more than willing to answer questions 

Hope this helps you.

 

[Jimmmy]

Well I HAVE met up with people on this site AND I’ve had fun AND I’ve got what I’ve been wanting or looking for. But it takes time and effort. Maybe too much.

I’ll tell you no lies, it can be much easier to meet up with like minded people on some other sites I’ve used, but beware, the quality of the people you can meet may be inferior to those here. I don’t mean that in a rude way, but those on here tend to be more “niche” in their wants and needs, more selective. You’ll not find a quick shag on here. That’s not what this site is about.

I view this site as a good place to chat to others who are very seriously into “the lifestyle”, ie BDSM , and in particular the whole Dom / Sub dynamic.

I get all that but my thing is more about DOING fun stuff, rather than endlessly discussing and analysing it, and there’s never ending discussion and in depth analysis of just about everything on here!

I recently met up with someone from another site. Very little chat and discussion preceded one of the most mind blowing fun sessions I’d had in years. All within an hour or two of first contact. It’s all about the chemistry and if you just click, you just click!

Sometimes it does seem that there are very few real people on here. We are here, but you do have to look hard to find us amid the dross…

[Secondtimearound]

On 9/14/2021 at 1:33 PM, Morganna said:

Ah I know but sometimes feeding the trolls is fun when the other option is housework 🤣

I do love finding a troll. If you feed them and look after them you can play with them for weeks. Xx